How to Get an Attractive Girl to Like You (The Blind Spot Secret)
Most guys go through their life not knowing that female attraction has a blind spot.
And once you see it, once you realize that it exists, the world is your oyster, so to speak, in terms of women.
You start getting opportunities with women that other guys cannot even see and do not even realize are there.
For example, a woman can look at a tall, handsome man and find him attractive because he is physically good-looking.
If an average-looking guy is standing next to him, she is most likely going to feel less attraction for the average-looking man because the handsome man looks better.
So she feels more attracted to him, but the blind spot that most guys do not realize is that she does not know how much attraction she is going to feel for the handsome man versus the average-looking man until she interacts with them.
The Truth About the Female Attraction Blind Spot
The handsome looking man who is tall might actually be quite nervous and unsure of himself.
And as a result of that, for most women, they are going to lose interest.
If the woman is not attractive, then she will often like the fact that the handsome man is insecure and self-doubting because then she feels like she has more of a chance.
But if the woman is attractive, in almost all cases, she is not going to be feeling an increased amount of attraction for the handsome man when she interacts with him and realizes that he is insecure and self-doubting.
But if she interacts with the average-looking man and it turns out that he is confident and he can be a bit charming, things change.
He may be able to make her laugh, or he may be able to flirt with her, or she just senses that he is very secure in his masculinity.
He does not feel like he needs to suppress his masculinity around her and be softer and nicer because he is in the presence of a woman and he has got to put on this act of being this nice, innocent guy.
Instead, he continues to be masculine as he interacts with her and she realizes that she is interacting with a man.
Then, as a result of that, she is going to feel an increased amount of attraction for him.
She may not have seen him as her first choice in terms of appearance because there are good-looking men around in the situation.
But now that she is interacting with him, she is feeling a lot of attraction for him and he is interested.
Why Average-Looking Guys Can Win
He can go from not being an option in her mind because she is not feeling amazed by his appearance, to her feeling like she really likes this guy.
And he then has an opportunity with her, but many guys do not even realize that that opportunity exists because they see the way that women react to handsome men.
It is pretty obvious that if a man is very handsome and tall, women are looking at him and they like him more based on how he looks.
So if a guy is average-looking, for example, and he is not getting those sorts of reactions from women, he assumes he has no chance.
But if he interacts with an attractive woman and he was just feeling extra confident and extra easygoing, he can talk to her and not be afraid.
He may have accidentally thrown in a bit of a joke and she laughed, or he may have accidentally started to flirt with her.
Then she will feel an increased amount of attraction for him.
She may have looked at him and initially thought no, but she did not know how much attraction she would feel for him until they interacted.
But if he is used to not thinking that women he finds attractive will want him, then he will often just see that as the woman reacting in a friendly way.
How to Trigger Attraction During an Interaction
He does not realize that a woman's attraction can increase for a man when she is interacting with him.
She can start feeling attracted to him for many different reasons that are important to women.
For example, it is important to almost all attractive women that the man is at least as confident as her, but ideally, he is more confident than her.
So she does not essentially have a baby on her hands, or a boy that she is going to have to encourage to man up.
If a guy is actually more confident than an attractive woman, and he is only average-looking, that has value to her.
That attracts her to a guy, because a guy who has that quality is going to feel so much better to be around.
One member of my community was a virgin until 23 years old, and once he started to learn that he can actually make women feel attracted, he realized how easy it actually is.
Most guys do not realize the opportunity that is there because they are waiting for women to make it really obvious that they want to be with them, which most women do not do.
Even for handsome men, they do not have attractive women coming up to them asking for their number in almost all cases.
But for this guy, he recently has been sleeping with four different women, and a couple of them were attractive women who were not even showing that much interest initially.
And with the attractive women that I was with over the years, I was basically nothing special in terms of how I look.
I am just an average-looking guy, yet those women did not know how much attraction they were going to feel for me until I started interacting with them.
Avoiding the Trap of "Interview Mode"
Additionally, it is not just about having a conversation where you attempt to get along with her.
This member of my community was interacting with some women when another guy joined the group and he was in interview mode.
He was asking what she does, where she is from, and what her favorite movie is, trying to get to know her through questions.
But what this member of my community was doing was making her feel attracted and triggering attraction inside of her.
As a result, the women felt attracted to him and his confidence is going through the roof.
If you start interacting with a woman and she is showing interest, do not get too excited and start seeming very keen.
The woman realizes the guy is very excited that he may be getting an opportunity with her, and as a result, she senses desperation.
She then starts to lose interest or she starts to test his confidence to see if it is real.
She might play a little bit hard to get or playfully tease him to see how he is going to react.
If he then starts to crumble, she realizes that he is really not as confident as her, and therefore her interest plummets.
Closing the Deal with Confidence
While the female attraction blind spot exists where they do not know how much attraction they are going to feel for you, you still need to be able to make the woman feel attracted as you interact.
If you can do that, then you are in, and she is open to something happening.
Most guys just look at women and feel attracted and do not do anything about it, or they have interactions and just doubt themselves.
They think there are other guys around who are tall and handsome, so they just count themselves out.
But when you realize that her attraction for you increases when you interact, you realize that you do actually have an opportunity.
The way that women are is that in most cases they are not going to make that obvious or say something provocative right away.
Instead, she is just going to talk to you, and if you do not have the confidence to move things forward when she opens that window of opportunity, she will close it.
She will wait for a guy who is confident enough to do that rather than having to pat a guy on the back.
A woman does not decide that she is going to have sex with you based only on how you look.
When you interact with her, that is when she starts to decide whether or not she finds you sexually attractive.
If you are just talking to her in a neutral way like she is a friend, it is not a turn on.
A turn on is going to be when you can actually flirt with her or use playfully challenging humor.
When you create sexual tension between you and her, she is quickly deciding that she wants to have sex with him or that she is open to it.
You will never feel like you have control over this area of your life if you do not actually know how to make women feel attracted.
But when you understand the blind spot secret, you realize that you actually have control.
It is up to him in almost all cases how much attraction a woman will feel for him based on how he behaves.
When they feel an increased amount of attraction, they make that sexual decision in their mind and open up to it.
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