How to Talk to Women and Make Them Want You (Say This to Her!)
If you talk to a woman in one way, she'll feel sexually attracted to you.
If you talk to her in another way, she won't feel sexually attracted to you.
Even though your physical appearance is the same, she won't care.
One way you approach the conversation turns her on and makes her want you in that way.
The other way you approach the conversation doesn't.
It's based on how you're talking to her.
So I'm going to give you some examples in this video of how it works.
And I'll point out that a lot of guys really get stuck with this.
They go through their life and they never really figure this part of women out.
Where they talk to women and they hope to get somewhere.
They hope that the work that they've been putting into their career or their body is going to do the job for them.
But when they start talking to a woman that they find attractive, and they make some of the mistakes that I'll talk about, the woman doesn't feel sexually attracted to them.
She doesn't care that he's working in a particular job or that he's been lifting weights.
Good for him from her perspective, because he's not making her feel attracted in the ways that are important to her.
Now that doesn't mean that his muscles don't have any value or his job doesn't have any value.
But it's not the number one priority for her.
She wants to be able to see these other traits first, and then she will value that.
"Oh right," she'll also like the fact that he works out.
Great.
But a guy who doesn't work out and who's just working a normal job can make her feel sexually attracted and turned on.
She can literally be turned on by him and want to have sex or a relationship with him, despite the fact that he hasn't done what the other guy has done.
Which is put in a lot of hard work.
He's been very disciplined and dedicated.
He's done a great job to build himself up physically and he's been working hard in his career.
Fantastic.
But another guy who hasn't even done all that starts interacting with her, and her eyes light up.
She feels attracted.
She feels turned on by him.
And then when he moves it forward, she happily goes along with it.
Because she's feeling attracted and turned on.
He's giving her the feeling that she wants to experience.
So say for example you're talking to a woman and she says something like,
"I love traveling. I just got back from Spain."
What are you going to say to that?
How are you going to make her feel attracted now?
What is your response going to be?
Most guys will just try to get along with the woman.
So they might ask her what was her favorite part of Spain, or how long did you go for, or where did you stay, what cities did you go to.
And they want to have a conversation with her and show that they're interested in her.
But those type of conversations usually just make a woman feel like she's getting along with the guy, and it's more of a friendly type of dynamic between him and her.
"Yeah, he seems like a nice friendly guy. This seems like a good conversation."
But she's not feeling like there's a sexual spark between him and her.
So I'll give you some examples of how to make her feel attracted.
And I'll also give you examples of what guys will often say that turn women off in the same situation, or make the woman see him as just a friend.
I'll start off with if the guy had never been to Spain before in his life.
Some guys get stuck with this.
They think, well what if she talks about something that I don't know anything about?
That's fine.
If I had not gone to Spain, which I have and I'll give an example in a minute of what I would say in this situation, but if I had not gone to Spain, I would say something like this:
"Ah, Spain. I haven't been yet but I've always wanted to go there. Tell me about it."
And that's a lot different to saying:
"Oh, Spain. I haven't been there before... uh... but I've always wanted to go. Tell me about it... uh..."
There's a difference in how I'm saying it.
With the first version, I'm creating a bit of a subtle sexual vibe, and I'm putting a little bit of pressure on her.
I'm making her feel like she's under the spotlight of my masculine attention, which makes her feel feminine and girly, and therefore makes a woman feel turned on.
She starts to feel a spark for that.
"Oh, Spain. I haven't been there yet, but I've always wanted to go there. Tell me about it."
It's the subtle things that make all the difference when it comes to creating that sexual vibe.
If you weren't to create a sexual vibe, if you didn't feel comfortable doing that, you could still make her feel sexually attracted to you by using some humor and being a cool, easygoing guy.
So for example, if she said that she went to Spain, you could say something like this:
"Oh, Spain. Right, so did you eat a ton of paella when you were there? Am I saying that right? I mean, it's spelled paella, but that's how you say it, right? Paella?"
And right there, I'm not pretending to be perfect and know how to say that correctly.
"I mean, it's spelled paella, but the Spaniards say something like paella."
I'm not saying it perfectly, but I'm not afraid to not say it perfectly.
And that's attractive to the woman.
Where she sees that you're not afraid.
Whereas a lot of guys will think:
"Well, I don't really know how to say that word, so I better not say it. Because if I say it wrong, she's going to think I'm some sort of loser that doesn't even know how to say the word properly."
