How to Make a Woman Like You Instantly (and Want You)
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
There's something that you can do that not only makes women feel instantly attracted to you, but also makes them really like you as a person.
What you’ll notice from now on when I explain this to you is that most people cannot do this.
Not just men—women struggle to do it as well.
When you’re able to do this, it not only makes women feel attracted to you, but people like you so much more in general.
So regarding women, what happens is that when a man starts interacting with a woman and she’s being nice and friendly and warm and is welcoming him into the interaction and is making him feel good about himself as she talks to him, he’s able to relax and have a good conversation with her and feel like, yeah I like this girl and I’m going to keep talking to her here and this is good, I like this.
But if the woman happens to be a bit introverted or she’s in a bit of a mood or she’s got her guard up—which is going to happen in a lot of cases in life where the woman is just not in that sociable, warm, friendly type of mood—then the sense that she gets from the guy is that he wants her to be someone other than she’s not in that moment in order for him to feel good about himself.
Right, so stop being so closed up, stop being inward and introverted, or not being in a sort of mood where you’re going to make me feel good about myself.
Get out of that, make me feel good about myself.
Essentially, he wants her to express her personality in a way that makes him feel comfortable.
Right—it’s about him.
What you’ll find, not only with women but with people in general, is that if you can just love and accept them for who they are in the moment—right, that’s who they are in the moment—just love and accept them for who they are and not need them to change and adjust their personality, adjust their mood, adjust how they’re talking and behaving in order for you to feel good about yourself...
If you’re able to just love and accept them for who they are in the moment and just understand that people aren’t always going to be in the sort of mood that is going to make you feel good about yourself, and they’re not always going to be focused on trying to make you feel good about yourself, then not only do you take some pressure off yourself where you have to get a certain reaction from people in order to feel good about yourself...
Which is just not going to happen in almost all cases, because people are going to be in different moods, they’re going to have different levels of confidence and insecurity, anxiety, they’re introverted or extroverted and so on.
Not only are you going to take some pressure off yourself to have to get a certain reaction, but you take the pressure off them now—where they feel like they’re able to be who they are in the moment.
You don’t need them to quickly change in the moment to make you feel good.
When it comes to women, she gets the sense that if you’re able to do this, you’re an emotionally independent man.
You’re confident, and you’re able to feel good about yourself regardless of how she’s behaving.
Now, to be clear, it doesn’t mean that if a woman is behaving badly or treating you badly, you just need to love and accept her for who she is.
"Ah, isn’t that great? She’s disrespecting me, she’s being really rude."
It’s not about that.
Instead, in most cases, a woman isn’t going to be actively rude or disrespect you.
That’s going to be a very small percentage of situations.
Instead, the majority of situations you will encounter—for example if you walk up and talk to a female barista—she might be in a good mood and being friendly and make you feel good about yourself and that’s all great, that’s all nice and easy.
But what if she’s a bit introverted or she’s a bit shy or anxious or she’s in a bit of a mood where she isn’t being very sociable?
Right—how are you going to feel then in that moment?
How are you going to be looking at her?
How are you going to be interacting with her?
Are you going to go into your shell and be quite closed up because she seems closed up and you feel unwelcome to be more relaxed and easygoing and talk to her in a confident way?
Or are you going to feel insecure and awkward because she’s not making you feel very liked, and she’s not being very warm and reassuring in the interaction, so you then start to doubt yourself and sort of deep down are wishing that she would just treat you better and talk to you nicer and be more warm and show more interest in you so you could feel good about yourself?
Or are you going to be able to just look at her and love and accept her for who she is in the moment?
Right—understand that everyone has their own story up until that point, up until that moment.
You don’t know what she’s gone through in life prior to then.
She may have grown up in a broken family.
She may have grown up with a father who treated her like a princess who could do no wrong and that really messed with her psychology, thinking that she’s just so perfect and the world owes her a favor, sort of thing—she’s a princess.
Or she may have had a father who didn’t pay her much attention, or she had a mother who talked down to her all the time and made her feel worthless, and that really messed with her confidence and has caused her to feel quite insecure and anxious as a person.
