How to Speak to Women so They Respect You (Direct vs. Indirect)
There is a certain way to talk to girls and women that makes them instantly respect you and feel attracted to you.
The problem is that most guys do not want to do it because they think women will think they are being rude.
Additionally, as guys grow up watching TV and movies, they see countless examples of how NOT to talk to women.
They think these indirect, submissive behaviors are normal and that they should talk to women that way in real life.
Sometimes a guy will notice another man talking to women in the way I am going to explain today.
He will notice that women respect him and feel attracted to him, and that other men see him as a boss or a "cool guy."
Many guys feel like they can't do it because they think that behavior is just for "tougher" or "cooler" guys.
But if you continue talking the way most men do, women will never feel the intense level of attraction you are capable of triggering.
The Power of Direct Communication
The way women really want you to talk to them is to be direct rather than indirect.
There is nothing wrong with being indirect at times, but to be respected, you have to have the balls to be direct.
A common thing you hear in movies is a man asking, "Can I ask you a personal question?"
That is being indirect because he is asking for her permission and approval before he even speaks.
A guy who is being direct will just give himself permission and ask the question.
He might say, "So, tell me about this," or "Hey, what do you think about this?"
He simply asks because he gives himself permission rather than seeking her acceptance.
Why Giving Yourself Permission is Attractive
Imagine a man and a woman on a second date and the man wants the salt on the table.
Instead of saying, "Oh, do you mind passing me the salt there?" he simply says, "Hey, pass me the salt."
He talks to her as though they are already cool with each other and have a good rapport.
She passes him the salt, smiles, and happily does it because she feels his confidence.
While it might seem rude to some guys, it is actually more attractive because you aren't seeking her approval.
It doesn't mean you can never say "please," but adding in directness makes you much more masculine in her eyes.
Once you see women smile and react positively to this courage, you will become much more comfortable with it.
Direct communication turns women on because it signals that you are a man who doesn't muck around.
Why Men and Women Communicate Differently
Women tend to be more indirect and passive because they aren't as physically strong as men.
Throughout time, they have had to avoid physical confrontations and stay safe by being delicate and ladylike.
A woman might say, "I feel hungry, how about you?" instead of directly saying, "Let's go get something to eat."
Where many guys go wrong is that, in an attempt to be liked, they start talking exactly like the women do.
They assume that if they don't speak that way, they will be rejected or people will get angry at them.
In reality, when you start talking in a more direct way, most people instantly accept it and see you as the man.
Being direct helps you get things done quicker and helps you get more of what you want in life.
It is much better to be a man who is respected than a man who relies on people taking pity on him.
Stop Seeking Permission to Speak
Another example of indirect communication is when a guy wants to ask a woman her age.
He might timidly say, "Do you mind if I ask how old you are?" or "Is it okay if I ask your age?"
A direct man will simply ask, "So, how old are you anyway?" and feel like he has the permission to know.
If he uses playfully challenging humor, he might guess she is 40 when she looks 20 just to make her laugh.
Asking for permission makes the woman feel turned off because it makes the question seem like a serious problem.
If she tests him by saying, "You shouldn't ask a woman her age," and he crumbles, she sees him as a pushover.
A direct man doesn't take her "rules" seriously; he might playfully say, "Come on, how old are you? Don't be shy."
You can handle any sensitive question with confidence, charm, and a light-hearted attitude.
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Creating Masculine-Feminine Polarity
An indirect guy will say, "I'm going to the bar to get a drink. Do you want to come?"
A direct guy will say, "I'm going to the bar to get a drink. Come and join me."
With direct communication, you are giving yourself permission rather than seeking it from her.
This creates masculine-feminine polarity where she gets to feel feminine and girly in comparison to your masculinity.
She sees you as a man who accepts that he is a man and is living it.
Talking in a direct way is one of the main traits that makes a woman say, "He makes me feel like a real woman."
When you are around a direct man, you can feel an invisible type of power and strength.
Women feel sexually attracted to that manliness because they are turned on by confidence and courage.
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