How to Get Better With Women: The Secret to Being the Man She Craves

A lot of guys get to a point in their life where they wonder, "How do I get better with women?"

They ask this because they have experienced some rejections, or they have gotten dumped, or they talk to women and it doesn't seem to go anywhere.

Many guys end up focusing on the wrong things that do not actually get them the results that they want.

The first thing that you need to be aware of if you want to get better with women is to understand what is really holding you back.

For example, imagine a guy who has been working out at the gym, but he feels like he doesn't have enough muscle yet to be attractive.

Then imagine another guy who was overweight but lost the weight and now just has a normal, slim body.

Because the second guy feels amazing about himself and is confident, he starts getting laid and gets a girlfriend.

The gym guy is still comparing himself to others, thinking his muscles aren't big enough and that he needs to get bigger before women will want him.

If the guy who spent a year getting a normal body had the confidence of the former fat guy, he would be getting laid like a rock star.

What is really holding the first guy back is a lack of confidence and self-esteem, not his physical appearance.

He has insecurities about his look and doesn't have a high enough level of self-esteem to feel like he has value.

Moving Beyond Neutral Conversations

For other guys, they are already confident around women they find attractive, but their conversations feel fairly neutral.

The guy asks her what she does for a living, she asks him, and he keeps it going as best he can, but it just seems friendly.

There is no spark there because what is missing is flirting and the ability to create sexual tension.

Other guys can flirt, but they do not actually move things forward because they lack the boldness to lead.

The best way to get better with women is to learn how to display a new attractive non-physical trait.

When you do that, women feel more attracted to you and you get better results.

As you learn more traits, you experience ever-increasing attractiveness and confidence because you see how women react to you.

There is nothing wrong with improving your physical appearance, but if you only focus on the physical, you will only get more looks.

Getting looked at by a woman is not the same as getting laid or getting herself to be your girlfriend.

To get results, you must have the courage to interact and the confidence to feel worthy while you are doing it.

The Hidden Power of Social Intelligence

One of the most important parts of non-physical attraction that many guys overlook is social intelligence.

Social intelligence is the thing that can cause a woman to suddenly feel an increased amount of attraction for you.

If you lack it and make certain mistakes, a woman can go from liking you to suddenly losing interest.

When she loses interest, many guys start to worry and panic, which shows that they do not know how to handle women like her.

She doesn't want to mother or mentor a guy, because that kills her sexual attraction and respect for him.

She wants a guy who already "gets it" and understands how to be a man that women respect and feel lucky to be with.

Common Social Intelligence Mistakes

One major mistake is missing subtle signs of interest, such as her laughing at your jokes or preening her hair.

If a guy doesn't pick up on these and move things forward, she realizes he lacks the intelligence to understand female communication.

Women are subtle because if they are too obvious, most guys will see them as easy or "cheap," so they need you to be the leader.

Another mistake is not reading the room correctly, such as being too serious when the vibe is fun and easygoing.

An intelligent guy might try to showcase his IQ to impress a woman, but initially, she is more interested in how you make her feel.

She wants to feel turned on by your flirting, your playfully challenging humor, or your secure masculinity.

If you are just trying to show how smart you are out of insecurity, she will sense that and lose interest.

A third mistake is taking her playful teasing too seriously or literally.

A woman will often tease a guy to create a spark or to test if he is confident enough to handle her.

If he feels insulted or gets defensive, she realizes he is probably insecure and needs constant reassurance.

This tells her the relationship would be too uptight and serious rather than relaxed and easygoing.

Seeking Approval vs. Creating Attraction

Bragging to hopefully make a woman like you is another clear sign of a lack of social intelligence.

A woman can sense when a guy is sharing a story to get her approval versus a guy who is just sharing information confidently.

Similarly, being too agreeable or giving too many compliments makes you seem like you are sucking up to her.

She senses that you are amazed to even be talking to her, rather than acting like a man who is on her level.

The reality is that all of your problems with women go away when you are actually able to attract them.

I see guys in our community who apply these non-physical traits and stop hoping for a chance and start creating one.

They move from being "nice guys" who hope for pity to men who display rugged, untamed energy.

The Importance of Rugged Energy

If you are a normal, everyday guy who isn't getting results, you need to increase your attractiveness through your behavior.

You might need to be more assertive, more bold, or add in what I call "untamed energy" rather than being tamed.

I was talking to a guy recently who was great at talking to people but came across as too "happy-go-lucky" and boyish.

That approach might attract masculine women, but if you want pretty, feminine women, you need to add some ruggedness.

A feminine woman wants to experience polarity, which means she wants to experience the opposite of her.

She wants a bit of boldness in how you talk to her and how you move the interaction toward sex or a relationship.

When you add that masculine energy in, you will notice that women feel more attracted to you instantly.

This creates a cycle where you feel more confident, get better results, and continue to improve your life.

If you are ready to stop being "tamed" and start being the man women actually crave, it is time to focus on the inner traits.

Stop worrying about your muscle definition and start focusing on the masculine presence you bring to the conversation.

I can help you identify exactly which non-physical traits are missing from your toolkit right now.

For more info, watch this video about the Attraction Mastery series right now.