How to Get a Woman to Want You: 5 Things That Work

^{By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction}

When you know how to make women want you in the ways that I'm going to explain in this video, it all becomes so much easier.

Yet, when guys don't know what I'm about to explain now, they will often use approaches with women that cost them a lot of time, energy and effort for minimal, or no results.

If he just made a slight change, the woman would want him and he would get results so much easier.

So with this first one, it might sound a little bit difficult initially when I call it out, but once I explain it, you'll realize that you can actually do it.

So, number one:

1. Be more confident than her

For some guys, that may seem difficult because they assume that all women are confident.

They know that men want them, and they must be so confident in themselves.

Yet, when you actually look into studies on anxiety, depression, and shyness, you realize that actually, women are more anxious, more depressed, and more shy than men in most cases.

It doesn't mean that all women are anxious, all women are depressed, and all women are shy, but generally speaking, more women are shy and anxious compared to men.

So, the way that it works in terms of making a woman want you is that what makes a woman feel attracted is when you're more confident than her.

Sometimes you'll come across a woman who is very confident and she's going to want a guy who is more confident than her.

If you're not more confident than her, then she's going to struggle to feel attracted to you.

But in other cases where you meet a pretty woman or a beautiful woman and she's a bit shy or a bit anxious, or she's just generally confident—she's not very confident, she's just kind of okay—and she senses that you're more confident than her, then she will naturally feel attracted to you.

Women are attracted to men who are more confident than they are.

It gives them a feeling of safety and security.

It also allows her to feel as though if she got into a relationship with him, he's probably not going to be an emotionally sensitive soft guy that she's going to have to be really gentle with emotionally.

She's going to have to take care of his emotions and pat him on the back.

Instead, he seems like a guy who can hold his own.

As a result, in her mind he's less likely to become insecure, needy, clingy, and emotionally sensitive in a relationship.

By the way, I'll give you some examples of how to let her see that you are more confident than her in this video.

For now, number two:

2. Create sexual tension rather than just trying to connect

Just trying to connect is where a guy will be talking politely, being friendly, and focusing on building a connection based on mutual interests, values, or opinions.

In many cases, that will take a lot of effort and time and energy for him to be talking to a woman in that way.

In many cases, he will just end up in the friend zone.

Yet when a guy focuses on creating sexual tension, the woman wants him sexually.

She wants something to happen.

Sexual tension is where you and a woman are feeling sexually attracted to each other, but neither of you are acting on it yet.

It is building up between you and her.

It's obvious that you and her are feeling sexually attracted to each other.

It is mutual.

It is on, and you're creating that.

I'll give you a few ways that you can create that in a second.

But sexual tension is when that is existing between you and her.

That is a lot different to what many guys do when they want a woman to want them.

The guy will put in a lot of effort and spend a lot of time and energy trying to connect with her.

He hopes that if they just keep talking and they have a lot in common and she sees that he has good values and opinions and attributes and so on, then she's going to pick him.

She's going to want to be with him.

But in cases like that, as you may have experienced yourself, all it takes for you to be pushed to the side is another guy to enter the interaction and just start creating sexual tension with her.

Create what is necessary initially for a woman to want a guy as a lover, boyfriend, or potential husband.

She's looking at him in a sexual way rather than just connecting with him and thinking:

"Yeah, this guy is a good guy. We're having a nice chat here. He seems like he has some good values and good opinions and so on. And oh, we've got that in common. That's nice, isn't it?"

But in order for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship to begin or a lover relationship to begin, there needs to be sexual tension there.

You need to create that sexual tension between you and her where both of you are feeling sexually attracted and you both want something to happen.

Then what is supposed to happen next, after you've built up sexual tension, is that you release the sexual tension with kissing or sex.

Not with: "I'm just going to try to connect with her more. I'm just going to keep talking to her."

If a guy keeps doing that, he will just often end up in the friend zone.

Another guy will come in, make her feel sexually attracted, build up some sexual tension, and she'll just like him instead now.

Because that is what she needs to feel initially.

Only when that exists will a woman then really appreciate the connection that you and her have.

Not only do you feel sexually attracted to each other, but you're connecting.

To her, it feels like she's found the guy for her.

It is not just talking and getting along.

It is not just all about sex.

He's creating sexual tension and they're connecting as well.

