How to Attract Women: The 3 Stages of Female Desire

Back when I used to struggle to get laid or get a girlfriend, I was making a huge mistake that cost me opportunities with at least 100 beautiful women that I had met.

I did not realize that there are three stages of desire that a woman goes through when you meet her.

When you get to stage three, it is on and you are in because she wants you.

The stages can happen within about 30 seconds if you do it right, but I was not even aware of the first stage.

What I was doing initially was that I was thinking that if I was going to get results with women, including beautiful women, then it was about them liking me as a person.

I assumed that if I started talking to a beautiful woman or a woman that I found attractive, then she would realize that I was a good guy.

She would then decide that this guy is suitable for me and she would want to be with me.

She would choose me, but they did not, and the reason why is that the very first stage is not about being liked by a woman.

Stage 1: Creating the Spark of Attraction

The very first stage is about creating a spark.

Once I figured out that you need to create a spark of attraction inside of the woman at the start, women started to feel attracted to me.

There was a spark, but there was a problem with the beautiful women, the feminine, beautiful ones that pretty much every guy wishes he could have.

They would feel a spark and then I would notice that their interest would die within seconds.

I was thinking that it must be that I am not good-looking enough, and that must be the reason.

I thought they were feeling a spark of attraction, but then they were looking at me thinking I was not good-looking enough, so they were not interested.

That really messed with my confidence, but when I thought about it, I realized that I had seen plenty of examples of guys who were not good-looking and they had a beautiful girlfriend or a pretty girlfriend.

I knew that there had to be something else to it, and I eventually realized that there is a second stage.

Creating a spark is fun and you get to see that women find you attractive for those initial few seconds.

But then it must go on to the next stage, which is the dynamic.

Stage 2: Establishing an Attractive Dynamic

The spark is where you say or do something that sparks her attraction, and once you do that, you have got her attention and she is feeling a spark of desire for you.

When you create a spark, it automatically then moves to the second stage, which is the dynamic.

This is where she decides whether or not the dynamic between you and her is attractive to her or not.

If she does not feel attracted to the dynamic between you and her, then she loses interest and starts to close up.

If she does feel attracted to the dynamic, her interest and desire increase, and she opens up to you.

Here are a few examples of an unattractive dynamic.

If a guy creates a spark by being confident, but is then unable to keep a conversation going because he is lost for words, then it is not an attractive dynamic.

Another example is if a guy creates a spark by saying a funny line, but is then nervous and unsure of himself, so her desire for him decreases.

Finally, if a guy creates a spark by being assertive, but then only talks to her like a neutral friend for hours rather than flirting to create sexual tension, then it is not an attractive dynamic.

On the other hand, if you create a spark and she senses the dynamic is attractive, it moves on to the third stage of desire.

Stage 3: The Woo (The Window of Opportunity)

The third stage is what I call the woo, which is the window of opportunity.

The window of opportunity or the woo is where she opens up a window of opportunity for you to continue the interaction with her and move things forward.

This could lead to a phone number, kiss, sex, date, or relationship.

I used to fail at the third stage of desire even when the dynamic was attractive enough to the point where it got to the woo.

I was being confident and continuing the conversation, and I might add in a bit of flirting or playfully challenging humor, but I would then doubt myself.

I would look at guys who were tall or looked like a model or had big muscles and think she surely wanted that guy, not me.

I would automatically think those sorts of things because I was used to pretty women not being interested in me when I was hoping to be liked as a person.

Being liked as a person is not the same as a woman feeling sexual desire for you.

When the woo would open, I would not move it forward to a phone number, kiss, or sex that night.

Secretly, I was kind of hoping that the women would help me and show lots of interest to help make something happen.

But with the types of women that you really want, they just do not do that.

When I eventually figured out what is really going on in a woman's mind when she opens the woo, that is when I started getting laid like a rockstar.

Why Any Man Can Master the 3 Stages

I went on for over 10 years to be with a lot of women and mastered this area before I decided to settle down when I met my perfect girl.

It is very important for you to know as a man that making a woman go through the three stages of desire is something that any man can do.

Any man can create a spark of attraction, and any man can display the types of traits and behaviors that cause a woman to realize the dynamic is attractive.

Once the window of opportunity is open, you are in and you have a chance with her now.

She is literally open to you continuing the conversation, giving you her phone number, kissing you, or having sex with you that night.

Once you understand how to go through the three stages of desire, it is no longer a struggle for you.

You no longer have to hope she likes you enough as a person to give you a chance, because the women that you really want are just not going to do that.

If you are able to create a spark with a woman and the dynamic between you and her is attractive enough, then when it comes to the woo, you need to have enough confidence in yourself to move things forward.

If you start doubting yourself at that point, then you are going to lose your opportunity with her.

Most women would rather go without than have to help the guy through the process.

They want to see that he is confident enough and man enough and also interested enough in her to continue to move things forward.

You have probably been realizing opportunities that you have missed with women that you found attractive because you did not create a spark or the dynamic was not right.

But at least you know that now.

You can learn how to create a spark so women automatically see you as a potential lover or boyfriend.

You will love how you feel when you interact with women and they actually feel attracted to you and you see their eyes light up at the start.

When you act on the woo and end up in bed with her, you realize that you have got this area of your life sorted.

It is a really cool thing to experience, and I hope you do not miss out on it.

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