How to Get Laid Without Chasing Women (The Selection Secret)

If you have had some experience with women, you will know that chasing women does not work.

But where a lot of guys go wrong is realizing that chasing women does not work and then thinking that what they need to do is just avoid going after women, work on themselves, and then women are going to come to them.

They think all the pretty girls, the beautiful women, are going to come to them.

And if you have been trying that yourself, for example, you will know that it does not work.

Pretty women just do not do that.

They do not come over and say, "Hey, I get the sense that you have been working on yourself and you are going places in life, so can I be your girlfriend?"

It just does not work that way.

So, for some guys, even initiating something with a woman makes them think that they might seem like they are chasing her.

They might seem like they are needy, like they want her, and want something to happen.

So, they feel like they cannot really initiate anything.

But what they do not realize is that women choose from the men who initiate things with them.

Because women do not go around asking men what they are up to, or asking for their phone numbers, or suggesting dates.

Instead, they choose from the men who initiate things with them.

The Power of Assertive Initiation

When a man initiates something with a woman, he does not need to be perfect.

Instead, he just has to initiate things in an attractive way.

And it does not have to be perfect attraction either.

And this is why the majority of women are absolutely fine not getting with their quote-unquote dream guy.

They will get with the guy who initiates things with them, makes them feel attracted, and moves things forward.

And he may not have created a perfect type of attraction, but he may have confidently initiated things with her, and she was impressed with his confidence.

Or he may have been a little bit confident, but he was just so charming.

And maybe he was a bit funny, or maybe he was good at flirting.

Or maybe she was impressed by how assertive he was when he asked her out, or when he moved in for a kiss, or when he suggested that she come over to his place.

Or maybe he is one of the guys who has a high level of social intelligence, which is also very attractive to women to the point where she feels like he is a cool guy.

He gets a lot of things and they are able to get along and have interesting conversations, and on top of that, he is confident and he is able to make her feel some attraction.

She then selects him as her lover, boyfriend, or even husband because women choose from the men who initiate things with them in an attractive way.

The Opportunity of Initiation

But as I said, it does not have to be perfect attraction to the point where the guy is an absolute stud, and he can get all the girls in the world.

Instead, for many women, they go through their life and guys definitely look at them everywhere that they go.

But guys do not initiate anything with them because they are afraid of rejection, or they do not know what to say, or they think that the woman must already have a boyfriend because she looks good.

So when a guy comes over and initiates things with her in an attractive way, he is an option for her.

She is feeling some attraction, and for most women, they are going to be thinking, "Yeah, this feels good."

She says yes to giving her phone number, she says yes to go out on a date, and they start a relationship.

And the thing is, the guy has not had to chase her or anything like that.

He is not being needy; instead, he is just initiating things with her, which is what a man needs to do.

Chasing vs. Healthy Reciprocation

One of the differences between chasing a woman and initiating things in an attractive way is that when you are chasing a woman, she is not reciprocating.

She is not reciprocating with signs of interest and opening up to you and wanting something to happen.

She is trying to get away from the interaction, or she is not replying, or she is turning away to talk to her friends instead.

Or you ask her out and she says no, and then you ask her out again and you plead, "Please just go out with me."

That is chasing.

But initiating things with women in an attractive way means that she is going to be feeling attracted to you, and she is going to be reciprocating by showing interest.

She contributes to the conversation, replies to your texts, and says yes when you suggest catching up.

But of course, women are women and they do not always just say yes right away.

Sometimes a woman will play a little bit hard to get to test your confidence, and she wants to make sure that you are confident enough for a girl like her.

She might pull back interest to see if you will continue interacting because you truly are interested in her.

Testing Your Masculine Core

Additionally, sometimes a woman will want to see how confident you really are.

So, she will playfully mess with you during the conversation, tease you, or disagree with an opinion that you have given.

She wants to see if your confidence is essentially as strong as fragile glass.

She wants to see how strong your confidence really is.

Those sorts of things can happen, but she is still going to be reciprocating because she is still in the conversation and wanting to interact with you.

She is not going to be walking away; she is reciprocating.

That is a lot different than chasing a woman who is not reciprocating and she is not wanting to interact with the guy.

Yet, that does not mean that you should not initiate anything with a woman because it might make you seem needy.

Most guys just look at women and do not initiate anything, and that is where the opportunity is available for you if you are brave enough to initiate in an attractive way.

Some guys do attempt to initiate, but they often do so in an unattractive way where the guy is insecure and self-doubting.

He is being too passive and following her lead in the interaction, and he does not have the trait of assertiveness.

Instead, he might be interacting with the woman and hoping that she is going to suggest something, or make it completely obvious that she wants to kiss him.

And the woman then senses that he lacks that assertiveness that women find attractive.

They do not want to be with a guy that they have to lead all the time and essentially tell what to do.

They want the guy to be more assertive and move things forward.

The Three Types of Guys in the Market

Are you one of the following three types of guys?

Number one: a guy who has realized that chasing women does not work, but has then gone on to think, "I should build up my body or my career and then pretty women are going to come to me."

If you have built up your body, you may have gotten some additional looks, but a woman looking at you does not mean that you are getting laid.

The second type of guy is a guy who does initiate things, but only with women that seem like "easy" ones to get with.

He avoids the pretty women that he really wants, thinking he will have a better chance with someone he is not that interested in.

And number three: a guy who initiates things with women that he finds attractive, but he then doubts himself when interacting with those women.

He does not believe that he is good enough, and it shows in his body language.

Those women lose interest because they do not want to take pity on a man; she wants to feel like the man is stronger than her emotionally.

Moving Beyond the Selection Gap

Once you have that essential confidence that you need to not only initiate things with a woman, but to feel worthy, you then continue on displaying new non-physical attractive traits.

When you do that, women feel more attracted to you and you get better results.

As a result, you do not ever have to chase women because they are reciprocating and wanting to be in the interaction.

What works is when you initiate things with a woman in an attractive way because women choose from the men who initiate things with them.

If you want her, you simply need to initiate things in an attractive way and she will automatically see you as a potential lover or boyfriend.

When an attractive opportunity is presented to a woman and she is single, she wants to open up to it because that is what she is looking for.

Yet, if you do not initiate anything with her, it is highly likely that she will not initiate anything with you.

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