So, here are some ways to create sexual tension.

If you're talking to a woman and you would normally make eye contact with her and then sort of break eye contact a lot—or when it gets to that moment where you're holding eye contact and you can feel a bit of tension, you might then look away because you're feeling that tension between you and her—

But if you can just hold it a little bit longer and add in a subtle smile while you're holding the eye contact, then it creates that tension where she is feeling that extra tension between you and her.

She can see that you're not being awkward about it or tense about it.

So it's not about having a staring competition with her where you're just holding eye contact and there's nothing else going on.

There’s a bit of a subtle smile as well as you hold that eye contact a little bit longer.

Then she realizes that okay, there is tension existing between you and her and you're also flirting with her a bit now.

She is aware that you find her attractive and because you've been making her feel attracted to you, then she is going to smile back.

She's going to have that subtle smile.

She's going to give you that look that you've seen women maybe sometimes give you, where they're feeling it and you're feeling it.

Now it's on.

You and her are feeling it for each other and that sexual tension exists, but neither of you are acting on it yet.

You're not jumping on each other yet and kissing and having sex.

The tension is just building.

Yet the thing is, when a guy does that, he can create that type of dynamic between him and the woman within a minute.

Whereas another guy will be talking to a woman for an hour or two hours and that still will not even exist yet.

But he's just trying to connect with her and he's putting in a lot of time and energy and effort in trying to connect with her when what he actually needs to do is establish that.

Because it's not about being friends with each other.

She's not looking for a professional friend or a nice friend just to have a chat.

She's looking for a potential lover, boyfriend, or husband.

So another way that you can create sexual tension is to subtly check her out.

Finally, another way to create some sexual tension and have that awareness between you and her that you and her find each other sexually attractive and that it is on, is that if she flirts with you by touching you on the arm or touching you on the leg—which women will sometimes do—or maybe they will bump up against you, she will brush against you and so forth.

If she does that, just give her a knowing smile when she does it.

So she touches you on the leg or she touches you on the arm, and rather than saying something about it or rather than not doing anything about it—just remaining still and remaining neutral and not acknowledging it, not using that as a moment where you can communicate that you and her are finding each other sexually attractive—

Use it as a moment to just give her a bit of a smile, a bit of a subtle smile.

Or if you really want to amp it up, you look at where she touched you, so it is obvious about what you're thinking.

You look at where she touched you, smile, and look her in the eyes.

So she touches you on the arm or leg and rather than just continuing on, you stop for a moment and look down and then look her in the eyes with a smile to let her know that you know what is going on.

She then knows that you know that she wants you.

There is that private understanding between you and her now.

She doesn't have to play mind games and act like she is not interested in you anymore.

She doesn't have to pretend like she is Miss Innocent and would never have a sexual thought.

Instead, there is a private understanding between you and her that sexual tension is existing, and you have not even had to say anything about it such as,

"Oh, you want to have sex with me?" or,

"Hey, there's a lot of sexual tension here."

You don't need to say anything like that.

It can be understood very subtly.

You may have seen that play out with guys who are naturally good with women, where they will start talking to a woman and that sort of stuff will happen very quickly if not right away.

Whereas other guys who want women to want them will be talking and talking and talking to a woman for thirty minutes, an hour, two hours, and not get anywhere.

Or if they then ask for her phone number, she will say something like,

"Why do you want my number?"

Because from her perspective it is just a friendly conversation.

Why does he want her number?

He doesn't seem to be sexually interested in her.

There doesn't seem to be any sexual tension there.

What does he want? To be her friend or something?

So she will ask that sort of question, and that will really stump a lot of guys in the moment.

Because the guy will have been friendly.

He may have been funny.

He might be quite confident.

He might be quite cool.

He might have had a lot of interesting things to say and they may have connected on some interesting topics.

But what was missing was the sexual tension.

Not in a sleazy way, but you're just checking her out.

If she catches you looking at her, you then give her a smile rather than looking away and feeling like you've just been busted.

So if you're talking to her and you're getting along, you're having a chat and then you check her out and she notices that you're checking her out, you just give her a bit of a smile as you're doing it.

She realizes that you're comfortable with the sexual attraction that you're feeling for her.

You're comfortable with the fact that there is tension building up between you and her.

Because you've been making her feel attracted, she's going to be smiling back at you.

