How to Become the Man Women WANT to Sleep With

A lot of men assume that to be the man women want, you have to be tall, handsome, rich or be naturally confident with women since a young age.

Yet if that were true, then average-looking men with an average level of confidence wouldn't be getting girlfriends, having casual sex or enjoying happy marriages with attractive women every single day across the world.

So what's really going on?

The truth is that becoming the man women want to sleep with has far less to do with your appearance than most men realize.

It’s mostly about understanding how female attraction REALLY works and then behaving in ways that naturally trigger that attraction.

When you do that, women automatically begin to see you as the kind of man they want because what women really want is to feel ATTRACTION.

Here are 10 secrets that will help you become and be the man women want to sleep with.

Secret #1: Don't Expect Her to Show Interest Straight Away

This is where most guys mess up when meeting women.

A guy walks over to an attractive woman.

She seems polite, but she isn't giving obvious signs that she's attracted to him.

So, he assumes that he’s not good looking enough for her, or that she is subtly rejecting him.

He then becomes very nervous, starts trying too hard to impress her or walks away thinking that he had no chance with her.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

For example: If another guy interacts with her and notices that she seems polite, but isn’t showing signs of wanting him, he understands that it is completely NORMAL.

He knows that women often need a bit of time to warm up to a guy, after checking to see if he is genuinely confident, can handle a woman not being reassuring all the time and is interested in her enough to want to continue the interaction.

5 minutes later, she's laughing, touching him and hoping that he asks for her number.

This is because a woman’s attraction often develops during the interaction, not before it.

That's why so many men wrongly believe women only want exceptionally handsome guys.

Yes, physical appearance can create instant attraction, or attraction before an interaction.
However, for the overwhelming majority of men who aren't male models, attraction is built DURING the interaction.

Most Women Don't Need to Feel Instant Attraction

One of the biggest dating mistakes men make is assuming attraction is either there or it isn't.

That’s not how it works though.

Women can go from feeling neutral about a man to feeling strongly attracted within seconds or minutes when he displays attractive non-physical traits (e.g. confident, charm, social intelligence, emotional intelligence, emotional masculinity).

That's one of the reasons why you've seen average-looking men dating beautiful women.

In some cases, he got lucky, but in other cases, he knew how to trigger female attraction and then how to shoot his shot to get to a kiss, sex or into a relationship.

Secret #2: Stop Hoping to Get Lucky

Many men have experienced a woman liking them almost immediately without them having to do anything.

That’s called getting lucky.

As a result, a man will often go through his life thinking that attraction works in that way (i.e. it has to be there easily and instantly without him doing anything).

If it doesn't happen, they conclude:

    •    Women aren't interested in them.
    •    Attractive women only want handsome men.
    •    Dating is impossible nowadays.

Yet, he’s simply relying on luck, which means he will find a woman like that 1 in 1,000 chances.

In most cases, she won’t have the kind of looks that he really wants, but he’ll be so needy for a result by that point that he’ll consider accepting her.

Alternatively, if she is pretty, he messes it up by being too nervous and doubting himself, so she loses interest. 

On the other hand, men who consistently succeed with women don't rely on women instantly liking them.

Instead, they know how to CREATE attraction during an interaction.

That makes their success predictable instead of random.

Instead of hoping for the perfect woman to magically like them, they know they can make most women feel attracted by displaying the right behaviors.

That changes everything.

It puts you in control, rather than hopelessly waiting for an attractive women to like you and want you for no reason (i.e. hoping to get lucky).

Secret #3: Confidence Creates Attraction

Confidence is one of the biggest attraction triggers women respond to.

When a man is able to be relaxed and continue to beige in himself around an attractive woman who isn't making things easy for him, she notices.

She sees that he isn't intimidated.

He isn't looking for her approval of him as a person, in order to feel confident.

He believes he's good enough regardless of how she is behaving around him.

That kind of emotional strength makes women feel more feminine around him, which triggers an enjoyable attraction for her.

This is one of the reasons many average-looking men are able to attract and keep pretty women.

On the other hand, a handsome man who becomes nervous around an attractive woman can quickly turn her off.

She may like his appearance initially, but his nervous, self-doubting behavior makes her feel stronger than him emotionally and therefore, she can’t feel feminine around him.

Secret #4: Women Test Your Confidence

Many men think they're being rejected when a woman tests their confidence (e.g. by playing a bit hard to get, teasing them about something, seeming to lose interest).

Yet, it’s something that women do to screen out the boys from the real men.

So, a woman may be holding back and not showing much interest at first because she's trying to work out what you're made of.

Will you lose confidence?

Will you become needy for her to like you, so you can feel okay?

Will you seek reassurance that she likes you?

Or will you continue talking to her without being negatively affected?

When you remain confident, her guard often comes down.

