How to Attract Women Without Trying So Hard (Do Less, Get More)
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
There is a way to get exactly what you want from women by putting in at least 10 times less effort than other men put in.
You will understand that by the end of this video and you will be surprised that most men do not know about this.
The thing is, so many men, whether they are single or in a relationship with a woman, think that they need to do a lot in order to get sexual and romantic interest from her.
They do not realize that all the extra effort they are putting in is unnecessary and it actually turns the woman off.
So I will give you four examples.
I could give you 50, but let’s not go there.
I will just give you four so you understand it and then I will share what you need to do instead.
I will give you examples of that so you know how to do it.
So first, let’s have a look at what most men do where they put in way too much effort and then they do not actually get the results that they want.
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Being very agreeable
Agreeing with her opinions about everything or as much as possible to make it seem like he supports her and is aligned with her.
They have things in common.
For the most part, he will also be afraid to speak up and say what he really thinks or feels in a moment with a woman because he is worried that she is going to reject him or judge him negatively because of that and then he is not going to get what he wants.
So he just puts on an act of being very agreeable and that is a lot of work for him mentally and emotionally.
He has to act like he is the same as her or similar to her and he has to constantly remember all the things that she is saying to hopefully not trip up and then go back on what he was saying.
He is basically putting in loads of effort to hopefully make her see that they have things in common, that they are aligned with each other, and if he does that enough then she is going to reward him with sex if he is single, or a relationship, or if he is in a relationship he is going to get the affection, the respect, the love, the sex that he wants and is craving.
The problem is that most women can pick up on it.
They can pick up when a guy is not being authentic and they also do not like that he seems to just go along with whatever she says or pretty much everything that she says.
As a result, she starts to become suspicious of, “Hang on, is he putting on an act just to be liked by her? Is he putting on an act to get what he wants from her, or are they really aligned as people? Do they really have that much in common?”
An important thing to point out here is that you can have 10 things in common with a woman and she will still friendzone you if you do not use the approach that I am going to teach you later in this video.
That just gets rid of all the games, all the mental and emotional effort of trying to be liked by her and so on.
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Pretending to have no sexual desire
He feels sexually attracted to her, but he tries to seem like an innocent guy who would never think about sex or look at her in a sexual way.
He is thinking, “Well look, I have heard women say that all men think about is sex. I have heard women say that they want a guy to become their friend first. I have heard women say that they do not want to be treated like some sort of sexual object.”
He will have heard something and as a result, he will think that the way to get results with women is to come across as though he does not want any of that sexual stuff.
“I am just happy to talk with her. Yeah, yeah. I am just happy to talk for 2, 3 hours. Maybe 2, 3 weeks. 2, 3 months. I am fine if I am in the friend zone. No problem. I will just keep talking and eventually she is going to like me enough as a person and I am going to get the sex that I want. I am going to get the affection that I want. I am going to get the relationship that I want.”
She does not feel the same way.
There are so many reasons for that.
I will not get too much into the science in this video, but essentially, most women experience what is called responsive sexual desire, meaning that you actually have to create feelings of sexual attraction inside of the woman rather than just hoping that she experiences spontaneous sexual desire, which is what most men experience.
They then just want sex because they want it and that is it.
That is one of many reasons.
Another reason is that when a woman is interacting with a guy, sometimes she will know that okay, if the guy is continuing to talk to her, then he has a sexual or romantic interest in her.
Other women do not actually think that.
They think, “Well maybe he just wants to be friends. Maybe he really likes another girl and is currently pursuing her, but he is just talking to me because he wants to talk. He likes talking. He just wants to be friends.”
Or in some cases, she assumes, “Maybe he just does not see me in that way. He does not see me in a sexual way. He only sees me in a friendly type of way.”
Alternatively, she just comes to the conclusion that, “Okay, well we get along and we can talk, but there is no obvious sexual spark between him and me, so we would just be better off as friends.”
There is no point in pursuing anything or trying to have sex because it might feel awkward.
There is no point trying to have a relationship because it most likely will not last.
There is not a strong sexual spark there, which is needed for a male-female relationship to actually turn into a romantic relationship that lasts.
A guy who pretends to have no sexual desire for a woman usually thinks that he is doing a good and noble thing.
Yet the woman is not impressed and she does not jump all over him and say, “Wow, you seem to just be like a friend and there is no sexual spark between us, so let’s get it on. Let’s start dating.”
The irony is that he could have gotten a result with her the first time he met her.
By result, I mean phone number, kissing her, setting up a date, and in some cases even having sex on the first night or day that they meet, or the first or second date.