She's going to be feeling it.

It's going to be on.

She's going to be aware that there is sexual tension building up between you and her.

It's not about just being friends or just having a nice chat.

You want this woman to want you in a sexual or romantic way.

You do not want her to just see you as a nice person and that is it, or a forgettable guy.

If you want her to see you in a sexual and romantic way, you have to be comfortable and willing to create some sexual tension rather than spending hours and all of that time and energy and effort trying to connect and connect and connect.

Number three.

3. Show that you're selective without saying it.

Women feel attracted to a man who has standards.

It shows that he is not desperate and needy compared to a guy who comes across in a way where he is essentially liking everything that she says and everything about her.

Even if she behaves in ways that she knows are not really the best—she may say some things that other guys who have standards might withdraw a little bit of interest as a result of—but if he just keeps liking everything and just putting up with everything, she realizes that he is quite desperate and he is willing to put up with anything just to get a chance with her.

Yet showing a woman that you have standards is not about saying,

"Hey, I'm very picky and I don't just go for a girl because she's pretty. I mean, what else is there to you? Tell me three things about yourself that would impress me."

It's not about that.

Instead, it is just about honestly being able to be interested in some of the things that she is saying and doing, and not as interested in others.

If she is behaving in a certain way that you're not that interested in, you don't get butt-hurt about that and upset, but you may just casually start to lose a bit of interest and be talking to someone else.

Or, as you're talking to her and looking at her, she can just sense that you're casually losing a bit of interest now and she feels that pressure.

The thing is, women often do that to men, and men feel the pressure.

Yet what a lot of guys do not realize is that they can actually make a woman feel some pressure.

When you make a woman feel some pressure to impress you, then she wants you more.

You seem like the prize now.

You seem like a guy that isn't desperate, isn't needy, and that seems like he could easily attract other women to the point where he's selective.

He is not one of those guys who is just going to accept anything about her and just like everything to hopefully show that he is really nice and willing to put up with anything.

The thing is, it's a good thing to love and accept a woman for who she is, flaws and all.

Let her be who she really wants to be.

But that doesn't mean that you have to show lots of interest about everything that she is presenting to you.

Instead, you show interest in the things that capture your interest, that pique your interest, that make you think,

"Yeah, I like that." or "I like what she said there. I like the way she's behaving now."

To the point where, when she's saying something, you can then genuinely say something like,

"Oh okay, that's interesting. Yeah, tell me more about that."

It comes from a genuine place where it's like,

"Oh, that's interesting."

You're saying that because maybe something else that she was talking about wasn't that interesting.

You're not necessarily saying, "Hey, what you were talking about before was boring," but you can say that as a joke.

That's fine.

If you can say,

"All right, finally, you're talking about something that's not boring. Tell me more about this. You were boring me just a moment ago."

You can say those sorts of things as a joke.

There is nothing wrong with that.

Women find that sort of thing funny and they find it attractive because you have the confidence and courage to be able to say that to a woman and not be afraid of losing your chance with her.

Not being one of those guys who are desperate or needy or being on their best behavior to hopefully pass all the woman's tests and get all the ticks and tick off all the boxes on the checklist to hopefully then get a chance.

Instead, you're so non-needy that you can actually say something like that to a woman and not worry.

The irony is that it actually draws her to you more.

It makes her want you more.

4. Remain calm when she tests you.

Women will always test your confidence until they can see that it is real.

When a woman sees that your confidence is real and she then attempts to test you about that and you do not buckle under the pressure, she then loses interest in trying to test for weakness in that area because you are not weak.

It is going to be pointless for her to say something because she is not going to make you feel uncomfortable.

You are not going to crumble under the pressure.

She might occasionally say something as a joke, but it is not going to affect you anyway because you are genuinely confident.

You are honestly confident.

Yet where a lot of guys go wrong when they want to make a woman want them is that, because women do test, the guy assumes that the woman has all the power.

She seems to be the one who is judging.

She seems to be the one who is in control.

It is basically up to her.

He does not realize that he can take control back for himself, and that not only does he not have to allow the woman to control him, but she does not want to control him.

She wants to see that she cannot control him.

So when a woman tests you, you remain calm under the pressure and she realizes that you are the one in control.

