Never Run Out of Things to Say to a Woman: The Real Secret to Conversation Flow

The main reason you run out of things to say when you are talking to women that you like is not because you do not know how to speak.

You can speak perfectly fine when you are talking to a friend, and you can keep a conversation going and keep it interesting.

You do not feel like you run out of things to say in those moments.

If the conversation goes a bit quiet, you start talking about something else, and you do not panic.

But when it comes to women that you find attractive, girls that you really like, suddenly you run out of things to say.

It is not because you are broken and you do not know how to speak.

Instead, it is because you do not have enough confidence around women that you find attractive.

That is what the real problem is.

What happens is that your brain gets clogged up with thoughts based on worries and doubts.

You are worried that if you say something she doesn't like, she will lose interest in you.

You doubt that she actually likes you and that what you are saying is good-looking or interesting enough.

Because of that, you do not have much mental space left to just flow and say what you want to say.

Instead, because you are doubting yourself around the woman, you stop yourself from saying certain things and you censor yourself.

You end up giving her a different impression of who you are, and she notices that you are struggling and starting to feel insecure.

Confident vs Insecure Conversation Examples

Let's look at a couple of examples to help you understand the difference between the confident version and the insecure version.

Imagine you have been lifting weights in the gym three times a week for about a year.

A woman says, "You look like you work out."

The confident guy says, "Yeah, a few times a week. I enjoy it. You look great yourself. Do you work out or?"

He is being confident and charming by showing some interest in her, and he is keeping the conversation going by asking her a question.

Many women also get lost for words at times, so adding a question helps her into the conversation.

The insecure version says, "Oh, yeah, kind of. Not much, though. I mean, I probably should do more. I'm nowhere near where I want to be yet."

She then sees that he does not feel confident about how he looks, and she loses attraction because he is demonstrating insecurity.

She also does not know what to say after he has said that, other than take pity on him.

Women are not attracted to a dynamic where they have to show pity to a guy and pat him on the back.

Handling a Challenge to Your Taste

The next example is where a woman questions your taste in music.

The woman says, "You listen to that band? They're kind of old school."

The confident guy says, "Yeah, I like their sound. It's great music. How about yourself? Who do you listen to these days?"

He owns his taste in music in a confident way, which shows her that he does not need her to approve of what he likes.

Now, the insecure version says, "Yeah, I know. I probably should listen to newer stuff. I mean, everyone says that to me."

She then senses that he is unsure about his own taste and seems willing to change it just to fit in.

He then notices that she seems put off, his head fills with worry, and he feels like he is running out of things to say.

But what is really happening is that he does not feel confident enough around her to let the conversation land.

When some guys run out of things to say, they rush to ask about her job or what she studies or they talk about the weather.

The woman can sense that he is scrambling because he is worried that the silence is going to cause her to lose interest.

The Window of Opportunity

Some guys say, "I'm fine once I get to know the woman," or, "I'm fine once I have warmed up."

The problem with that is if you come across a woman that you like, you do not always have the opportunity to spend a lot of time with her.

In many cases, you have a window of opportunity that is open for a bit and then starts to close.

If she senses that you are insecure and you feel intimidated by her, she will usually feel like you are not on her level.

The better way to live life as a man is to sort out your confidence issues rather than hoping women will take pity on you.

The women that you are most attracted to usually want a guy who is at least as confident as them.

It does not feel very good for you as a man to go through life feeling insecure around women that you find attractive.

I can speak from personal experience about how it used to feel when I was nervous and my brain would clog up with doubts.

When I began to fix the issue of feeling insecure and self-doubting, suddenly it was easier to keep the conversation going.

Confidence Is What Makes Your Words Work

When a confident guy says something versus an insecure guy, it feels completely different to the woman.

You may have seen a guy who is confident say something and people love it, yet an insecure guy says the same thing and people are unimpressed.

In terms of women, what you say as a confident guy carries a different weight.

If you talk about an achievement and you are insecure, you are hoping it will impress her, and she will pick up on that neediness.

If you are confident and you talk about it, you are just stating a fact, and she will sense that you are not seeking her validation.

At Master Attraction, I teach men how to feel worthy around women that they find attractive so you can genuinely feel confident rather than putting on an act.

If a guy puts on an act of trying to be confident, women can easily kill that act just by testing him.

If he is putting on an act and the woman pretends to lose interest, and he starts to panic, then she knows it is just a fake act.

Panicking on the inside is not a fun way to live your life as a man.

Confidence in Relationships

This issue also affects men in relationships.

A guy might feel confident initially if the woman is showing a lot of interest, but if she starts to pull back, he may start to crumble.

He might become emotionally sensitive or needy, and she then feels less attracted and loses respect for him.

It is not a good thing to go through your life with no confidence in your attractiveness to women.

It is easy for most guys to feel confident around women that they are not attracted to, but those are the women that you do not want to be with.

When you are truly confident and you feel valuable, your brain is not clogged up with doubts.

You have more mental space available to just flow and say what you want to say.

If there is a silence in the conversation, you do not worry because you are confident in your value.

Fixing the Problem at the Root

If you are the sort of guy who runs out of things to say when talking to women, focus on fixing your confidence first.

It does not matter how many examples you have of what to say if you do not feel confident, because you will overthink those examples.

You will worry that the ideas are not good enough and you will say them in an insecure way.

If you say those same things in a confident way, she will feel so much more attracted to you.

Start with the most important trait first, which is confidence, and then build from there.

If you avoid working on your confidence and just focus on scripts, you will continue to struggle with women you find attractive.

You have to get yourself ready to talk to a woman you actually want to be with.

Take a moment to evaluate your own level of secure masculinity and how it affects your presence in the room.

I would love to show you how to build an unshakeable foundation of confidence, so your conversations flow naturally every single time you talk to a woman.

The place to discover my best secrets is in Attraction Mastery. 

See you in the first lesson!