What She Thinks if You Wait Too Long to Make a Move
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
Have you ever waited a bit too long to make a move on a woman and she then lost interest?
That can mean you are waiting too long to initiate a kiss, or to ask for her phone number, to ask out on a date, to initiate a hug, or to initiate sex, and the woman then loses interest.
So, number one, what are women thinking when you wait too long to make a move?
Number two, can you fix it if you have waited too long to make a move? Can you recover from that?
Number three, how do you avoid waiting too long, hesitating, and how do you actually have the confidence to make a move when you see a great opportunity in front of you?
So, you don't miss out on opportunities that you have when you are single, or when in a relationship, you do not cause a disconnection between you and your woman because you are hesitating all the time.
The first thing a woman may think if you wait too long to make a move is that you are not interested in her enough to do it.
A woman really wants to be desired by a man who is making her feel attracted.
That is her ultimate experience where she is interacting with a man and he is able to make her feel attraction and he is very attracted to her too.
There is that mutual attraction.
It is exciting, it is enjoyable, they get into a relationship and it feels amazing.
So if she is interacting with a guy who is not making a move but is continuing to talk to her, she can sometimes assume that maybe he is just not that attracted to her or interested in her, to feel motivated to then make the move.
Maybe he kind of likes her or he kind of thinks that she is attractive or maybe he does not like some things about her physical appearance and therefore he is holding back.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, a woman may think that you are putting her on a pedestal.
She may think that you are treating her as an unattainable woman or a woman who is perfect, which frustrates her because she knows that she is not unattainable and she knows that she is not perfect.
Women are able to sense this.
They have seen it a lot from guys where they will interact with a guy and he will seem to be looking at her as some unattainable object or amazing special woman that would never want to be with anyone, let alone him.
“Oh jeez, you want to be with me? Oh no way, no way she would ever want to be with me. I have got to really be careful when I am interacting with her because she is so perfect and she knows that, and if I say anything wrong she is going to instantly lose interest in me and I am going to screw up my chances with her.”
So he looks at her as this amazing, unattainable woma, and she is annoyed by that because she wants to be in love.
She wants to find herself a lover, boyfriend, or husband.
She wants something to happen.
She does not want to just be talking to a guy.
She wants the next level and she is interacting with him, which is already a good enough sign that she is interested.
But he is not seeing that.
He is seeing it as, “Well, she is just way too good for me.”
So he waits and waits and waits and she then realizes, okay, he is just putting her on a pedestal.
He thinks that she is unattainable and he cannot get with her.
So fine—she loses interest.
Another thing that a woman may think about you if you wait too long to make a move is that you do not know how to build attraction and move things forward with a woman.
According to what is known of human history, it has always been the man who has to court the woman.
He has to go and get the woman.
He has to charm her or he has to ask her father for her hand in marriage.
In modern times, he needs to walk up and talk to her and make her feel attracted and move things forward.
The woman does not have to go around doing that—it is just the way that it is.
Some guys grow up and they are taught by their brothers or uncles or father how to build attraction and move things forward with a woman.
Other guys just know it instinctively—they are guys that are naturally good with women.
The rest of the male population is just like, “Well what the heck do I do?”
If they get themselves a girlfriend, it is almost always a case of them just fumbling their way into it.
“I do not know how that happened, but she said yes and we went on a date and now we are dating.”
So the guy does not know what he is doing—he is just fumbling his way through it.
But he still gets a result because the reality is that most women are way easier to attract and pick up than they make themselves out to be and than the majority of men realize.
Unfortunately, the majority of men mistakenly assume that all women are extremely picky and will harshly or rudely reject them if they attempt to talk to them or ask them out.
So a lot of those guys will miss out on perfectly good opportunities to be with a woman who likes them because they either assume that she will harshly reject them if they ask her out or move in for a kiss, or the guy just does not really know what to say or do to make a woman feel attracted and move things forward.
He hesitates and as a result, he misses out on his opportunity to be with her.
The thing is, as a man, you do actually need to know how to build attraction inside of a woman and then move things forward.
