How to Use the 80/20 Rule With Dating (Get Laid, Get a Girlfriend EASIER)
One day I stopped a woman in the street, talked to her for one minute, and got her phone number.
We ended up sleeping together for months and she eventually became my girlfriend.
It took exactly one minute of effort to get that result.
One of the reasons I got such quick and easy results with women is that I was using the 80/20 rule.
This was invented by Vilfredo Pareto and is otherwise known as Pareto's Principle.
Essentially, it is a general rule in life that 80% of your results come from just 20% of your effort.
When it comes to getting a girlfriend, the 20% that gets you 80% of the results happens if you talk to a woman, make her feel attracted, and move it forward.
It's the fastest, easiest path to getting laid or getting a girlfriend.
The Mistake of Focusing on the Wrong 80%
What so many guys do these days is avoid talking to women they find attractive.
Instead, they focus for years on building their career, building muscle, and trying to become successful.
While that is great for a man to do, it is not the fast and easy path to getting a girlfriend.
Guys hope that if they focus on their muscles and career, attractive women will just hand themselves over on a silver platter.
Yet, what most guys find is that the kind of women they really want still do not hit on them or pursue them.
If you want a particular woman, you have to be willing to talk to her and move things forward.
The woman is just not going to do it for you, even if you have a promotion or extra muscle.
Stop Worrying About How You Look
I teach guys to stop worrying about how they look compared to other men.
You need to focus on talking to the woman, making her feel attracted, and moving things forward.
For example, with the woman I mentioned at the start of the video, there was zero chance she would have stopped me on the street.
Even if I had spent three years in the gym, she might have thought I looked good, but she wouldn't have stopped me.
Women just do not do that.
How to Handle "Resting Face" and Rejection
When I saw that beautiful woman in the city, I walked up and said, "Hey, stop. How you doing? I saw you and thought if I don't say hello, I'm going to be kicking myself."
We had a quick chat, I got her number, and we went on a date the next day.
I got that result even though I wasn't muscular and I wasn't taller than her.
I did what most guys are not willing to do because she was walking with what women call "resting face."
Women often walk around with a facial expression that says "don't talk to me" to scare away creepy guys.
But if you are aware of why they do that and don't take it personally, you can get a result.
When I first started, I might have got a result one in ten times.
But once I figured out how to actually attract women, it became five out of ten, then eight out of ten.
Success and Money Won't Solve the Problem
Most men think they need to get bigger muscles or get a promotion and a better car to get women to like them.
Unless you are dealing with a gold digger, a better car is not going to result in women coming over and asking for your number.
Leveling up your life is fantastic, but it does not result in women coming to you in almost all cases.
If you want a girlfriend right now, you have to focus your effort into the 20% of things that get results.
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Talk to her.
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Make her feel attracted.
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Move it forward (get the number, set the date, initiate the kiss).
Applying the 80/20 Rule to Relationships
The same thing happens when you are already in a relationship.
A guy might think he needs to take his wife to dinner more or do the dishes to get more sex.
In reality, he just has to interact with her and make her feel turned on.
Most women experience "responsive desire," which means they don't just feel like having sex randomly out of the blue.
Unlike men, women actually need a man to be confident enough to flirt and create a sexual vibe.
If a guy thinks working out more will fix a sexless marriage, he is focusing on the wrong thing.
I've helped guys who are on testosterone injections and look better than ever, but their wives still aren't coming on to them.
It's because they aren't doing the 20% of work required to make her feel turned on in the moment.
Focus on What Works
If you want to get a girlfriend, stop putting 80% of your effort into things that only get you 20% of the results.
Level up your life, but remember that the result comes from the interaction.
When you talk to a woman in person, it is just you and her, not like a dating app where she is overwhelmed by thousands of men.
Focus on the fastest and easiest way possible to get what you want.
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