After that, getting into a committed relationship.
They become boyfriend and girlfriend.
They potentially go on to become husband and wife.
And off they go.
The guy used the approach that I am going to tell you about in a minute.
But when guys do not use the approach that I am going to tell you about, they put in loads of effort with women and they think they are doing the right thing.
They are actually causing themselves to get friend-zoned, rejected, and overlooked by women who would have actually been interested in them in a sexual and romantic way.
As a result, they end up thinking, “Well women are just so difficult, right? It is too hard. Maybe I need to work out more. Maybe I need to become more successful and then women will like me at that point.”
They think, “They will eventually like me if I can just become successful enough.”
Then, all of a sudden, another guy comes into the interaction.
You will have seen this before.
You may have even experienced it when talking to a woman that you found attractive.
Another guy came in and immediately made her feel the way that she really wants to feel when she is interacting with a man.
She suddenly just started focusing on him.
All of a sudden, there are sparks flying back and forth between him and her.
She is smiling, she is giggling, she really likes him in that sexual and romantic way.
They start kissing, or they exchange phone numbers, or they start dating.
They get into a relationship right away.
The other guy—maybe yourself—has been sitting there talking to her for 2, 3 hours, or maybe 2, 3 weeks, or you have known her for 2 or 3 months or maybe years.
You just cannot get anywhere and it is like, “Well what the heck is going on here?”
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Qualifying himself
He will be subtly hinting at or directly talking about his “boyfriend material” qualities, such as being a disciplined guy, a guy who is loyal, ambitious, kind, respectful, and so on.
He might also talk about how other guys are not genuine with women, but he is.
Additionally, he might also try to subtly mention the things that he has achieved in life and what he is hoping to achieve in the future—what his five-year plan is or his ten-year plan is, or how he is currently working on something that could make him successful.
The woman knows what is going on.
She can pick up on the fact that he is trying to qualify himself to her.
He is trying to talk about and show some qualities that make him good boyfriend material to hopefully make her think, “Oh right, this guy is disciplined. He has been going to the gym for the last four years. That takes a lot of discipline. He eats well and jeez, he is respectful as well. You know what? We should start a relationship.”
But that is just not how it works.
Additionally, not only is that not the way that it works with women, but when a woman gets a sense that a man is qualifying himself and is hoping to get a chance, then she starts playing hard to get.
She feels like she is in the one-up position in terms of value and she is going to be essentially doing him a little bit of a favor by getting with him.
That then makes the whole thing so difficult.
She starts being so much more judgmental and logical, rather than going with her emotions.
As a result, she starts to nitpick and think about things that she does not like about him.
She then friend-zones him or rejects him.
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Assuming he needs to be 100% serious about everything around her
He wants to show her that he is serious about being respectful, listening, and being as responsible about everything as possible, to hopefully be liked by her.
He is doing that because he has not yet realized that although it is great to be respectful, to listen, and to be responsible, life is not always that serious.
He can relax and stop trying so hard around her.
The thing is, when a guy uses an approach with women where he is trying to show that he is good enough and that he is a good guy and good boyfriend material, then essentially, he is the one in the one-down position.
He is trying to hopefully be approved by women.
You may have heard the phrase “seeking approval” before.
Essentially, most guys do that without even realizing it.
Some guys may behave in a tough, aloof sort of way, but at the end of the day, in their mind, they are still seeking approval from women.
They are still waiting for signs that they are okay, that they are good enough for the woman.
They are still seeking that approval.
Other guys will seek approval in a much more obvious way, where they will have that sort of wide-eyed look on their face, trying to be as nice as they can, as good as they can.
They hope that if they just say and do everything right, the woman is going to approve of them and then they are going to get a result.
Whereas another guy will come along and rather than trying to seek approval from women—hoping to be liked—he will just cut through all that nonsense and all that hard work by making them feel attracted as he talks to them.
This is something that you can do instantly.
It is actually very easy once you understand how it works.
I will give you some examples in a minute.
Once you understand how it works, you realize that you do not actually have to do a lot anymore.
All you have to do is display some traits that make women feel attracted to you as you talk to them and they stop being so judgmental.
All of a sudden, they are not nitpicking.
Instead, the woman is feeling attracted to you and she then goes with her emotions.
She goes with how she feels and she starts to rationalize in her head that, “Okay, he may not look like the guy that is normally her type, but she is feeling very attracted to him. She finds him cute, she finds him sexy, she finds him charming. She loves the way that he makes her feel.”
