How to Be Charming With Women (What Most Men Never Know)
There are many different ways that you can make a woman want you sexually and romantically.
One of the most effective approaches is to be charming, which is the core topic we are discussing today.
Other guys might choose to be a bad boy, which is an approach that a lot of men don't really resonate with or want to do.
Another way is to be a very chill guy who is also able to be assertive and make a move when the time is right.
Finally, you can be the funny guy who uses humor to make a woman laugh and feel relaxed in your presence.
Any of those approaches are going to create sexual sparks inside of a woman and make her want you sexually.
But when it comes to being charming, most men have a completely wrong definition of what that actually means.
If you imagine yourself being charming to a woman, what do you honestly imagine yourself doing in that moment?
For most guys, they imagine themselves being extra nice to her or acting like a traditional gentleman.
But simply being a gentleman is not what being charming is all about in the eyes of an attractive woman.
To be truly charming, you must behave in a sexually attractive way and treat the woman nicely at the same time.
It is not just about treating her nicely without adding in the behavior that makes her feel sexually attracted.
If you are only being nice, she just sees your behavior as "nice" and nothing more.
But when you behave in a way that triggers her attraction and you treat her nicely, she sees you as charming.
This combination is sexually attractive and highly arousing to women because it shows you have a sexual backbone.
It’s an approach you can use to get laid, get a girlfriend, or even get the spark back in your current relationship.
Many guys try the "chill" approach but fail because they miss the element of being assertive and making a move.
They hope that a woman will find them attractive just because they are relaxed and then she will make the move on them.
However, that rarely works because in almost all cases, a woman is waiting for the man to lead and take action.
The Difference Between a Weak Compliment and a Charming One
What is a real-world example of how to be charming rather than just being a nice guy?
One example is giving a woman a compliment, which some guys are now afraid to do because they've heard "don't be a nice guy."
It is true that if a guy is only being nice, it’s going to be a problem for him and lead to the friend zone.
But if he gives a compliment in a sexually attractive way, it is going to be incredibly well-received by her.
Imagine you start interacting with a beautiful woman who is wearing a dress that perfectly hugs her figure.
You find her sexually attractive and you think she looks beautiful, so what are you going to say to her?
Most guys won't say anything because they are afraid of looking like a "simp" or they don't know how to do it right.
Other guys might say something generic like, "Oh, that's a nice dress," or "You look nice tonight."
That is not being charming because it does not display any sexually attractive behavior or confidence.
Displaying sexually attractive behavior means you have presence, courage, and what some call "balls."
You are subtly flirting with her and maintaining a bit of a sexual vibe throughout the interaction.
This might sound difficult to balance, but it actually happens simultaneously if you approach it correctly.
You don't have to think about "adding presence" as a separate step; it comes across in how you deliver your words.
The Power of Confidence and Delivery
Compare the dynamic between a nervous guy and a charming guy using the exact same words.
The nervous guy says, "Oh, I like your dress... it suits you... you're probably the most beautiful woman here."
He says it with a shaky voice, looking for her approval, and feeling apologetic for even noticing her beauty.
The woman senses that he is intimidated by her and is trying to suck up to her to "earn" a chance.
She sees him as a fearful, nice guy who is potentially trying to trick her into liking him by being overly polite.
Now, imagine a guy with the same physical appearance saying those exact same words with total confidence.
He has presence and courage, and he adds a subtle, flirtatious vibe to his voice as he delivers the compliment.
Flirting is simply showing sexual interest in a playful, non-serious way so it doesn't become heavy or weird.
It creates a private understanding between you and her that you find each other sexually attractive.
When you say, "That dress suits you; it's classy but a bit bold," you are being sexually attractive and nice at once.
She welcomes the flirting because she is actually feeling attracted to the man delivering the message.
If the same words are said with fear and insecurity, she will not welcome the compliment at all.
She will see the fear on your face and realize that you don't even believe you are worthy of talking to her.
Unfortunately, the media doesn't tell men that you can actually make a woman feel attracted through your behavior.
They glorify celebrities with six-pack abs and tell you that women only care about "tall, dark, and handsome."
But you can say something in a specific way that turns a woman on instantly because of the personality traits you display.
Confidence is a non-physical trait that triggers a natural spark of attraction inside of a woman.
Insecurity is the opposite; it is a non-physical trait that acts as a massive turn-off for women.
Why Being a "Gentleman" Can Be a Trap
A lot of guys get it wrong by thinking that being a "gentleman" is a complete strategy for getting women.
They think that if they open enough doors or pull out enough chairs, a woman will eventually let them get with her.
But if the woman senses you are doing these things as a strategy because you don't know how to attract her, it fails.
She isn't feeling any sparks, so she doesn't see your gentlemanly behavior as charming or romantic.
Instead, she sees it as you being confused about how male-female dynamics actually work.
In some cases, she may even feel like you are trying to "sneak" your way into her life by being as nice as possible.
She notices the subtleties of your body language, like how you wait for her reaction after you do something nice.
She senses that you are pleased with yourself for "doing it right," but she still doesn't feel any sexual desire for you.
This is why many guys get to the end of a date and get hit with the "I just see you as a friend" line.
The guy is left thinking, "What the heck? I opened every door and gave her three compliments!"
He doesn't realize that his physical appearance was fine, but his behavior was turning her off the whole time.
You can be at the exact same point in life and look exactly the same, but get a different result by changing your traits.
The nice guy strategy doesn't work because women are not stupid and they can sense the lack of genuine attraction.
You do not have to be a bad boy, but you must display behaviors that trigger sexual attraction rather than neutrality.
If you are just a "neutral, friendly guy," you are essentially behaving like one of her girlfriends.
Developing Untamed Energy
To truly stand out and be charming, you can also tap into what I call "untamed energy."
Bad boys have this in a reckless way, but a "real man" has it in a mature and responsible way.
Untamed energy means that you have not been tamed by the media or by the opinions of others.
You are not tamed by a woman's behavior in the moment; you don't go into your shell if she tests you.
If she is being difficult or acting cold, a man with tamed energy starts to doubt himself and becomes even nicer to compensate.
A man with untamed energy remains secure in his masculinity and isn't afraid to be his authentic self.
Women find this energy incredibly arousing and are magnetically drawn to men who possess it.
Most men have "tamed energy" because they are holding back their true personalities out of fear of being judged.
The consequence of tamed energy is that women find you boring and you don't feel good about yourself in social situations.
But when you have untamed energy, you feel amazing because you are being real and you aren't afraid of the outcome.
This is just one of many non-physical traits that make women respect you and want you sexually.
The members of my community at Master Attraction are learning exactly how to project this type of charm.
They are getting results like kissing women within minutes of meeting them or having women ask to be their girlfriend.
They aren't flying blind anymore, hoping to get lucky; they know exactly how to trigger the reaction they want.
One of my members even noted that women tell him they've never been touched or talked to in such a confident way.
This happens because he stopped displaying sexual insecurity and started acting with genuine sexual confidence.
When you develop these traits, you don't just "get the girl"; you also start to feel much better about yourself as a man.
Other men will start to respect you more because they see your strength and your lack of self-doubt.
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