If a guy is thinking like that, then he's coming from the wrong place.
And the woman is going to be sensing his insecurity, his fear.
And she's going to be sensing that he's holding back.
Whereas when I'm talking to a woman, I'm not afraid.
And I know that if I'm not afraid, she then feels attracted to me.
Because women are attracted to emotional strength in men.
They're attracted to courage.
They're attracted to bravery.
They're attracted to men who are emotionally independent.
Where you can feel good and feel worthy and feel confident, regardless of what she is going to say, what she's going to do, what anyone else is going to do.
Whereas if a guy is emotionally dependent, which is needy, he's going to be worried that if he says something in a way that she doesn't like, then she might not respond and react in a good way.
And he's going to see that and then he's going to start to lose confidence.
So he's got to make sure that he tries to say everything correctly.
Tries to not put a foot wrong.
And when he's using that approach with the woman, the woman can sense it.
Women are very good at picking up when a man is secretly afraid, when he's secretly intimidated, when he's secretly needy.
They can pick up on those sorts of things.
And it's not attractive to women.
So another example to give you is something a bit more playful and a flirtatious example.
And it really just goes to show that there are so many different ways that you can make women feel attracted to you as you talk to them.
There are so many different ways that you can trigger the woman's sexual attraction and interest in you.
So for example, if the woman said:
"I love traveling. I just got back from Spain."
What's something that you could say that would be playfully challenging, that would make her feel attracted to you?
What's something that you could say that would be flirtatious?
Flirting is where you show interest in a woman or attraction for the woman, but you're just doing it in a playful way.
It's not a serious thing where you're seriously telling her that you're interested in her, you want to be with her.
It's just playful.
It's non-serious.
And flirting is the discreet language that men and women use to communicate their interest in each other in a way that is safe.
Where you're not putting your feelings on the line and saying,
"I really like you. Do you want to start dating me? What do you look for in a guy? Can I be your boyfriend?"
And so forth.
You're not saying that.
You're just playfully flirting with the idea of liking her.
And she can playfully flirt with the idea of liking you and something happening between you and her.
So on that note, she said:
"I love traveling. I just got back from Spain."
Something flirtatious to say is:
"You love traveling? Cool. So where are we going on our next holiday?"
You're flirting with the idea of you and her being an item.
You and her being a couple.
You and her liking each other enough that you could go on a holiday together.
She can then flirt with that idea and play along and say,
"We could go here or there or that country or this town,"
and blah blah blah.
You're flirting with the idea of being a couple going and doing things together.
And a playfully challenging example is to say something like this:
"You love traveling? Cool. So when are you taking me on a holiday?"
And by saying that, you're playfully challenging her in the moment.
You're playfully putting that type of pressure on her.
You're playfully messing with her, is another way to say it.
You're not saying that she has to take you on a holiday.
It's not a serious thing.
Because you could say the same words, and it could sound awkward:
"You love traveling? Cool. So when are you taking me on a holiday?"
The same words then become awkward.
It's like, hang on, what are you saying there?
Take you on a holiday?
Why?
She's just starting to get to know you.
You're not flirting there.
You're being serious.
Flirting and using playfully challenging humor allows you to say all sorts of things to women that other guys can't say.
That other guys are too afraid to say, because they're being serious about it.
They want to have a serious conversation with the woman.
They don't think that they can playfully mess with the woman in that way, and she would actually like it.
But women do.
Why though?
Why would a woman feel sexually attracted to a guy who said,
"You love traveling? Cool. So where are we going on our next holiday?"
Or,
"You love traveling? Cool. So when are you taking me on a holiday?"
Why is a woman going to feel sexually attracted to that?
Well, he has the confidence to say something like that to her.
He has the social intelligence to understand that it's okay to say that sort of thing to a woman.
Rather than being on his best behavior all the time.
Of,
"Oh, you went to Spain? Cool. Yeah, so how was that?"
Just trying to say all the right things and not put a foot wrong.
Or he might act like he's really cool:
"Yeah, Spain. Cool. Yeah. So, uh, what was it like?"
Trying to act like Mr. Cool.
You know, "She's going to like me if I act really cool."
Instead, you can make her feel attracted by feeling welcome to say something that you want to say.
To be a bit playful in a moment.
To flirt some interest in her.
It's not serious interest.
To playfully mess with her.
To feel welcome to do that.
You're confident enough to do it.