So, a very simple way to start attracting women instantly, rather than trying to hopefully be liked by them and putting in all that effort to be liked as a person to hopefully get a chance, is to use what I call playfully challenging humor.
For example, imagine that you are talking to a woman and she says, “I’m really into yoga and meditation these days.”
What are you going to say?
Most guys do not really know what to say at that point to playfully challenge her or to make her feel attracted.
So they just default into, “All right, I’m going to try to be liked here as a person.”
What does the guy do then?
He’ll ask things like, “Oh, so what made you get into that?” or “Where do you do that? How long have you been doing it? Is it fun? Do you go to a class or do you do it yourself at home?”
He is hoping that if he talks to her and keeps the conversation going long enough, gets along with her, and maybe has some things in common with her, then she is going to give him a chance.
They are going to have some things in common.
She is going to think, “Hang on a second, I’m really into yoga and meditation these days and he said he likes that, so let’s have sex. Let’s have a relationship.”
It just does not work that way.
What a woman is looking to feel around a man that she is going to have a sexual or romantic relationship with is attraction.
Attraction is something that you can create.
Attraction is a reaction to attractive traits.
When you display traits that are attractive to women, they automatically feel attracted to you.
For example, we men do not need a woman to be playfully challenging us or to playfully mess with us in order to feel attracted to her.
We do not need that.
But a woman does need to be able to see that you are not looking at her as being in the one-up position and you are in the one-down position seeking approval from her.
Women do not want to go into that one-down position because it kills the sexual dynamic.
A woman does not want to feel like she is more powerful and more dominant than you when it comes to the sexual experience.
She is going to open up and be penetrated by you.
She is the one opening up and surrendering.
She wants to see that you are actually in the one-up position.
Playfully challenging humor is one of so many different traits that I teach that instantly shows the woman that she is in the one-down position, and that is where she wants to be.
That is what makes her feel turned on.
It is not about being disrespectful, rude, or demeaning to women or anything like that.
Energetically, she wants to feel that you are in the one-up position and she is in the one-down position.
That automatically turns her on.
It automatically turns her on.
You do not have to try to get to know her for 2 weeks, 3 weeks, 2 months, 3 months, 2 years, trying to show her that you are a really good guy.
That you have great boyfriend qualities.
That you are disciplined and you are smart and all these sorts of things.
You can make her feel attracted to you in that boyfriend-girlfriend or lover type of way right away.
So, for example, if she said, “I’m really into yoga and meditation these days,” what are you going to say?
Well, most guys watching this video are going to say, “I don’t know. I don’t know what to say.”
So I’ll give you some examples.
She says, “I’m really into yoga and meditation these days,” and you can say something like:
“Right, okay, let me guess—you also drink a green smoothie in the morning, do you jeez?”
Or: “Well, that kind of sounds boring, doesn’t it? I thought you were cool.”
Or: “Yeah, I’m cool with that, as long as you don’t invite me to go to yoga with you on our second or third date or something—that won’t be cool.”
Or: “Yoga and meditation? That sounds boring. I play video games. Much cooler.”
Or: “Yeah, you look like the type. A real hippie.”
Or: “So what you’re telling me is that you’re a hippie.”
Just a reminder here—by saying that, you are only joking, and she is going to laugh.
Women get this sort of stuff.
She knows that you are coming from a place of love, not hate.
It is not a case of you saying, “Let me guess, you also drink a green smoothie in the morning—jeez,” and being serious about it.
Instead, energetically, she can feel that you are only joking.
You are only messing with her.
“Right, okay, let me guess—you also drink a green smoothie in the morning, do you jeez?”
The next example I am going to give you does not actually need to be that funny.
Instead, you can just come from a place where you are not looking at her as being above you and that you need to seek approval from her.
Instead, you feel so confident in yourself, which is attractive to her, by the way, that you have the confidence to say something like:
“Oh, you too? Jeez, I’ve heard a lot of people talking about meditation these days, but does it actually provide any benefit?”
That way, she sees that you are a guy who is not afraid to express some feelings or opinions on the topic and is not a guy who is putting on a nice guy act to seek her approval and hopefully be liked.
Most guys will say something like, “Oh, cool, so what made you get into that?”
He’s hoping that if he’s nice enough to her and she likes talking to him about her life and they are able to get along, then she’s going to reward him with a kiss and sex, love, a relationship.
But what’s going to be missing is attraction.
A guy who is seeking approval like that and trying to be liked will put in so much effort talking to the woman, and frankly, putting on an act of being interested in things that he may not even be interested in.
