How to Be More Assertive with Women (AM vs PM)
The men who do this are the most attractive to women.
It is something that only a small percentage of men actually do.
A lot of men go through their life doing the opposite around women they find attractive and they wonder why nothing is happening.
They ask themselves why they are stuck while other guys are getting girlfriends.
In some cases, a guy will see another man who is shorter than the woman or overweight and wonder how that guy got the result.
The reality is that those guys did something that women find the most attractive.
At some point, they were actively masculine (AM) rather than passively masculine (PM).
Being active masculine means that you are being assertive with women.
You are going after what you want, asking for what you want and even telling her to do things for you (at times).
This is where so many guys go wrong in today's world.
They are being passively masculine around women, without realizing it because of the advice they hear online from naive, young guys who haven't yet figured out what it means to be a real man.
They are told to be stoic and just do their own thing.
They are told to ignore women and if they do, women will come chasing after them.
Yet, it doesn't happen because women are PASSIVE and they are waiting for men to be ACTIVE.
So many guys don't realize this and end up missing out on opportunities to be with women, who were just waiting for him to make a move.
As a result, a guy will be at a cafe waiting for his coffee next to a pretty woman.
He stands there ignoring her, trying to show her he is not desperate or needy.
He thinks he is being grounded and stoic.
Yet, the woman does nothing.
Women are mostly passive and they are not going to do anything about it.
She may even think he looks handsome, but she will not ask for his number, or ask to take him out on a date.
She wants a guy who is going to be actively masculine (i.e. assertive).
To put it into perspective, think about being on a date at your place.
If you are just sitting there on the sofa and talking to her and there's an opportunity for you to put your arm around her, or start kissing her, but you're not doing it, then you are being passively masculine.
Yet, if you put your arm around her or initiate a kiss, you are being actively masculine.
When you are window shopping at a mall next to an attractive woman, you are just a potential man to her.
She does not know yet if you have the kind of active masculinity that she can look up to and respect.
A lot of guys are ashamed to be masculine or have not grown into it yet.
They don't understand that women find it attractive and actually need it from a man.
A woman will rarely start a conversation because she does not want to open herself up to a guy who might not even be confident.
She needs that active masculinity from the man to feel a spark and to prove that he is a man and not a scared little boy, in a man's body.
Starting a conversation with a woman is just one example of active masculinity (or being assertive with women).
Yet, it doesn't mean she then thinks that you are a man for sure.
A woman can determine within five seconds if a man is comfortable with his masculinity.
If he seems soft, innocent, or overly gentle, she realizes he is not comfortable being a man and therefore, isn't yet a man.
She might feel that if she got into a relationship with him, she'd walk all over him and if that happens, she won't be able to respect him, feel attracted or truly love him.
But a man who is comfortable expressing his masculinity from the start makes her realize quickly that he is a man.
She feels like he is a man she can follow along with and support as his girl.
How About You?
Have you been passively masculine in moments with women where you wanted to be active?
Many guys worry about interrupting or inconveniencing a woman.
They worry that initiating a hug or a kiss is being too forward.
In reality, she is often hoping that he initiates and makes things happen.
When you see other guys with girlfriends, it is because they were actively masculine at some point.
They went after what they wanted rather than giving up.
They asked her out, set up the date, and initiated the physical contact.
Do not fall into the trap of thinking that being stoic and focusing only on yourself will make women chase you.
A man's attraction to a woman works differently from a woman's attraction to a man.
Women instinctively know that if they put themselves out there, they open themselves up to guys who aren't confident.
They need your active masculinity to feel safe and attracted.
It signals to her that you are a man who goes after what he wants in life.
Most women are much easier to attract and get with than most guys realize.
You are just a potential man until you embrace your masculinity and act.
Women respect active masculinity and they submit to it.
I hope this insight has been helpful for you.
Become More Masculine and Get What You Want With Women
If you want to stop guessing, hesitating and missing out on what you want with women and you want to start getting results, then you need to unlock real, masculine confidence.
When you are also able to display the traits that naturally trigger attraction (e.g. assertiveness, charm, flirting), women automatically feel attracted to you and begin opening up to you.
Ready to stop being passive and start getting results with women?
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