She may have had a boyfriend who really broke her heart and caused her to lose trust in men, where she fell in love and she gave her heart to the guy and then he cheated on her.
That has caused her now to be a lot more closed up and wary about showing interest because she’s worried about getting hurt again.
Or she may just be in a bit of a mood that day.
Or she may have had some things happening to her in the last few weeks that have really brought her down.
Or she may be working with other people in that environment who she doesn’t like and they’re really getting on her nerves.
Or she feels insecure in that environment—for example in a bar because she notices that there are some attractive women there who look better than her, and she starts feeling unsure of herself and she starts to get in a bit of a mood, get a bit anxious, a bit nervous, a bit insecure, a bit closed up.
When a guy walks over and talks to her, she isn’t always then going to be ready to make him feel good about himself and be nice and friendly and warm and open.
She may be a bit closed up initially.
If the guy feels awkward about that and he essentially needs her to be someone other than she is, in order for him to feel good about himself, then it’s just not going to feel good.
The interaction is going to start off awkward, it’s going to feel awkward, and there’s going to be that distance between the both of them.
But if a man is confident and emotionally independent and can love and accept her for who she is in the moment, and not need her to change how she’s feeling, how she’s behaving, in order for him to feel good about himself...
Then she gets that sense from him where it’s like, oh, this is a truly confident man.
This man doesn’t need her to change in the moment.
As a result, she feels freer to be herself.
She feels free not to have to put on an act for him, to hopefully make him feel better.
The irony is that because of the attraction she’s feeling towards him and how comfortable she feels, because she gets a sense that he loves her and accepts her for who she is in the moment, then she actually becomes more warm, loving, friendly, and open.
Right—because she’s feeling attracted.
She’s feeling like, oh this is a guy who can handle himself when interacting with a woman and doesn’t need a woman to constantly be warm and reassuring and loving and friendly and open in order for him to feel good about himself.
Being able to do that is one part of creating what psychologists refer to as reciprocal candor.
That’s essentially a fancy name for saying that you’re able to talk easily and naturally with each other and that you feel safe to be yourself.
Studies have shown that if you’re able to create reciprocal candor between you and a woman, it increases romantic chemistry and attraction.
I can also tell you that from personal experience.
It’s one of the things that really makes it easy for me to instantly make a woman feel attracted and feel connected with me—because I honestly just love her and accept her for who she is in the moment, without judgment.
I don’t need her to be anything other than who she is in order for me to feel comfortable.
That is felt by her.
She senses it and recognizes my confidence and emotional intelligence, in terms of being able to understand how to relate to her in a way that makes her feel free to be herself.
There’s another part to this as well, where a woman doesn’t want to get the sense that a guy is rattled by her personality.
Right—he is thrown off by it.
The fact that she’s quite confident, or she’s feisty, or if in the moment she’s in a bit of a bubbly mood where she’s being outgoing—and she may not normally be like that, but that’s a part of her personality when she’s feeling really happy.
If, for example, a guy is interacting with her or her and a couple of friends and they’re being bubbly and happy, and he sort of feels a bit awkward that, you know, he’s not behaving in the same way as they are and he starts to wonder what they’re thinking of him or if he needs to change now in the moment to be more like them to get along with them...
Or if he gives them the sense that he’s hoping that they just turn it down—like calm down, stop being so bubbly and outgoing, so I can feel good about myself—then they can’t be who they really want to be in the moment.
They can’t express that part of their personality.
They can’t be like that around him, and they’re going to have to limit the expression of their personality in order to make him feel confident and comfortable and feel okay about himself.
So a feeling that a woman craves that makes her feel attracted to you is when you can honestly let her be her real self when interacting with you and not have it negatively affect you.
She wants you not to be dependent on her behavior in order to feel good about yourself.
If you can do that, she then gets to express what she wants to express around you and knows that you’re going to be able to handle it.
As a result, she gets to express a wider range of who she really is.
As a result of that, she feels so much better about herself around you.
She feels like she can be herself.
She can be loved and accepted for who she is.
