How To Attract Women Without Trying Hard

Have you ever noticed that some guys don't chase women, but they still get women?

And guys who are looking on at a guy like that will think that he's not doing anything.

Women are just coming to him.

Women seem to want him for some reason.

It doesn't seem like he's doing anything, but he is doing something.

It is very subtle and it's something that most guys aren't willing to do because they think the woman won't like it.

They just don't know that it's an option.

They don't know that it works.

The Myth of Hard Work

Additionally, where a lot of guys go wrong is that they think that attracting women is a lot of work.

You've really got to put in a lot of effort in order for a woman to then give you a chance.

But they're doing it wrong.

The guys who are naturally good with women don't need to do much at all.

It's just very subtle things that cause the woman to start to feel like she wants to pursue them.

She starts feeling excited.

She starts wanting to be with him.

If you're observing, it will seem like the guy's not doing much at all.

For some guys, they may even think, "Well, he doesn't even seem like he's treating her nicely."

He doesn't even seem like he's showing her that he likes her.

He seems kind of disinterested in some ways.

He doesn't even seem like he's trying to pursue her.

What is going on?

The Problem With Visual Attraction

What happens is that when a man comes across a woman that he finds attractive, he will usually react in a very typical way.

This is a way that a woman has been experiencing all her life ever since she became a woman.

Men tend to feel more attracted to the visual.

As a result, most men will fall in love at first sight with a woman.

That doesn't mean they'll be madly in love with her, but they'll start to fall for her.

She will notice that.

A guy will meet a woman that he finds attractive, whether she's working as a cashier or at a bar.

He'll feel so attracted to the visual appeal of her that he'll start to really like her.

She will notice it in the subtleties of his body language.

What he doesn't realize is that pretty much every guy that she meets is reacting in the same way.

What he also doesn't realize is that women aren't reacting in that way to men.

They don't see a man and just instantly fall for him and instantly start showing that they want something to happen.

Instead, they are considering and they are evaluating.

He notices that he senses that he's being evaluated.

He feels he is being judged and considered as a potential lover or boyfriend.

But he's not doing that to her.

Instead, what she notices is that he's feeling attracted to her and all of a sudden he starts to seem excited.

He may try to hide it and act like he's not even that interested.

But she will sense based on how he is behaving that he is hoping to get a chance with her.

He is hoping to pass her evaluation.

She can sense that it's basically a done deal.

What the guy doesn't realize is that she always experiences that.

Be A Challenge To Acquire

What she rarely experiences is a man who is a challenge for her to acquire.

You're allowed to do this, and it's not rude to do to women.

It's something that makes them feel excited.

Some guys don't want to do that because they just want to react in the moment to how they're feeling.

They look at her, they fall in love at first sight, and they just want to show her that they like her.

But a guy who's naturally good with women will interact with her and give her the sense that he isn't completely smitten right away.

He isn't just hoping to pass her tests and evaluations.

He isn't naive in that way.

He realizes that pretty much every other guy is reacting to her in that way because men's attraction is mostly visual.

Men can fall in love very quickly based on how the woman looks.

The naive guy thinks, "Wow, I'm feeling something here. This girl's really attractive and she's being nice to me, so this must mean that she's the one."

She senses that it's already a done deal with him.

Whereas a guy who's naturally good with women will be a bit more of a challenge when he's interacting with her.

As a result, she then gets to feel the excitement and the thrill of the chase.

She feels the thrill of wondering, "Can I win this guy over?" rather than knowing it's already a done deal.

If she feels she has already won him over, he's pretty much like every other guy she has met.

He feels overwhelmed by the attraction that he's feeling and he wants something to happen.

The guy who reacts like a typical guy then has to do a lot of work.

He then thinks that women are hard work and difficult to pick up.

He thinks they are too choosy and picky.

For him, he has to really try now because he's noticing that he's being evaluated.

He's noticing that she has all the power.

He's hoping to say things that are impressive to her to win her over.

He's being really nice to her or trying really hard to crack jokes.

Or he's trying to seem more alpha than the other guys and hoping that she's going to choose him.

Whereas a guy who's naturally good with women is much more relaxed about it.

Give Her The Gift Of Excitement

He knows that she needs to feel the excitement of wanting to get with you.

She needs to feel some pressure and some responsibility to impress you to win you over.

It's not you doing a bad thing to the woman by making her feel that way.

You're actually giving her a gift.

It's something that she cannot find with the absolute majority of guys.

Most guys just react to the visual attraction and start to really like her.

If the woman is being nice and friendly, he thinks, "This is the girl that I've been waiting for."

Even if he tries to play it cool, she can sense based on the subtleties of his body language that he is excited on the inside.