She does not have to do anything—she never has had to do anything.
Women have always been the ones who have been courted and so forth.
You can try to fumble your way into a relationship with a woman, but what often happens then for a guy is that he is in the relationship and he has no idea why the woman is with him and how he is actually going to make her feel attracted.
When she starts testing him and losing interest in him, he becomes insecure, he becomes annoyed or angry, or he becomes upset and sensitive.
The woman loses even more attraction for him and then she dumps him.
He is back to square one, trying to fumble his way into a relationship with a woman, having no idea how to build attraction inside of a woman and then move things forward at will, on purpose, whenever he wants.
He is basically just hoping to get lucky.
The fourth thing that a woman may think about you if you wait too long to make a move is that you are more interested in yourself than her.
You are more interested in how you are perceived by her than in making her feel like a woman, sweeping her off her feet and into the bedroom.
You may have never done this, but some guys go on dates with women and they are essentially trying to show the woman how cool of a guy they are.
“I am just so cool and I have got all these things about me that I have done in my life and this you might find interesting,” and he is trying to tell her all these things and it is all about him.
He is basically putting on a show to hopefully impress the woman.
What a woman really wants is a man who is able to make her feel attracted in the interaction and make her feel like the special one.
She is the woman—she is the pretty little thing.
She is the one who is going to be spun around and he is going to be looking at her physical appearance.
He is not going to get her to spin him around and, “Oh check out my butt and check out my legs,” and so forth.
It is not that dynamic.
The woman is the pretty one.
The woman is the one to look at.
The woman is the special little thing.
That does not mean that you are nothing.
Instead, you are the man that she respects and looks up to.
You are the man she cuddles into.
You are the man who makes her feel like a girly woman around you, rather than a guy who just makes a woman feel like he is equal, like, “We are just friends,” or a guy who takes on a more feminine role and feels like, “Well I need to be the center of attention. I need you to really focus on me and like, you know, look at my physical appearance. Look at my shirt. Look how I have done my hair. Look at this. Look at me. Am I a pretty boy?”
If a woman gets that sense, then it is like, “Well hang on a second, who is going to be the woman in the relationship? Is this guy going to be spending an hour or two in the mirror like plucking at his hair and putting moisturizer on and making sure that he looks perfect?”
How is that going to make her feel, then, as the woman?
What it usually does for a lot of women is that it causes them to go into their masculine and they struggle to be in their feminine—of being that girly, warm, delicate woman—because the man seems quite delicate and sensitive and emotional and worried about things like a woman.
Now, that does not mean a man cannot take care of his physical appearance.
A man can do his hair.
A man can do this or that.
Essentially though, the man should not be the one worrying about his physical appearance.
That is up to the woman—she is the pretty little thing.
The irony is that if you do not need a woman to reassure you of how good you look or make you feel like the center of attention, then she will give you that because you will be displaying attractive traits such as confidence and emotional independence.
When you are able to display those sorts of traits as a man, a woman will literally devote herself to you and the relationship and feel amazing about it.
Yet if you actually need a woman to be reassuring of how good you look or make you feel like the center of attention, then she will not want to give that to you because you will be displaying unattractive traits such as insecurity and emotional dependence.
Some guys might think that that is unfair, yet a guy like that often just does not understand that one of the main roles of a woman in a man’s life is to make him stronger by not supporting and encouraging insecurity, and instead supporting and encouraging confidence and emotional strength.
The less you worry about yourself when you are interacting with a woman and the more you allow your focus to go on her and making her feel attracted and feel like a pretty little woman around you, the more she is actually going to feel attracted to you.
You do not actually have to go into an interaction or a date with a woman and try to put on a show to hopefully get her to be super impressed by how cool you are or the things that you have achieved in life.
Instead, if you can actually make a woman feel like a real woman, then in almost all cases, she will start falling for you.
She will want you and she will be hoping that you make a move.
Another thing that a woman may think about you if you take too long to make a move is that you lack confidence.
She may simply think that the guy does not have enough confidence to make a move, he is intimidated by her, he is not going to be the sort of guy that she can look up to and respect in a relationship.