She’s talking about fashion and he couldn’t care less about that, but he puts on an act of being interested in it rather than having the guts, the courage, the non-neediness to playfully mess with her about it.
He can’t do that because, from his perspective, what he thinks he’s got to do is be as likable as possible, get along with the woman as much as possible, and then she’s going to reward him.
Guys do that when they’re single and they also do it in a relationship.
They forget that you get results with women instantly when you make them feel attracted—instantly.
As I said, playfully challenging humor is just one way of making a woman feel like she’s in that one-down position where you’re not seeking approval from her.
You can do it by having untamed energy.
You can do it by displaying assertiveness.
You can do it by displaying what I call loving dominance.
You can do it by being more confident than her in the moment or having what I call emotional independence.
That means your emotional state isn’t dependent on what she is saying or doing.
She will then notice that you’re not relying on her to hopefully show you that she likes you in order for you to feel good about yourself.
Most guys do rely on that.
They can’t be confident enough in themselves because they don’t actually know how to make women feel attracted.
For most guys, their entire life, they’ve been trying to get results with women by being as likable as possible.
That gets them rejected or friend-zoned, so they don’t actually feel like they’re attractive to women.
They don’t think that they’re good enough.
But when you actually know how to make women feel attracted, you see that they react to you with feelings of attraction instantly and continually throughout an interaction and into a relationship.
Some guys may think, “Well, jeez, that might be a lot of work then. I’ve got to make sure that I’m attractive all the time.”
It’s not a lot of work.
The way that it works is that you either display the attractive trait or the unattractive trait.
You’re either going to be displaying and being confident, or you’re going to be displaying insecurity and being insecure.
Being insecure and displaying insecurity is a lot more work.
It’s a lot more stressful and it causes you to experience bad results in life.
Being confident, once you understand how to do it, once you understand the mindset and then actually be like that, is so much easier and it gets you the results that you want.
Same with something like flirting.
Some guys think, “Well, I’m just not a natural flirt.”
So they think that flirting is just not for them.
Then they go through their life being neutral with women and women don’t feel attracted to them, or women lose interest in them in a relationship.
They think that women are just so difficult and they can’t keep a woman.
So they need to work out more, they need to become more successful.
They do that, but then they get rejected or dumped anyway.
The guy mistakenly thinks that all that pain that he’s experiencing is something that he has to experience because he can’t flirt with women and he’s not a natural flirt.
Flirting is something so easy to do though.
It’s so subtle and it instantly creates a sexual vibe and sexual tension between you and a woman.
Once you get used to doing it, it makes attracting women so much easier.
You put in so much less effort and women want you so much more.
Just a little flirting glance or a bit of a facial expression or a flirtatious comment when you’re interacting with a woman gets you pretty much all the results that you want, compared to hours or weeks or months of hoping to be liked by the woman, but she doesn’t feel it anyway.
So if you’ve been in situations like those before, where you’ve been trying to come across as the perfect good guy only to end up overlooked or in the friend zone, you know the frustration.
You know the feeling.
Maybe you’re confident in other areas of life, but something shifts when you’re around a woman that you find attractive.
You find yourself playing it safe and hoping that she’ll notice how genuine or respectful you are, only for the interaction to feel flat and lack the all-important spark that actually causes a man and a woman to want to have sex or begin a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
The thing is, most guys don’t realize that they just need to show a few traits that women automatically feel attracted to and their entire relationship to women changes.
Suddenly, women want you in a sexual and romantic way.
It doesn’t require you to put in loads of effort trying to prove to her that you’re a good guy with good intentions who will always listen, always be respectful, and so on.
Instead, she is attracted to you, so she wants you—sexually and romantically—right there and then.
Anything else “good” about you is a bonus.
But it’s not required.
Which is why women who do want a good guy will sometimes get with a guy who does not even treat them that well.
Because what they are looking for initially is a feeling of attraction.
That is what is most important.
If you get that right and you are a good guy, then she feels lucky to be getting a chance with you.
However, I have to point out that if you get that right—if you know how to make women feel attracted—and you are not a good guy, the woman still feels lucky to be getting a chance with you.
Because the most important thing initially is that the woman feels attracted to you.
That is the feeling that she is looking for.
I have given you an example of displaying one of the traits that will make a woman feel attracted to you, but there are so many others.
If you do not know how to display the traits that make women feel attracted to you—rather than just like you as a person—then I recommend that you head over to masterattraction.com.
At Master Attraction, I teach you all of the traits that make women feel sexually and romantically attracted to you.
