How to Overcome Approach Anxiety Instantly

There is a way to overcome your approach anxiety instantly.

The solution is so simple that you might wonder why you didn't think of it yourself.

Many men try complicated techniques to fix their anxiety for years without success.

Some guys actually resist the simple truth because they want to hold on to the struggle that has been holding them back.

In life, the simplest solutions are often the best and this is no exception.

Approach anxiety only happens in the moments before you actually speak to a woman.

It is that period of time where you are stuck in your head imagining everything that could go wrong.

You worry that you might say the wrong thing or that she might give you a look that tells you to leave her alone.

You fear that other people might see you get rejected and judge you.

That worry is exactly what anxiety is; it is the act of imagining a negative future.

The solution is to stop trying to think your way out of the feeling.

You must realize and accept that approach anxiety only exists up until the moment you say "hey."

Once you get to the "hey," the approach anxiety is gone because you are now in the interaction.

Rather than trying to build up enough courage to feel perfect, just get to the "hey."

Once you have said that first word, you are in front of her and your brain will naturally switch on to the next phase.

You shift from worrying about the start to focusing on keeping the conversation going and making her feel attracted.

If you don't get to the "hey," you will spend your life looking at attractive women while feeling anxious and paralyzed.

You will waste time wondering if she has a boyfriend or if your conversation starter is good enough.

After the "hey," you give yourself the opportunity to get a phone number, a kiss, or a girlfriend.

Talking to women and making them feel attracted creates opportunities; not talking to them achieves nothing.

If you are at a bar or a party and a woman is nearby, just take a couple of steps and say "hey" to start the process.

She will pay attention to you and you finally have a chance to get a result.

If you are at the supermarket and see a pretty woman picking avocados, use a simple, legitimate question.

You can say, "Hey, you seem like you know how to pick the right avocados; which ones are ready to eat tomorrow?"

You aren't being sleazy; you are asking a normal question with confidence.

If you say this with nervousness and a shaky voice, she will sense your fear and won't feel attracted.

But if you say it with a charming and confident tone, she will feel sparks of attraction for you immediately.

When you use playfully challenging humor after that start, she will feel even more drawn to you.

This leads to a chat, a phone number, and eventually having sex or starting a relationship.

If you try to think yourself out of anxiety while standing in the produce aisle, you will likely fail.

You might tell yourself "just do it" or "other guys can do this," which can help sometimes.

But if that fails, just remember that the anxiety ends the second you open your mouth.

Imagine you are at a dog park and see a woman with a look and energy that you really like.

You might worry that talking to her is a nuisance or that she will have a bad reaction.

Just remember that approach anxiety is only the pre-interaction phase.

Walk up and say, "Hey, that's a cool looking dog; he's really enjoying himself today, isn't he?"

Almost every pet owner loves getting a compliment about their animal and will react politely.

This gets you past the anxiety phase and into the phase where you make her feel attracted.

Confidence is a skill that builds with experience and real-world interactions.

When you realize that women actually find you attractive and it isn't as scary as you thought, your confidence will skyrocket.

One member of my community now looks at a pretty, single woman as if she were a $100 bill on the ground.

He realizes that if he doesn't go over and pick it up by starting a conversation, he is just leaving a great opportunity behind.

When approaching during the day, remember it is often a 50/50 chance whether she is single or not.

It is not your fault if she seems a bit closed off at first; she might have a boyfriend or just feel awkward in a shopping mall.

Many women suffer from their own shyness and need about 30 seconds to realize you are a normal, charming guy.

Once her guard comes down, she starts to feel attracted to your easygoing nature.

If you are good at making her feel attracted and shooting your shot, you are set for life.

However, if you struggle to keep the conversation going or don't know how to trigger sexual tension, you will continue to struggle.

If she senses you are intimidated by her, she will likely give you a fake number or say she has a boyfriend.

Men are easily attracted by looks, but for women, a man is just "another guy" until he triggers her attraction through his behavior.

Attracting women is a skill that gets you a girlfriend and keeps the spark alive in a long-term relationship.

Even if a woman is attracted to you initially, you will lose her if you become clingy, needy, or insecure over time.

Knowing how to attract women is one of the most important skills you can ever learn as a man.

It turns a scary situation into a fun game where you know you can get the result you want.

Stop letting anxiety hold you back and start treating every opportunity like that $100 bill waiting to be picked up.

If you want to master the secrets of effortless confidence and attraction, you need to learn what to say after the, "hey."

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