Why Do I Feel Invisible to Women? (And How to Stop It)

When I understood what I am about to share with you now about women, everything changed.

I was going through life not getting attention from women, and it was like I did not even exist or they looked at me as though I just was not good-looking enough.

But when I understood this secret, everything changed, and I stepped into a new life where women actually want me and feel attracted to me.

I no longer felt invisible to women.

Instead, I was with women...all the time. 

Most guys still do not know about this, and even if you tell them, most do not even believe it is possible.

The secret is that most women go through life in "off mode," while most men go through life in "on mode."

Men look at a woman and are immediately switched on in terms of sexual attraction; they see her walk past and they are already thinking about sex or a relationship.

Most women do not react to men like that because their biological wiring is different.

A handsome man might get some reactions from average to below average-looking women, but attractive women usually will not check him out or chase him just because he is walking past.

The Truth About Female Attraction and Looks

Guys get confused because they see handsome men getting attention, and they assume women are just like men.

They think it is all about looks for women, and if they are not getting amazed reactions, they assume they are simply not attractive and that is the end of the story.

But in almost all cases, women require activation.

You actually have to activate a woman's attraction and switch it on because she is going through her day with her "attraction switch" turned off.

If you do not know how to flip that switch, you will remain background noise to her.

Activation does not happen by accident; it happens because of the way you interact with her.

For example, nervous eye contact where you immediately look away is not going to activate her attraction.

However, making confident eye contact without being intimidated is a powerful way to start the activation process.

How to Activate a Woman's Attraction

There are specific things that switch a woman's attraction on, and there are things that keep it switched off.

Being nervous, hesitant, and self-doubting as you talk to her will keep her in off mode.

On the other hand, being confident and charming or using playfully challenging humor will activate her feelings for you.

A typical nice guy tries to play it safe and stay on his best behavior to be liked, but that does not trigger a sexual response.

A man who is assertive or a guy who is chill but adds in a sexual vibe is much more effective at flipping that switch.

You might have seen a guy who is confident and chill, and when he talks to women, the vibe is just "on" between them.

He has activated her attraction, while another guy being just as chill but without that sexual vibe gets nowhere.

Guys who do not understand this think there is just some mystery about why women like that guy, but it is actually a specific behavioral trigger.

Stop Being a Background Character

Most guys walk through life hoping women will notice them, or they talk to women in a neutral, friendly way.

When women don't react with amazement, the guy assumes he is not good-looking enough, but he just failed to activate her.

You can think about women like instant noodles where you just have to add hot water; with women, you have to add sparks of attraction when you interact with her.

If you just walk past her acting "cool" while looking at your phone, nothing is going to happen because she is in off mode.

She is not going to stop you and ask for your number just because you have a cool jacket or a good haircut.

While there are some women who go through life in "on mode" and are always thinking about sex, most women need you to flip the switch.

I experienced this hundreds of times before settling down, and it is something the men in my community experience every day.

One member who was a virgin until 23 recently started sleeping with four different women after learning how to properly activate attraction.

He stopped hoping women would notice his "cool" clothes and started triggering the biological response that makes them want him.

Why Success and Muscles Aren't Enough

Many guys think that if they just become more successful or build more muscle, women will start switching on all around them.

While that might get some attention from average-looking women, attractive women are still different.

Attractive women usually know they are attractive, and they want to see if a man feels like he is good enough for them.

If they get with a guy who feels inferior, he will likely become clingy, insecure, or overprotective, which is a massive turn off.

Because of this, attractive women usually will not make it obvious that they like a guy, even when they do.

If a guy relies on his success or his muscles to do the work, he will back out of the interaction when she does not give him instant reassurance.

But if you have the confidence to stick with it and activate her attraction, her eyes will light up and she will start flirting back.

Success and fitness are great advantages, but they are not a substitute for the ability to handle an interaction with a beautiful woman.

Taking the Lead to Get Results

You do not need to be a perfect expert to get results; you just need to know how to trigger attraction in a few different ways.

If you can activate her attraction using humor, flirting, or being assertive, and then have the confidence to move things forward, you have got yourself a girl.

Some guys in my community have picked up women in bars, yoga classes, beaches, and cafes just by using these simple triggers.

If you do not activate her, you are just a background character in her life that she hardly even notices.

But when you flip that switch, you become the main character that she is focused on and interested in.

She goes from not noticing you to giggling, touching you, and trying to keep the conversation going because she is finally "on."

Discover how to switch a woman's attraction on and make her want you sexually.