He is going to be quite afraid, and how is she then going to feel during sex if he lacks confidence?
How is she going to feel around other people when they are in social environments if he really lacks a lot of confidence?
Is he the sort of guy who is going to get picked on in social environments?
Is he the sort of guy who is going to have emotional breakdowns?
Is he the sort of guy that is going to need her to be patting him on the back all the time and basically mothering him and so on?
Women do not want to have that sort of experience.
They want to have a man who is strong emotionally.
Another thing she may think is that the dynamic between you and her does not create enough of a sexual spark.
For guys hesitating and waiting too long to make a move, a woman can assume that there just is not enough of a spark between him and her for that kind of thing to happen.
As a result, she can then assume that a relationship just would not work out or it just would not be enjoyable sexually, because it might feel a bit awkward or weird to have sex with each other when there is not much of a sexual spark.
All a woman really wants is to be able to see that you and her are both feeling attracted to each other and you then have the confidence to make a move and get to kissing, sex, or a relationship.
Then both of you can decide what to do from there.
Finally, she may think that you are stuck in your head.
Women instinctively know that a man should have the confidence to move things to the next level with a woman.
It is the man’s traditional role—it has always been that way and it will continue on that way because women are attracted to certain behaviors and traits in men that have never changed.
So if a guy is hesitating and waiting too long to take on his role as a man, a woman can assume that he is stuck in his head, worrying too much and cannot build up the courage to be the man and make a move.
That was the first part in terms of what women think.
The second part is: Can you recover from it?
That really depends on your ability to make her feel attracted and then make a move.
What guys often do when they have waited too long to make a move is that they will remain stuck in that hesitation and indecision and waiting and hoping that she gives them a signal.
Or they will feel like they are just not worthy of her now, she is not going to give them a chance, they just cannot go over and interact with her now and recover the situation by being attractive in their behavior.
They just cannot do that.
“She has made a final decision now and there is no way that she is going to feel attracted to me anymore.”
Alternatively, some guys will go ahead and apologize to the woman for what they have done, rather than just getting on with it like everything is fine between him and her and just making her feel attracted and then doing what I am about to tell you, which is the third part of this video.
What is the solution?
The solution is very simple with women, and that is:
1. Display attractive traits (e.g. confidence, flirting, assertiveness, humor, social intelligence).
2. Shoot your shot.
You do not need to make it any more complicated than that.
That is all you need to do with women.
There are so many attractive traits that you can display to make a woman feel attracted to you.
Two very obvious ones are confidence and humor.
Pretty much every guy knows that women are attracted to confident men and men who can make them laugh.
What a lot of men do not realize is that you can attract women with so many other traits and you do not even have to use humor if you do not want to.
Using the type of humor that I teach, which is playfully challenging humor, instantly makes women feel attracted.
You can also make women feel attracted by displaying authenticity around her, and that is something that a lot of guys have no trouble with when they are interacting with a woman that they are not attracted to or interested in.
But when it is a woman that they are attracted to, they suddenly feel the pressure and it is like, “Well I have got to try to impress this woman here.”
The guy feels the need to be nicer than he normally is, more polite, to listen more, to be more sensitive, to be more careful, and so on.
He is not being his authentic self around her.
He does not feel comfortable expressing who he really is because he is afraid of being judged by her.
He is afraid of saying the wrong thing around her.
That instantly turns the woman off because she senses that the guy is not being real around her.
He is afraid.
He is intimidated.
Or he might be very nice when he is interacting with her, but she senses that there is something off about him.
“Why is everything just so positive and nice. Why is he just being agreeable with whatever I am saying? Why is he giving me so many compliments during the interaction? Why does he seem to have a smile on his face all the time, or just a happy-go-lucky sort of look?”
If she is an attractive woman, she will have seen that from a lot of guys ever since she became a woman.
She will have seen that guys tend to put on a bit of an act around her—being nicer than they usually are or want to be.
Or a guy will put on an act of being Mr. Cool and aloof and act like he doesn't care.