You're emotionally independent enough to do it.
So another example of making the woman feel attracted—
And it's not going to cause a massive amount of sexual attraction, but it's going to be attractive compared to the examples I'm going to give you in a second of being needy or insecure—
But it's going to make her feel attracted because you're being a confident, cool, easygoing guy.
You're not afraid to express yourself.
You're not afraid to say things and talk about things that she may not agree with.
So for example, I would say something like this:
"Cool. Yeah, Spain. I went a few years back. And something I really enjoyed about it was every time you go to a restaurant, they give you a serving of bread with your meal. It’s just fantastic."
At that point, most women are going to chime in and agree.
But at that point, if she isn't saying anything yet and she's just smiling and nodding, I will naturally continue with the story—
Which is true for me, by the way, because it was something that I was impressed by—
And that is that the bread was always so fresh.
And it tasted so good.
I mean, for me, the best bread I've ever had was in Spain.
And at that point, I’m fearlessly making a statement.
Fearlessly giving my opinion.
Fearlessly talking about something that I like.
Rather than just saying:
"Oh yeah, Spain. I went to Spain. It was nice. Yeah, it’s good. Yeah, I went to... Yeah, I went to Spain a few years ago. Yeah, it was really good."
Where’s my fearless emotion there?
It’s not there.
I’m being guarded.
I’m protecting myself in case she doesn’t agree with something that I might say.
Now, what’s going to make her feel attracted is fearlessness.
Where you’re not afraid to say something that she may not even agree with.
Because what a lot of guys don’t understand is that when you’re making women feel attracted to you, they don’t need to have everything in common with you to want you sexually and romantically.
You and her can be completely different.
You can have different opinions about things.
You can have different tastes and likes and dislikes.
And she can still want you sexually.
And you can still start kissing her and have sex with her that day, that night, or on the first date, second date—
Even though you’re quite different as people.
You don’t have to try to be the same as the woman and worry that, you know, if you say something she might not like it and therefore you’re going to lose your chance with her.
What’s going to cause you to lose your chance with her is if you’re displaying traits that are unattractive to women.
And they’re all connected to emotional weakness.
So for example, the example of being needy.
If a woman said,
"I love traveling. I just got back from Spain."
A man who was needy might say something like:
"Wow, yeah. I wish I could travel more, but my friends don’t really go. And yeah, I don’t really have anyone to go with."
And from that, he’s kind of seeking pity.
And that’s needy.
Where a man or a woman—it doesn’t matter, it’s a human thing—is seeking a bit of a pat on the back.
Or,
"Oh, that’s sad to hear. Oh, sorry to hear that."
From someone else.
He’s seeking that sort of thing.
Or potentially, if he’s being really irrational, he’s hoping that the woman might say,
"Oh, you know, maybe him and her can go together."
It’s just some sort of fantasy thought that he might have.
But either way, he is not going to be getting anywhere with neediness.
Because it’s an emotional weakness.
Women are not attracted to emotional weakness.
They’re attracted to emotional strength.
So the next example is being insecure.
"Oh, right. So yeah... do you like Spanish men now or...?"
And that immediately shows her that he is insecure.
He’s seeing other men as competition.
She might not like men like him now because she went to Spain and the men there are different.
She may like them now and not be interested in guys like him.
So he then comes across in that way, and she’s not attracted to that.
Think about it.
Why is a woman going to be sexually drawn to a man like that?
What’s there to draw her sexually to a man like that?
A man who doubts himself and is insecure?
How is that going to make her feel sexually turned on?
She’s going to feel like she is stronger than him.
She’s going to have to be patting him on the back and getting him to lift his chin up and saying,
"Come on, yes, I like you."
That’s not the sort of thing that’s going to make her feel sexually turned on.
Whereas, when a woman can be interacting with a man and get a sense that he is more confident than her—
He is so secure in himself that he can fearlessly express himself without worrying that the woman might not like some of the things that he says—
He is not afraid.
And therefore, she looks at him as being stronger than her.
And therefore, she feels sexually attracted.
Because women are attracted to strength.
They want to submit to strength.
They don’t want to submit to weakness.
That’s gross for women.
Submitting to strength is what they want.
It’s something that automatically flicks on their sexual attraction switch.
It’s just automatically attractive to them.
However, for us men, it’s obviously different.
We’re not looking to women to be stronger than us and then we feel attracted to them.