She becomes warmer.

More relaxed.

More interested.

More open.

Many men never experience this with the kind of women they really want because they give up and leave too early.

Secret #5: Attraction is Usually Triggered by Non-Physical Traits

 Non-physical traits, such as:

• Confidence.
• Humor.
• Presence.
• Charm.
• Emotional masculinity.
• Flirting.
• Assertiveness.

Those are all non-physical qualities that a woman experiences when she interacts with you..

That's why a woman can initially overlook a man as being average or below-average in terms of attractiveness based on his physical appearance, only to then become very attracted after talking to him for a few minutes.

This is also why improving your appearance helps, but rarely solves the real problem.

If your behavior doesn't trigger attraction and instead turns women off, then your looks can only take you so far.

Secret #6: Your Past Doesn't Determine Your Future

Many men assume they've already missed their chance to succeed with women and it’s too late now.

Maybe they were rejected in school.

Maybe they've struggled with dating for years.

Maybe they're still a virgin.

Maybe they haven't had sex for a long time.

Maybe they’ve been cheated on by multiple girlfriends.

Maybe they’ve gone through a lot of painful breakups. 

None of that has to determine what happens NEXT in your life.

The difference between men who succeed with women and men who don't is usually just a lack of knowledge of how to be attractive to women.

Once you understand how attraction REALLY works, your results with women change surprisingly quickly.

100s of men that I have helped went from believing they could never attract and keep a beautiful woman, to having two or three beautiful women interested in them at the same time. 

Once you get how attraction works, you live a completely different life with women that you could never access otherwise. 

Secret #7: Success Builds on Itself

The first time you successfully attract a woman, something important happens.

You now have proof that you can do it.

You also know more about what you need to do to get a result.

So, the next interaction becomes easier.

Then the next and the next.

Instead of starting from zero every time, you bring experience and a rising level of confidence into every conversation.

That's why men who understand attraction continue getting results.

It's no longer random for them.

It's repeatable.

Secret #8: Most Men Underestimate What Women Actually Want

Many guys believe they need:

    •    Six-pack abs.
    •    A luxury car.
    •    Expensive clothes.
    •    Perfect looks.

Yet, millions of ordinary men are having sex, getting girlfriends and enjoying happy relationships without those things.

Why?

Because women don’t only choose men based on appearance.

Instead, they respond to how a man makes them feel.

When a woman feels sexually attracted around you, your physical appearance becomes something to consider rather than the deciding factor of weather or not she sleeps with you.

Additionally, it has been proven by studies that when a woman feels attracted to you in non-physical ways (e.g. confidence, emotional intelligence, flirting, charm), she then looks at your physical appearance in a more positive light. 

In fact, a member of my community recently had an experience where after he had made a woman feel attracted for non-physical reasons, a woman said that she just noticed he had a ‘cute’ nose. 

Yet, he actually has a big nose and had been bullied about it in the past. 

She saw it as ‘cute’ because of her non-physical attraction to him, which made her view his physical appearance in a positive light. 

Secret #9: Women Want Opportunities

When a woman is single, she usually wants opportunities to meet men.

She may not show it.

She will rarely, if ever, approach a man.

She may even seem difficult to read.

But that doesn't mean she isn't interested in meeting a man.

Instead, if she goes around approaching men, most men will have sex with her even if they don’t like her as a person, or want to stay with her. 

So, she has to wait for opportunities.

When you start a conversation with a woman in a confident, easygoing way, you're giving her an opportunity that she has usually been hoping would happen.

This is one of the reasons why confidently approaching women is so much easier than most men expect. 

Secret #10: You Don't Need to Be Perfect

Perhaps the biggest myth in dating is that women expect perfection.

They don't.

You don't need perfect looks.

Perfect confidence.

Perfect conversation skills.

Perfect flirting.

You simply need enough non-physical attractive qualities to make her feel more attracted than she did when she first noticed you.

Once attraction begins building during the interaction (it can happen with 10 seconds to a minute or two), everything becomes so much easier.

The conversation flows.

She starts helping the interaction move forward.

That's how attraction naturally develops.

Become the Man Women Want

If you've been waiting for women to show obvious interest before making a move, you've probably missed many opportunities with women who would have had sex or a relationship with you.

If you've been assuming attractive women only want exceptionally handsome men, you've probably underestimated your chances.

Likewise, if you've been relying on luck rather than just understanding attraction and then actively attracting women, you've made dating far harder than it needs to be.

The reality is that becoming the man women want to sleep with isn't about becoming someone else.

It's about understanding how female attraction actually works and then displaying the behaviors that naturally trigger it.

Once you do that, you'll stop wondering why average-looking and even below-average-looking guys are attracting beautiful women.

You'll understand exactly how they're doing it and you'll be able to do the same.

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