Male vs Female Attraction: Why Women Fall in Love With Their Ears

What women find attractive in men makes zero sense to most men.

On one hand, you hear that women place less importance on physical appearance than men do.

But when you look at how women behave in real life, it doesn't seem to be the case.

You see women looking at a handsome man, and they seem a lot more excited interacting with him than with an average-looking guy.

Most men have a niggling thought in their mind that something isn't the same about a woman’s attraction, but they can't quite put their finger on it.

I figured out an easy way to explain it that will completely change the way you look at female attraction from now on.

Before I share that, I want to give you a quote from the famous actress Zsa Zsa Gabor.

She once said that men fall in love with their eyes because they like what they see, while women fall in love with their ears because they like what they hear.

The Difference Between Seeing and Sensing

For a man, attraction is mostly about what he sees, not what he senses.

For a woman, attraction is mostly about what she senses, not what she sees.

That is what Zsa Zsa Gabor was trying to say when she mentioned "ears."

She meant that women need to interact with a guy and get a sense for who he is before they start to fall in love.

Most men can immediately begin to fall for a woman based on how she looks, which is why women wear makeup and men do not.

Women try to make themselves look as perfect as possible, because they know that for men, attraction is driven by the eyes.

A woman’s lips or clear skin can literally make a man feel attracted to her instantly.

If women felt attraction in the same way, then men would be wearing foundation to make their faces look as beautiful as possible.

Why Handsome Men Still Struggle

Women do react to handsome men in a different way than average-looking men, but they can feel even more attracted to things that cannot be seen.

You can only sense a man’s confidence, his social intelligence, and his assertiveness.

You can see his body language, but the woman is sensing his internal state based on how he reacts to the world.

This is why a man can look at a woman and instantly say "yes," but a woman needs to interact first.

It confuses men because they see handsome men getting attention and assume all women are fixated only on looks.

However, if a man is handsome but insecure and doubts his value around attractive women, their attraction will usually switch off.

They are not looking for a man who is weaker than them emotionally.

Handsome men who lack this "sense" often end up being hit on only by less attractive women who will put up with their insecurity.

The Importance of Social and Emotional Intelligence

Social intelligence is about understanding what actually attracts women.

A handsome man might be very nice and think he needs to treat a woman like a princess to get a chance.

She then senses that he is naive, and she realizes he doesn't understand that women actually want to feel like they need to win a man over.

When a guy feels like a woman is "letting" him kiss her or "letting" him hold her hand, he is in a weak position.

A woman wants to feel so attracted that she "gets" to be touched by him, which is a much better feeling for her.

Emotional intelligence is also vital, such as when a woman tests a man's resolve or confidence.

If he cannot handle a clever comeback or becomes emotionally sensitive, she knows he lacks the strength she is looking for.

Biological Drivers of Attraction

At a fundamental level, a man's attraction is wired toward health, youth, and fertility.

Men can father children well into their 70s or 80s, but women have a much smaller window of fertility.

This is why men are naturally wired to find youthful-looking, fertile women attractive.

For a woman, her system is driving her to find a man who can handle himself in the world and handle a relationship with her.

This is why a woman might choose a successful older man, as he can support her and any children they might have.

What your system of attraction is driving you to find in a woman is fundamentally different than what her system is looking for in you.

Why Making a Woman Laugh Works

Marilyn Monroe once said, "If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything."

Why didn't she say, "If you are handsome enough, you can make a girl do anything?"

It is because laughter is something she senses; it proves you have confidence, social intelligence, and a lack of desperation.

When you make a woman laugh, you are triggering a non-physical attraction that is often more powerful than a man’s looks.

If an average-looking guy knows how to make a woman feel attracted in these non-physical ways, she will feel genuine love and respect for him.

She might still look at a handsome man and recognize he is good-looking, but she won't leave her man if he is providing the right "sense."

Men throughout history have had pretty women while being average-looking, because they understood this secret.

Real World Evidence

I am a personal example of this, as a guy who is about average-looking and 5'9 with a high hairline.

I was able to enjoy my choice of women for over 10 years before settling down because I figured out how to project what women sense.

I have members in my community who are 5'3 or 5'8 and are getting results with beautiful women every day.

They are making women feel genuine attraction despite not being "male models."

When a woman feels attracted to your non-physical traits, she actually starts to see your physical appearance in a more positive light.

She might even start calling you handsome or sexy, while other men wonder what she sees in you.

It is because her eyes work differently than yours; her attraction is an internal response to your masculine energy.

If you do not understand this, women will remain a mystery to you for your entire life.

Once you master the traits that women sense, you will realize that you have a massive advantage over men who only rely on their looks.

Take the lead in your dating life by focusing on the traits that actually move the needle for women.

You don't need to change your face or your height to become the man that women truly desire.

Focus on building your confidence and your masculine edge, and the women will naturally follow.

Stop worrying about your reflection and start focusing on the energy you project when you walk into a room.

Become the man who understands the hidden language of female attraction.

I can show you exactly how to trigger these responses so you never have to wonder "why" ever again.

Join the ranks of men who have cracked the code and are enjoying the relationships they deserve.

Don't wait for luck to find you; create your own success by mastering what women truly want.

Take control of your romantic future and start seeing the results you’ve been missing.

Master the art of non-physical attraction and watch your dating life transform.

I look forward to helping you reach the next level with women.

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