How to Stop Feeling Nervous Around Girls (The ACE Rule)
If you get nervous around girls, especially the ones you like, it is about what you are doing to yourself in the moment.
Women will behave the way they behave, but other guys do not feel nervous because they are approaching the situation differently.
This is not something that can't be fixed.
You CAN start to become a more confident guy right now.
You can let go of the nervousness and start to feel more relaxed and better about yourself.
When you do this, you will notice that women look at you differently and feel more attracted to you.
To help you with this, I am going to teach you the ACE rule, which is an easy way to decrease your nerves and build confidence.
A: Approve of Yourself
The "A" in the ACE rule stands for approve of yourself.
Guys who feel nervous around girls are usually looking to the girl for her approval before they can feel good.
They wait to see if she is showing signs of interest or checking them out before they allow themselves to feel confident.
The reason this fails is that women are not designed to help men feel confident.
In fact, women are wired to test you by pretending to be uninterested or breaking eye contact to see if you can remain confident on your own.
Confidence is vital to women because it makes them feel protected by a man who is emotionally stronger than they are.
If you are waiting for a girl to give you a sign of approval, you will always feel nervous because she is waiting for you to approve of yourself first.
You are allowed to decide that you are good enough without needing a girl to give you a pat on the back.
Women will simply react to how you feel about yourself; if you don't feel good enough, they will accept that and lose interest.
Even if you think other guys have more than you, there are guys with less who approve of themselves and get the girl because they are relaxed and chill.
When you approve of yourself, you stop being careful with your words and you stop fearing that you might say the "wrong" thing.
C: Change Your Focus to Connection
The "C" in the ACE rule stands for change your focus to connection.
Most guys who feel nervous feel like they have to get a result, such as a phone number or a kiss, or they are a failure.
This puts an immense amount of pressure on you, especially if you do not yet know how to make a woman feel attracted.
If you want to stop the nerves, change your focus to just connecting with the woman initially.
Instead of trying to get a girlfriend or a sex partner immediately, just walk over to say "Hey" and have an easygoing chat.
When you combined this with approving of yourself, your body language and energy change completely.
She will sense that you see yourself as a valuable guy rather than someone who is "fanboying" out because she is pretty.
Women do not feel attracted to guys who put them on a pedestal or act like the woman is better than they are.
By focusing on connection, the pressure is off and you can get used to talking to attractive women without the fear of "failing" a mission.
As you do this more often, your nervousness will decrease and your natural confidence will start to rise.
E: Expect to Lead
The "E" in the ACE rule stands for expect to lead.
Many nervous guys think that if they look good enough or become successful enough, women will lead the process for them.
In almost all cases, a girl will not go over to a guy and try to make something happen.
Historically and biologically, the man has always been expected to lead the way and court the woman.
Even in a simple interaction today, she will wait for you to ask for her number or suggest catching up.
Women behave this way because male attraction works differently; most men would have sex with any decent-looking woman who approached them.
Women have to wait for a man to lead to ensure he actually wants her and has the confidence of a masculine man.
You cannot wait for "choosing signals" like a woman waving you over or pointing at you.
Sometimes a girl who is very attracted to you won't give you any signs at all because she wants to see if you are confident enough to lead anyway.
The guys who own the responsibility of making something happen are the ones who get the results.
Owning Your Masculine Responsibility
A woman wants to see that you can remain confident even if she isn't making it easy for you.
If she shows too much interest too early, she risks getting her heart broken by a guy who only feels confident because she is doing the work.
When you take on the position of the leader, women feel attracted to you rather than turned off.
Leading is not being needy or desperate; it is being masculine and moving the interaction forward.
It is about having the courage to close the distance, put your arm around her, or lean in for a kiss.
If you have been making her feel attracted, leading the way will work for you every single time.
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I have seen absolute beginners get results on their first night out because they finally learned how to display attractive traits.
They get out of the friend zone and have amazing dates because they aren't just "getting along" with the woman.
If you aren't ready for that yet, just use the "C" part of the rule and focus on connecting without needing a result.
You will realize that women aren't as scary as you imagined and that they are actually much nicer once you stop putting pressure on yourself.
You are not doomed to be nervous forever.
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