He's hoping that she's going to like him and choose him.

But he's missing the most important element of all.

That element is to make her feel some excitement of wanting to get with him.

Make her feel like she needs to do something to win him over.

A guy like that is a guy that women refer to as a challenge.

It's not about playing mind games.

Instead, it's about understanding the reality that women experience.

Most men who meet them just instantly fall for them.

It's boring, predictable, and not giving her the type of feeling that she wants to experience.

Instead, it leads to her essentially reluctantly giving a guy a chance.

She says to herself, "Yeah, okay, well, I'll give this guy a chance."

She doesn't want to be in that position; she wants to feel attracted to you.

She wants to be able to get the sense that she needs to do more to win you over.

It doesn't mean that you have to make her feel like she has to do more for five weeks while you're dating her.

Instead, that can happen within the first 10 seconds or a minute.

The woman gets a sense that you're not a typical type of guy who's just reacting to the visual attraction.

She gets the sense that you understand that women want to feel that excitement.

That excitement happens when you interact with her, create a spark of attraction, and let her see that she would need to do more to win you over.

She then sees you as a guy who is a challenge to acquire.

That causes her to feel a desire to pursue you.

It makes everything so much easier for you because you are now a guy that she wants.

Warning: Don't Be Detached

Now, something important to point out is that just because women prefer men who are a challenge, it doesn't mean that the solution is to be detached.

Some guys make the mistake of thinking they should go to the other extreme and be detached and not give a crap.

He walks through his life trying to show women, "I don't even care, I'm not even going to look at you."

But he is attracted to women.

He wants women, but he's heard that he shouldn't be a needy nice guy.

He makes the mistake of thinking he should go to the other extreme.

But that doesn't work; that doesn't make women chase guys.

They don't look at a guy like that and think, "Wow, that guy doesn't even seem like he's interested in women."

A huge stampede of women isn't going to chase him down the street with their arms out saying, "Please give me a number."

It just doesn't work like that.

Instead, women simply see him as a background type of character.

If you are watching a movie, you see background characters who are there but don't have much effect on you.

For a woman's story, those background character guys are not important because they're not making her feel attracted.

A guy who's naturally good with women won't detach and just ignore them.

He'll interact with women.

When he interacts with them, he gives them that sense that he's not like a typical guy who just falls for her.

He does interact with women, but he gives them that sense that they still need to do something to win him over.

He's a bit of a challenge.

The thing is, women love that.

Most guys aren't willing to do it because they think that it would be rude or they become overwhelmed by their attraction.

They forget all about these sort of things and just want the woman.

Or the guy doesn't even know that he can do something like that.

In most cases, the guy will just be nice to her and walk away thinking, "Geez, that girl was hot."

In reality, in many cases, he could get with that girl.

He could get her phone number and start dating her if he just knew some things to do to attract women.

Instead, he defaults to being nice or seeming keen where she looks at him as another guy who's a done deal.

He doesn't understand that she wants to feel that she needs to turn on her charms to impress him.

That's exciting for her because it's not just a reluctant acceptance of a guy who wants to be with her.

Instead, it's a case where she really wants to be with you.

If other guys are observing, they look at you as the type of guy who's not chasing women.

You don't seem to be doing much at all, but the woman is very excited.

She's smiling ear to ear and flirting with you.

Other guys will look at you and not understand what the heck is going on.

Start Learning The Skills

There are a lot of subtle things that you can do when you're interacting with a woman to make her feel attracted to you.

If you want to learn my best ever techniques that I won't be able to share on YouTube, I recommend that you start my Attraction Mastery program.

What I teach in those lessons is so powerful that guys get amazing results.

For example, a guy who isn't yet perfect at attracting women had sex with a woman he found overwhelming, but he did it anyway.

Most women just don't come across guys who know how to make them feel attracted.

It's so surprising and exciting for women when a guy gets it.

Guys who are learning my techniques go out and the first time they ever attempt to pick up a woman, they succeed.

It's not just about bars.

You can attract women anywhere.

A member of my community attracted a woman in a gym and got her number even though he wasn't dressed very well.

When you know how to make women feel attracted to your non-physical traits, they are less worried about how you look.

I know that this member of my community is 5'3 in terms of height and he's getting amazing results.

Another member is 5'8 and is also getting amazing results.

When you're able to make women feel attracted in ways that other guys just don't understand, women feel excited.

They feel like, "Oh, wow, here's a guy who gets it."

You see that in their reaction; their eyes and face light up.

All you've got to do then is have the confidence to shoot your shot.

The first lesson in my series is about confidence and includes a mindset that members say is a complete game-changer.

It's something that suddenly makes you feel confident around women that you find attractive.