As you are talking to a woman, she may behave a little bit distant all of a sudden or pretend to be losing interest in talking to you to see if you are going to crack under the pressure.

Or she might make a sarcastic remark or playfully tease you just to see what you are made of.

Are you going to crumble under the pressure now?

If you then crumble under the pressure and you feel like,

"Oh no, I’m losing her here. I need to try harder to impress her now,"

then she realizes that she can easily control you, that she is the one who is in control, she has all the power.

That is not attractive.

That is not going to make her want you.

But if she starts to be a bit distant or pretends to lose interest and you are aware that women will pretend to lose interest at times during a conversation to test your confidence, or she says a sarcastic remark or playfully teases you and you just remain calm and you do not crumble under the pressure, then she realizes that okay, this is a man.

This is a man that she can respect.

This is a man that she will happily open up to sexually and emotionally because he seems stronger than her emotionally.

That is what women want.

They want a man who is more confident than them.

And the fifth one on the list is:

5. Remain easygoing if she becomes serious.

The thing is, sometimes you will be talking to a woman and she will be easygoing and she will be open and down to earth and friendly and so on, but she will then suddenly or gradually change to become more serious and tense.

The easygoing vibe that was happening between you and her starts to disappear—if you follow that.

But if a woman suddenly changes and is being serious and inward, and sometimes that can be her testing by the way, but if she suddenly becomes very serious or a bit uptight, a bit reserved, pulls back a bit, and is talking in a more serious tone—because sometimes she will worry that she is seeming too easy.

She will worry that the guy might not value her enough if she is just so easy and friendly all the time.

So she starts to become serious.

And guys who mess up at that point will follow the woman’s lead.

She becomes serious and inward and is not saying much, so he follows that lead and becomes serious too and no longer feels like it is okay to be easygoing and light-hearted.

He follows her into her serious type of mood and vibe.

But what is going to make a woman want you in a moment like that is when you can be what I refer to as emotionally independent.

When you are emotionally independent, it means that you can feel confident and good about yourself regardless of what other people are saying or doing.

If you feel like you want to be easygoing and light-hearted and there are other people in the group being really uptight and tense, it is not going to affect you.

You are going to remain relaxed and easygoing even though everyone seems to be very serious at the moment and feeling awkward.

You are going to remain relaxed and easygoing.

What makes a woman feel attracted to you about that is that she realizes that you have that emotional independence.

She knows instinctively, as a woman, that her moods change throughout the month.

Women go through a menstrual cycle and they feel differently at certain times of the month.

A woman’s moods are not always consistent.

Sometimes she can be a little bit moody.

Sometimes she will be very bright and happy and feeling good about herself.

On other days she will feel a bit anxious.

What women feel attracted to and drawn to in men—and what really makes a woman want a man—is when she realizes that he is unaffected by those sorts of things.

He is his own man regardless of what she is saying or doing.

That makes her want you.

By the way, if you have enjoyed this video and you would like to learn all of my best attraction secrets that I cannot share on YouTube—because I have already recorded them in my Attraction Mastery video series—then I recommend that you start watching the lessons.

The guys who have been learning from me and applying my techniques are getting results like this, where they make women want them so quickly that they are kissing women within minutes.

How about having sex on the first night?

It happens all the time for the members of my community (Master Attraction Community).

Of course, it's not all about just having sex on the first night.

Many guys want to get themselves a girlfriend, and guys who are learning from me get that as well.

They find women who are perfect for them and they get into a relationship.

You can make women feel attracted to you.

You can make women want you.

It all comes down to the type of traits that you are displaying when you are interacting with a woman.

There are certain approaches that guys use that cost them a lot of time and energy, as I was saying, where they are talking and talking and talking or trying to be really nice to the woman and not get anywhere.

Whereas another guy will talk to her and he will get the result right away.

It does not mean that he is a good-looking, tall guy or something like that.

The member here—5’8” in terms of height—and look what he achieved.

That also happened for another member.

I do not know how tall he is.

But you can make women feel attracted to you.

You can make women want you.

If you are serious about this, if you want to stop getting rejected and overlooked by women or friend-zoned, then start watching my Attraction Mastery video lessons and apply the techniques.

You will be amazed what happens between you and women—how much they want you.

So if you are interested in having that sort of power, start watching Attraction Mastery and you'll start getting results with women.