Even if you display a couple of traits, you are going to be so much more attractive to women compared to if you are displaying the opposite of those traits.
Additionally, when you display attractive traits, it means that you do not have to put in all the effort to hopefully be liked by the woman.
Instead, she likes you right away because you are making her feel attracted to you, which is the most important thing when it comes to a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship or a husband-wife relationship or even a lover-type of relationship.
Whether it is just going to be sex or a serious relationship between a man and a woman, the most important thing that needs to be there at the core is attraction.
Everything else that is good about you is simply a bonus.
But if you are unable to make women feel attracted to you when you interact with them, then you are going to have to put in loads of effort and you are not going to get what you want with women.
At the end of the day, it is always going to be a disappointment for you because you are trying to be liked as a person to get what you want, when she actually wants to feel attracted to you.
Before I give you a final secret in this video, here is just some of what the members at Master Attraction have been saying.
One of the members who had zero confidence in himself and thought that women would not find him attractive used the technique that he learned in the first lesson to hook up with his yoga instructor.
Other members of the community have been meeting up, going out and meeting women, and getting great results.
Another member went out and kissed multiple girls in a night and got multiple phone numbers.
Another couple of members of the MAC—that is the Master Attraction Community that you get access to when you are learning from the lessons—went out and one of the guys had never picked up a woman in a bar before and he did it on the first night.
She was a cute blonde and as he said, he could not believe how smooth and easy it was.
By the way, I will point out that you do not have to interact with the community.
You can just remain anonymous and see what is being posted.
But you can also participate in the online community if you want and even meet up with members in person.
Another member had sex with three different women three days in a row.
For guys who do not understand the techniques, that might sound hard to believe.
Like, how could he do that?
But when you know how to make women feel attracted to you, rather than trying to get them to like you, women want you.
They want you sexually and romantically.
As long as you have the right confident mindset—which I teach in the first lesson—then you are not afraid to shoot your shot.
You are not afraid to move it forward.
This particular member has been getting amazing results.
This is another member from Austin, Texas.
I have members from all over the world, but this member had only been using dating apps and had not been getting quality women.
When he started using the attraction techniques when talking to women in person, he slept with two different attractive women two nights in a row.
Finally, another member attracted a woman on a beach and ended up kissing and cuddling with her in the water there.
So many more success stories that I could share with you, but let’s get back to the video.
A final secret that I want to share with you is that you will notice from now on that most guys do not know about this.
Most guys assume that they need to do a lot and put in a lot of effort to hopefully get a little bit of a result from a woman.
Those guys will be trying very hard to be liked.
But then you will also notice that in a small percentage of cases, there will be another guy who knows how to make women feel attracted.
Rather than trying to get to know her and put in loads of effort over hours or weeks or months, he will make her feel attracted instantly by—for example—playfully challenging her, flirting with her, displaying what I call untamed energy, being assertive, or being more confident than her in the moment.
That does not mean being a show-off or anything like that.
But being emotionally stronger than her.
She will feel like she is in that one-down position and as a result, she will instantly like him more than the guy who is trying to be liked.
The guy who is trying to be liked is in that one-down position and he is ruining the potential sexual dynamic between him and the woman.
The guy who comes over and makes her feel attracted and makes her feel like she is in that one-down position in terms of dominance, strength, confidence—whatever it may be—she instantly feels attracted to him.
She instantly likes him because that is the sexual dynamic that women look for.
It is not about demeaning women or treating women badly.
Instead, it is about not seeking approval from women.
Not looking up to women as someone that you need to get approved by in order to get a chance.
When you can make women feel attracted to you by displaying the traits that put her in that one-down position, she automatically likes you.
She automatically wants something to happen between you and her.
As a result, you get more from women by putting in so much less effort than other guys put in.
Because you are not trying hard to hopefully be liked.
You are not putting in loads of hours or weeks or maybe even months of effort, hoping that she is going to see that you are a good enough guy and then she may consider potentially giving you a chance.
Instead, she really likes you right away because she is feeling attracted to you.
You are not making the classic mistake that so many guys make of trying hard to hopefully be liked enough by the woman.
You are making her feel attracted to you.
It is surprisingly easy.
You will have witnessed it in your own life when another guy came along and made a woman feel attracted right in front of you, when you had been trying to hopefully be liked by her.
I hope you can understand that you do not have to put in loads of effort trying hard to hopefully be liked by women.
A woman will really like you right away if you focus on making her feel attracted to you.
As a result, you will get so much more from women by doing so much less than other guys.
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