It doesn’t really matter if the woman is strong or is insecure, or she’s this or that.
It doesn’t really matter.
Because we’re not looking for those sorts of traits.
Just take off your clothes, basically.
That’s all the man wants the woman to do.
Get your boobs out.
Let’s just do this.
You can be confident, you could be shy—
Yeah, yeah, okay, I don’t care.
But the woman—
She doesn’t want a guy who’s insecure, who is intimidated by her.
That’s just not going to make her feel sexually turned on.
So, when you’ve been talking to women that you find attractive, are you 100% confident in yourself?
Do you feel secure?
Do you feel like you’re good enough for the woman?
Or are you secretly insecure and doubting yourself and worrying that she’s going to reject you or worrying that she’s not going to like you or worrying that you’re not good enough, and so forth?
Because if it’s on the emotional weakness side, then you’ll naturally be displaying the sort of body language and energy that turns women off.
And you’ll naturally express yourself in a way that reveals emotional weakness.
Even if it’s very subtle, women pick up on it.
And it’s the difference between a woman wanting you sexually and her not wanting you sexually.
That’s where a lot of guys get stuck.
They’ll talk to women in bars or they’ll go on a date with a woman or they’ll know women through their social circle.
And despite them looking good, they just won’t be getting anywhere with the types of women that they truly find attractive.
They might see that the woman that they find attractive gets with a guy who doesn’t even look as good as they do.
And they’re thinking, "What the heck’s going on?"
What’s going on is that the guy got the subtle stuff right.
That’s what matters more to most women.
Before I continue on helping you, I’ll just point out that if you don’t know—
I run the Master Attraction community.
That’s where guys are learning my techniques.
They watch videos with me explaining what to say and do to display all of the traits that make women feel sexually and romantically attracted to you.
The members who are applying that are getting amazing results.
One of the members met a girl.
She immediately felt sexual and romantic attraction for him.
They made out and cuddled on night one.
Another member who’d never picked up a woman at a bar before did that and had an amazing time.
Another member had a date with a girl, made out with her after dinner, and she stripped for him.
And she was sexy.
Another member just gets new women all the time, and he posts evidence of her.
And he’s only 5'8" in terms of height.
It’s quite amazing what he’s achieving.
The list goes on.
There are members who are learning my techniques and actually using them—
And they’re having sex with new women multiple nights in a row.
Not that you need to do that, but it just shows you the sort of power that these guys now have.
Other members have gotten over the fear that they had of being able to walk up and talk to women that they find attractive.
And not only are they able to do that, but then they’re getting phone numbers, they’re getting kisses, they’re having sex with women, they’re seeing multiple women, and so forth.
It’s just something that is very predictable once you understand how to make women feel attracted.
Attraction is very predictable.
It’s not something that you cannot control.
For example, a very simple example is that if you’re talking to a woman and your appearance is exactly the same, but you talk to her in a way where you’re insecure versus where you’re confident—
When you’re insecure, she won’t feel sexually attracted to you.
When you’re confident, she will.
You have the same appearance, but the way that you’re coming across—
The non-physical traits that you are displaying, that she’s picking up on—
Make all the difference.
When you get that right, it’s very predictable.
You talk to women, and they feel attracted to you.
There are so many more success stories, and I’d love to read them all out for you because that’s my favorite section of the community—
When guys are actually applying the techniques and getting results.
But I’ll just make a final point for you.
Most women are way easier to attract and hook up with than they make themselves out to be—
Or that most guys realize.
Most guys assume that it’s going to be very difficult.
But guys who are naturally good with women know that women are very easy to get with.
They’re very simple in their attraction to men.
If you’re displaying the sort of traits that attract them, it’s very simple.
Once the woman is feeling attracted, a guy who’s a natural just moves things forward.
And the woman happily goes along with it because she’s feeling attracted to him.
But a guy who doesn’t understand how attraction works will talk to women and will often be waiting for really obvious signals or the woman to say that she likes him and wants to be with him.
Or he’ll just be too afraid to make a move because he doesn’t feel like he’s good enough for her.
He feels like he’s not there yet.
A lot of guys think, "Well, I’ve got to get a better job first," or, "Maybe I shouldn’t have worn this shirt. I should have worn my blue shirt, not my black shirt," or, "Maybe I need to work out more. I need to do this or do that."
In reality, the woman was feeling some attraction for him, and he had a chance—
But he just started to screw it up based on him doubting himself, thinking that he’s not good enough.
