How to Make a Girl Like You (It's Not Logical)

One of the best ways to make a girl like you is to do something that doesn't seem to make logical sense.

Logically, you might think that to make another person like you, you must treat them well all the time.

You assume that the better you treat a woman, the more she is going to like you.

While that sounds like how it should work, women actually prefer a man who is a challenge.

Think about playing a sports game against someone who doesn't even try to win.

They just let you win every single time you play.

Initially, it might feel a bit fun to win so easily.

But when you play again and they still don't offer a challenge, it starts to feel boring and predictable.

You realize this person is no match for you and the excitement quickly vanishes.

It is similar to playing a video game where the enemies just fall over and die as you walk past them.

You would quickly find that game crappy and wonder where the challenge is.

Humans want to be challenged because that is what makes the game of life enjoyable.

I remember playing Grand Theft Auto and using cheat codes to turn on "god mode" after finishing the game.

With god mode on, the police and helicopters can't kill you and you have every weapon imaginable.

That can be fun for a while, but most people prefer actual challenges that require focus to overcome.

There is even a deeper level to this if you look into near-death experiences.

Many people who have been dead for 20 to 90 minutes before being shocked back to life report a similar theme.

They describe a blissful afterlife with infinite knowledge and power, which is essentially living on god mode.

They realize they entered a human body specifically to experience the limitations and challenges of the human condition.

This helps explain why life has obstacles and why we have to fend for ourselves and level up.

If everything were already sorted out and perfect, there would be no reason to experience this reality.

Most guys who are trying to get a girl to like them are usually quite nice but don't know how to trigger attraction.

When I tell a guy to playfully stop treating a woman so well and be a challenge, it can be jarring.

He doesn't want to treat women badly or be a mean person.

But he doesn't realize that he is robbing her of the fundamental human experience of overcoming a challenge.

Just like he would get bored of a video game with no enemies, a woman gets bored of a man who just "falls over."

Playfully stopping the over-the-top nice behavior doesn't mean you become a bad person.

It means you allow her to experience a bit of friction and tension where she has to participate to make you like her more.

Imagine you are at a cafe with a girl you like and you are eating a chocolate muffin.

She says that the muffin looks yummy, and a typical nice guy would immediately offer her a bite or buy her one.

A man who is a challenge will grin and say, "Yeah, it is, and that’s why I’m not sharing."

He takes a bite while smiling, and she feels that playful challenge in the moment.

Because he is grinning, she knows he isn't being a serious jerk, and she will likely laugh or insist on a bite.

After she has her reaction, he can smile and say, "Of course you can have some, have as much as you want."

He is still being generous, but he didn't just fall over like a boring video game character.

He added a moment of excitement and participation to a simple interaction.

You don't have to do this with every single thing she says, but you do need to add it in frequently.

Achieving a goal feels much more worthwhile when you have to push yourself to get the result.

When a woman has to work a little bit for your approval, she feels much more proud and accomplished when she gets it.

Another example is if she tries to grab your phone, the TV remote, or your food.

Instead of just handing it over, you can hold it just out of reach while smiling.

As she laughs and tries to get it, you move it away a little further until she is fully engaged in the "game."

Once she is laughing and insisting, you give it to her and she feels a small sense of victory.

Compare that to a guy who just says, "Oh, okay, you take it," the moment she reaches for something.

That guy is the video game opponent who just falls over, which is never enjoyable for a woman.

You aren't being a prick by holding the phone away; you are being flirtatious and fun.

You can say, "Oh, you want this? Say please then," and then give it to her once she participates.

This makes her like you more because there is excitement and requirement on her part.

You can also apply this challenge to conversation by not always nodding and agreeing with everything she says.

If she says something outlandish, you can shake your head with a grin or give her a look that says you aren't so sure.

This applies playful pressure and makes her wonder why she isn't getting your immediate approval.

You are playfully picking on something she said to keep her on her toes.

Women find this attractive because it shows you are a man who will bring out a better side of them.

She feels like she has to treat you better and be more lovable to really capture your heart.

You become that enjoyable video game that never ends because the challenge is always present.

A guy who gives the impression that he is already "sold" on her is a very bad video game.

If he signals that he will put up with any bad behavior just for a chance with her, she loses all respect.

But when you can playfully mess with her, she feels like "it's on" and she has something to enjoy.

All humans enjoy the rewards more when they feel they have participated and earned them.

When you have a girlfriend who is actively trying to get more of your love and respect, you have a great relationship.

You are bringing out the best side of her because you aren't handing yourself to her on a silver platter.

If you are only being nice, she will struggle to feel a sexual or romantic spark for you.

Your behavior becomes too predictable, and she won't feel any of the tension that creates attraction.

Many men have blind spots and don't realize how they are accidentally turning women off.  

If you don't figure out these mistakes, they will continue to ruin your chances for the rest of your life.

You might get into a relationship and feel confused why your woman doesn't seem attracted to you anymore.

This is why I teach men how to fix these mistakes immediately and start getting results.

Instead of being rejected or friend-zoned, you can have interactions that are impossible for a woman to forget.

You can become the man who has women wanting to stay with him because he knows how to trigger that deep attraction.

Stop being the guy who is overlooked and start being the man who brings out the best in every woman he meets.

Take the next step and learn exactly what to say to move a woman from a "maybe" to a "yes."

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