She Doesn't Feel a Spark: The Nice Guy Dilemma

There is a specific type of guy that women sleep with, but they do not even like for real.

It happens every day all over the world, and it literally occurs millions of times per day.

When I explain this to you, you will understand more about how women operate, and how you can get to kissing and sex even if you are not perfect.

The type of man that women sleep with but do not like for real is the guy that you may have heard finishes last with women.

If you are thinking of a nice guy, then you are thinking right, because nice guys often provide the physical experience without the emotional connection.

You may have heard the phrase, "Nice guys finish last with women," and while many nice guys never even get to the point of sex, some actually do.

However, even when a nice guy gets to the bedroom, she often walks away saying she doesn't feel a spark.

But why do women sleep with them if there is no spark, and why does this happen all the time?

If you are a nice guy watching this, you may have also experienced it yourself, where a woman will sleep with you even though you are being too nice.

There are certain reasons why this happens, and it gives you great insight into the deep reality of how women operate.

The Leadership Factor

Reason number one is that women respond positively to the leadership of men, including nice men.

Even if a guy is nice and the woman does not really like nice guys, she will often respond to a man who takes the lead.

She would rather be with what I refer to as a good guy with edge, which is a man who is a decent person, but has some balls.

A good guy with edge is similar to a nice guy, but he has some edge to him, and he is good at leading interactions forward.

He might use playfully challenging humor at times, or he may add in a sexual vibe, but he is always assertive in his movements.

However, if a guy is just being nice and then attempts to lead, most women just go along with it because they respond to the act of leadership.

Most women are passive, and they just go along with most of the things that men do, including asking for a phone number or moving in for a kiss.

They like when men take the lead, and that is one of the main reasons why nice guys still get laid, even when the woman is not truly into them.

Convenience and the Value Exchange

A second reason why a nice guy will still get laid is that women sometimes go with what is easy in the moment.

He is in front of her, he seems to like her, and she might just be in the mood for sex, even if she is not feeling a deep connection.

It does not mean that she is actually attracted to him in the way that she really wants to be, but she goes along with it because it is convenient.

Another reason is that she does not always have to feel an intense attraction to become open to sleeping with a guy.

Some women get with guys that they are not really that attracted to, just like some guys get with women they are not truly into.

For most pretty women and attractive women, they want to feel a strong enough attraction where it feels like a fair value exchange.

She is pretty and attractive, so she has value, but if a guy is just being nice, it does not feel like a fair exchange for her attractiveness.

What she really wants is to feel attracted to things like untamed energy, real confidence, and secure masculinity.

She wants a man who is not afraid to be a man, and one who is comfortable with his own sexual desire and presence.

Rebounds and the Need for Validation

Another reason a woman will have sex with a nice guy, even though she does not like him, is that she wants to feel desired.

If the man she actually has a crush on is not interested in her, she may start to question her own desirability as a woman.

She might sleep with a nice guy who really likes her just to get a boost in confidence, and to feel reassured that she is wanted by men.

In many cases, the nice guy is the rebound guy after she has been broken up with by a man she truly loved.

She is looking for someone to help her feel better, and a nice guy is perfect for appreciating her and treating her really well.

The nice guy feels like he has won the lottery, but emotionally, she is not really there with him.

Eventually, the woman will break it off and say she does not feel a spark with him, which is her way of saying she was never truly attracted.

The Power of Control

Sometimes a woman sleeps with a nice guy because she feels completely in control of the situation.

With a nice guy, she knows that she holds the power, and she can see that he clearly wants her more than she wants him.

She feels safe allowing things to happen without risking getting her heart broken, because she knows he will not leave her.

Unfortunately, some women will do that for a long-term relationship or even a marriage, but she will never truly respect or love him.

She might have been in a relationship where the man had way too much power, and she was always trying to win his affection.

To avoid that pain again, she chooses a relationship where she has the power, but she won't ever truly feel that spark of attraction.

Those relationships usually end in a breakup, with the woman breaking it up and the nice guy being completely heartbroken and confused.

He could have changed things by developing what I refer to as edge, but in most cases, the guy does not even know he is missing it.

Even an average-looking man can have massive success if he understands how to trigger attraction properly.

A man needs to look at a woman with desire, and he needs to treat her like a sexual object with confidence.

Many nice guys feel like that might be rude or disrespectful, but looking at her with desire is actually what turns a woman on.

Breaking the Nice Guy Cycle

A lot of guys go through life thinking that they need to be perfect in order to be accepted or loved by a woman.

They think they need to be her exact type and tick all of her boxes, but many women are open to seeing how things go if the lead is strong.

If you are able to make them feel sparks of attraction, rather than just being nice, they will give you a chance at a real relationship.

You can be a nice guy who is also confident, or a nice guy who knows how to flirt and be assertive when the time is right.

If a guy is good-looking and just nice, he might get the girl initially, but he will not keep her without that masculine edge.

The more non-physical attractive traits you display, the more women will truly like you and want to stay with you long term.

You do not have to be a bad boy to get results, but you must move away from the tamed energy that most nice guys project.

When you are hesitant and timid, the woman gets a sense that you are afraid to say what you want to say to her.

You need to be real and present in the moment, and you should not be tamed by the beauty of the woman who is in front of you.

Once you learn how to combine being a good guy with having real edge, your results with women will change for the better.

You will no longer be the guy she sleeps with but doesn't like, and instead, you will be the man she is proud to call her boyfriend.

I have helped thousands of men overcome these issues, and find the fulfilling relationship they have always wanted.

If you are tired of being the nice guy who gets sex but no respect, then it is time to change your approach.

The first step to changing your results is understanding the specific traits that actually trigger attraction in a woman's mind.

You deserve to be with a woman who respects you and feels a deep, lasting spark for the man you are.

Take the lead in your own dating life today, and start becoming the man you were truly meant to be.

If you are ready to stop being the rebound, and start being the man she can't live without, then you need to master these secrets.

Become the man that women respect, desire and choose for the long term by developing your masculine edge.

Don't play it safe and just be nice, or play it cool by being neutral. 

Don't play it. 

Just start being more masculine and women will want you. 

They'll see you as a good guy with edge, which is what they're looking for sexually and romantically.

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