As a result, all sorts of unattractive traits began to be displayed to the woman—
Such as the man being insecure, being timid, hesitant, being fearful of expressing himself, not feeling comfortable to hold eye contact with her at times—
All sorts of unattractive non-physical traits and behaviors began to be displayed.
The woman’s interest just started to plummet.
Then he noticed that.
In many cases, guys will then think, "Well, see, I shouldn’t have worn this shirt," or, "Yeah, she probably doesn’t like my job," or, "You know, if only I had bigger muscles, then she would have gotten with me."
But then, in many cases, he will notice that she gets with a guy who doesn’t have big muscles, probably the same height as him, maybe even shorter, maybe a bit chubby.
Maybe the guy doesn’t have as good a job as he does.
Maybe the guy isn’t as smart as he is.
But the thing that the guy is doing is he’s making her feel attracted.
And then he actually moves things forward.
He doesn’t stand there doubting himself.
He moves things forward.
Guys who are naturally good with women, they do that.
You will have seen it yourself throughout your life—
Where the guy isn’t always a good-looking guy.
In many cases, the guys who are naturals are just average guys.
Or they just seem kind of cool.
They seem like they’re part of the quote unquote cool crowd.
Even though the guy isn’t trying to act cool.
Even though he’s not showing off or anything.
There’s just something about him that’s quite special.
Some people will say it’s the X factor.
He’s got that X factor about him.
But what’s actually going on is that he’s displaying non-physical traits that are attractive to women—
Such as him being confident, of course.
Him being emotionally independent.
Him being assertive at times where necessary.
Him having a more masculine energy when he’s interacting with a woman.
Him being fearless in expressing himself.
Whereas another guy in the group will have better looks than him, but he’ll be insecure.
He’ll be doubting himself.
He will be afraid to express himself when he’s interacting with a woman.
He’ll make a woman feel neutral with him—like a friend—
Rather than making her feel girly or feminine in comparison to him.
The woman then won’t find him attractive.
She’ll see him as a nice guy, as a, you know, he looks good—
But she just doesn’t feel that way about him.
She doesn’t feel that spark.
She doesn’t feel that spark.
But with the other guy who doesn’t look as good as him, she’s all over him.
She loves him.
She is his girl.
She enjoys being his girl.
She feels so attracted to him.
She holds on to his arm.
She looks up to him and respects him.
So, it’s important to understand, as a man, as you go through life—
You are in control of how much or little attraction you make women feel for you.
It’s based on what you’re doing.
Women are reacting to how you’re coming across.
And it’s not something that goes away.
It’s not something that goes away when you get a better job and then women say,
"Oh, right, yeah, yeah, you’re insecure and you’re intimidated by me, but that’s all right. You’ve got a good job."
They just still reject you.
It doesn’t go away.
It’s something that you either get handled or you don’t.
And guys who don’t get it handled—
They struggle with women for their entire life.
But other guys who are naturally good with women; they get it.
The lucky buggers, they get it as they’re growing up.
They quickly understand how to be confident.
They understand how to express themselves in a way that makes women feel attracted.
They just get it.
And then they get on with enjoying their life with women.
But a lot of guys go through their life and they just never get it.
And as a result, they assume that,
"Oh, it must mean that I’m not good-looking enough."
Or,
"It must mean that I don’t have a good enough job yet."
Or,
"It must mean that I have to work out even more, and then maybe one day, women will start reacting to me in the ways that I want them to react to me."
And the women that he’s actually attracted to don’t react to him in that way.
Most women who are attractive usually want a man who’s more confident than them.
But a woman who’s less attractive will often be happy about a guy who’s put in loads of effort to look good physically.
He’s put in loads of effort in his career.
And he still doesn’t know his own value.
He still doubts himself.
And the unattractive or less attractive woman thinks,
"All right, that’s pretty good."
But then that guy has put in all that effort to get with a woman who’s less attractive,
that he doesn’t honestly feel very attracted to.
And he really wants to be able to get with a woman that he’s attracted to.
But she’s still not interested.
Because he still hasn’t figured out the non-physical things that are the most important to most women and especially to attractive women.
Because they don’t want to get into a relationship with a guy who doesn’t believe in himself.
Because then he’s going to be insecure and potentially overprotective, jealous, clinging, and so forth.
They try to avoid that as much as possible.
They want to get with a guy who is truly confident in himself.
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