What Triggers Female Attraction? 7 Examples

While physical appearance can spark initial interest, a woman’s long-term attraction is primarily triggered by non-physical traits. When you display the right emotional signals, a woman will actually begin to see your physical appearance in a more positive, "sexier" light.

Here are the key traits that trigger that internal "switch" in women:

1. Confidence vs. Insecurity

Confidence is the ultimate sign of emotional strength. Insecurity, on the other hand, signals emotional weakness. Women are biologically wired to be drawn to emotional strength and repelled by emotional weakness.

2. Flirting vs. Neutrality

Flirting is a high-level form of emotional intelligence. It creates sexual tension by playfully hinting at sexual or romantic interest without being overly serious or desperate.

• Responsive Desire: Most women don't experience spontaneous sexual urges the way men do. They require a man to "flick the switch" through flirting to get them in the mood. If you meet a woman who has responsive desire and you only talk to her in a neutral way, she will usually only see you as a friend. So, it's essential to know how to flirt with women. 

• The "Neutral" Trap: If you are only neutral and friendly, the spark will also eventually die in a committed relationship.

3. Assertiveness vs. Passivity

Women are generally more passive in the dating phase and prefer to follow a man’s lead. This is why men are traditionally expected to:

• Start the conversation.

• Ask for the phone number.

• Suggest a time and location for the meetup.

• Make the first move for a kiss.

Calm Assertiveness: You don’t need to be aggressive to be assertive. If a waiter gives you a bad table, handle it with tact and calm assertiveness. She wants to see that you won't be pushed around.

4. Emotional Independence vs. Dependence

Emotional dependence (neediness) means your mood is dictated by her behavior. If she seems interested, you feel good; if she pulls away, you crumble.

Emotional independence means you feel high-value regardless of how she, or any woman, reacts to you. This "something about him" quality is what women find deeply appealing.

5. Self-Respect vs. Being a Pushover

A man who lacks self-respect will change his opinions just to agree with a woman. He will put up with bad behavior just to "get a chance." This is seen as weak and needy.

6. High Status vs. Low Status Behavior

• Low Status: Seeking her approval for everything you say or seeing her as "higher value" than you.

• High Status: A mindset where you feel "good enough" to mingle with anyone. You don't need to achieve massive success first; it's about how you carry yourself now.

7. Untamed vs. Tamed Energy

• Tamed Energy: Being uptight, hesitant, overthinking and restricted by societal "rules" or past rejections.

• Untamed Energy: A "don't give an F" vibe. It’s not about being rude; it's about not being concerned with what others think of you, to the point where you can truly be real. It doesn't mean you aren't polite, or don't have manners when necessary. Instead, it's more about untamed your energy is. Women sense that and it triggers their attraction because it takes a lot of confidence and social intelligence to do it. 

Master the Art of Attraction

I have identified 124 non-physical traits that trigger attraction. By mastering just the first few, you can stop hoping women like you and start taking control of your dating life.

To learn exactly what to say and do to embody these traits, check out my Attraction Mastery video lesson series.