She’s free to express the full range of her personality, and you can handle it.
That doesn’t mean a man should just love and accept everything about a woman.
If she’s being disrespectful and rude towards him, he should just, you know, put up with that.
Yeah, yeah, yeah—just disrespect me, be rude to me.
Yeah, I love you, I accept you for who you are.
Just yeah, be completely rude to me, fantastic.
It doesn’t mean that at all.
Instead, what a guy who’s naturally good with women will do—a guy who’s able to do this—is that he will love and accept her for who she is.
Right, if she’s going to be like that, then he understands that she’s a human being and she may have her flaws and quirks and so forth.
As a result, he may not want to get with her anymore because of that.
But he’s still going to love and accept her for who she is.
Right, she’s a fellow human being.
She’s making some mistakes in the moment.
That’s an issue that she’s dealing with.
He’s now potentially not going to give her a chance with him.
The irony is that when a woman gets the sense that she’s interacting with a guy who can love her and accept her for who she is—but at the same time, his interest can ebb and flow based on what she is doing—then she feels the need to impress him and do better and be better as a person.
But she still sees that she’s free to express who she really is and to make mistakes.
Right, she may be a bit too cold in a situation, or a bit too outgoing and bubbly to the point where it’s a bit full on, or she may be a bit shy or introverted, or she may say something awkward in a certain moment or do something awkward.
The guy doesn’t become rattled by that.
He doesn’t get thrown off by that of “Oh jeez, why did she say that or why did she do that—now I feel uncomfortable.”
But he maintains that emotional independence, where he can feel good about himself regardless of what she is doing.
She sees that she has that freedom with him.
Because it’s so attractive for a man to have this quality—it’s so rare for people to have this quality in general—but it’s so attractive for a man to have this quality where he is emotionally independent and so confident in himself that he can do that...
The woman feels magnetically attracted to him.
Right—she feels completely attracted and drawn to him.
Because it takes so much emotional strength, so much emotional maturity and wisdom and experience for most people to ever get to that point.
So when you’re able to do this genuinely, you’ll see that women feel so much more attracted to you right away and continue to feel attracted to you.
But even if you can only do it 20% as well as a man who’s doing it correctly, doing it properly and doing it genuinely, then you’ll still notice that women feel more attracted to you and like you so much more.
Because they still feel a bit more of that freedom where they’re able to be more of themselves and you’re not feeling awkward about it.
That makes her feel magnetically attracted to you.
Right—you don’t have to do it perfectly initially to create sparks of attraction inside of the woman.
The better you are at displaying these sorts of traits and making women feel attracted in these sorts of ways, the better results you’ll get.
Right—it becomes easier and easier.
But you don’t have to do it perfectly right away.
By the way...
If you really do struggle with attracting women that you find attractive, or you feel awkward or lack confidence around women that you find attractive, and you want to know exactly what to say and do to display the traits that make women feel sexually and romantically attracted to you, then you might be interested in watching my Attraction Mastery video lessons.
Right—the guys who are watching the lessons and learning the techniques, learning what to say and do and then applying it, are experiencing the type of results that you’re seeing on the screen here now.
I’ve underlined the parts where it’s focused on the result.
The guys who are learning and applying the advice are getting results that a lot of guys think are impossible for them.
But most of the guys who are getting these results are doing it after just watching the first two lessons.
Sometimes the guy has to watch maybe four lessons before he gets to that point.
But what you will learn is so powerful that it instantly starts to make women feel attracted to you.
You instantly see it.
You see the difference in how women are reacting to you.
I also give you the confidence to then shoot your shot, which is a very important part.
Right—you don’t just make the woman feel attracted and then get the heck out of there.
You stick with the interaction and move it forward.
But you need to have the confidence to do that.
The confidence to not doubt yourself when you’re interacting with a pretty woman, a beautiful woman, or a woman that you really like.
You need to have the confidence to actually shoot your shot.
So you’ll learn that in the lessons, and if you’re interested, I recommend checking out the link below.
- Attraction Mastery video lessons
- Master Attraction Community
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