He thinks that women are going to be like, “Oh wow, you are just so aloof and you are so disinterested. I want to chase you now. I want to try to be with you.”
Then women do not do that and he thinks, “Well I need to build more muscle. I need to get a better haircut. I need to wear better clothes,” and so forth.
He is essentially not understanding that in almost all cases, a woman is not going to chase at that point.
In almost all cases, a woman will chase after you have had sex with her or at least kissed her.
Prior to that, it is almost always the man who has to court the woman—that was the old way of saying it.
Now it is: you have got to be able to pick up the woman or you have got to attract her and move things forward—whatever you want to call it.
The man has to make something happen.
He has got to be active rather than passive.
He cannot just be like a woman and be passive and just think that women are going to do everything for him.
“Look at me, I have put so much effort into my physical appearance. Aren’t I amazing? Now make me the pretty one. Chase me and run after me and take me out on dates,” and so forth.
You can say that to a woman as a joke, of course, when you are talking to her and she compliments you.
You can say something like, “Thanks for the compliment, but I just want to point out that I am not that easy, okay. If you really want to get somewhere with me, you are going to have to wine and dine me. And I do not hold hands until at least the third date, just to make things clear.”
If a man says something like that as a joke, then great—the woman will laugh.
She will find it attractive that he is confident and that he has the courage and the social intelligence to be able to come up with something like that and say it and pretend to be that arrogant.
It is funny for the woman and it challenges her in the moment—great.
But if a guy honestly thinks, “Hey, well I have done really well in my career and I wear great clothes and I have been going to the gym and I am a disciplined guy and I have got good intentions—so if women cannot see how amazing I am and come and talk to me and ask me out, then they can go and get stuffed. I am just going to do my own thing,” then he is just not understanding that men and women are different.
It has always been the man who courts women.
Women are not going to change their biology and the way that their attraction works and suddenly become the sexual pursuers.
It has been proven that men are the ones who have a larger area in their brain devoted to sexual pursuit compared to women.
It is not the woman’s role to be chasing men and trying to get sex.
However, if you have attracted the woman and then you shoot your shot and you kiss her and have sex with her, then she is going to be more inclined to chase.
If you are making her feel a lot of attraction and you are not trying to get a relationship with her and hopefully get her to give you a chance to be her boyfriend, if she gets a sense that now she has to turn on her charms to get you into a relationship, then she is the one who starts to chase.
It is actually a better experience for her, too.
It is exciting for her.
It is that thrill of the chase, where she is hopefully going to get to be in a relationship with you.
She is hopefully going to get you to commit to her and you then give her a chance to be in a committed relationship with you.
You take on that position of power and she has to pursue and make that happen, otherwise she is not going to get a relationship with you because you can easily attract another woman.
She knows that if you know how to make women feel attracted.
But if you are the sort of guy who just fumbles his way into relationships—like, “Oh, I asked for her phone number and she said yes”—and you really do not know how to make women feel attracted, then she is most likely going to have the power in the relationship.
She is most likely going to be able to push your buttons and make you feel insecure, make you feel like you need her and that you are the lucky one getting into a relationship with her.
If you come across in that way, she will actually lose respect and attraction for you and it will almost always end in a breakup.
The best position to be in as a man, which actually feels better for the woman too, is when she is trying to get you into a relationship, where she feels like she is the lucky one to be in a relationship with you.
That does not mean you do not respect your woman, you do not love her, and you do not appreciate her or like being in a relationship with her.
Of course.
But it is either going to be you or her who is in the position of trying to get the relationship to that commitment point of, “Yes, we really are boyfriend and girlfriend,” or “Yes, we are going to get engaged,” and so forth.
It is either going to be you or her who is really aiming for that and hoping to get that.
It is better for the woman if she is in that position.
It does not mean you do not love her, respect her, treat her well, but it is either going to be you or her who is in that power position in terms of the one who the other is trying to get to commit.
You are not doing a bad thing by putting yourself in the position where the woman is trying to get you to commit.
It actually feels better for her.
And of course, it feels better for you.
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