Girls Don't Like Me. You're Wrong!
Throughout your life, there will have been times where a woman has liked you and you didn't even know it.
For some guys, this has happened thousands of times.
For other guys, it may have happened hundreds of times.
In her mind, she was looking at you as a yes or a maybe.
It may have been an instant yes where she was like, "Oh, I like that guy."
Or it might have been a maybe where she was thinking, "Not sure, but okay. Kind of like him."
But from your side, you were either looking for really obvious signs that she liked you, or you were assuming that she already had a boyfriend.
You didn't know what to say or do to start an interaction with her, so you didn't do it.
You may have worried that you might get rejected and be humiliated in front of a lot of people.
As a result, you didn't do anything about it and the opportunity slipped through your fingers.
But in the woman's mind, you were already a yes or a maybe.
Why You Must Risk It to Get the Biscuit
The way that it works with women is that you have to take the risk to give yourself a chance.
As the old saying goes, you got to risk it to get the biscuit.
It is sort of like when you are going to apply for a job.
There is uncertainty there because you don't know if they will like your resume or like you as a person.
But because you need to earn a living, you have to go and apply for that job.
You have to take the risk to apply for it and see if you can get it.
Guys who do not apply for the job do not get the job.
But some of the guys who apply for the job will get a position.
When it comes to women, you are giving yourself the chance to be her boyfriend or lover.
You are taking the risk even though there is a possibility that it could be a no.
The Reality of Rejection and Humiliation
You are either going to get a result with her or not.
You could get a no, or you could find out she has a boyfriend.
You could start talking to her and run out of things to say and then leave the interaction.
But in 99% of cases, you are not going to get humiliated in front of everyone else.
It only feels humiliating if you think it is embarrassing to talk to a woman you find attractive and not get her number.
For a guy who is confident, he is not going to look at it as being humiliating.
He felt attracted to her and he attempted to shoot his shot.
Maybe they were not compatible or she was dating another man, but it is not the end of the world for him.
He goes on with his life, talks to another woman, and eventually gets a result.
If a guy applies for a job and doesn't get it, but then gives up and says, "Jobs don't like me," he creates that reality for himself.
He thinks he will be unemployed forever, and the same thing applies with women.
Understanding Why Women Are Passive
Sometimes a guy will attempt to talk to a woman and not get a result.
He will think then that women just do not like him and that it is impossible for him to get a girlfriend.
That may just be because he came across as too nervous or he didn't know how to make her feel attracted.
But there are many women who like him and are thinking yes or maybe when they see him.
The problem is that most women will not make it very obvious that they like the guy.
A guy who is confident and a natural with women will see a woman continuing a conversation as a sign she likes him.
But a guy who doubts himself will see it as, "She is just talking to me."
If a confident guy catches a woman giving him sneaky glances when he is not looking, he sees it as a sign.
He will talk to her and move things forward.
A guy who is not confident will question why she is looking at him and assume it means nothing.
Turning a Maybe Into a Yes
It is much better to think that you are a yes or a maybe.
If you are a maybe, all you have to do is make her feel more attracted.
If you are a yes, all she is waiting for you to do is walk over and talk to her.
You have a chat and you shoot your shot by asking for her phone number or setting up a date.
If you are a yes, she is wanting you to shoot your shot.
If you are a maybe, she is wanting you to interact with her and create more attraction.
Even if you are a no in a woman's mind initially, it is not always a permanent thing.
Many women will look at a guy and not find him attractive at first, but then he starts interacting with her and she feels sparks.
She starts to like him and then she opens up.
The Danger of Waiting for Obvious Signals
Throughout your life, there will have been women who did actually like you and you didn't know it.
This will continue to happen to you.
If you go through life waiting for very obvious signals, you are going to continue to lose opportunities.
Eventually, some guys start to believe that they are not good looking enough for women.
They think it is too difficult, even though the opportunities are right in front of them.
In most cases, it only takes a two or three minute conversation to create some sparks and get a number.
If a woman sees you as a yes, a few minutes of talking is enough.
If she sees you as a maybe, it might take ten or fifteen minutes of building up some attraction.
If you are very good at attracting women, you can turn a woman from a no to a yes in three to five minutes.
Why Women Want You to Lead
Women will not suddenly change and start walking up and hitting on you.
Pretty much every woman out there is passive when it comes to men.
They wait for a man to walk up and start talking to them.
It is the same with a dance where women wait for a man to ask them and lead.
Some guys get frustrated and think women should start approaching men.
But if a woman goes around approaching men, she will end up with men who only feel confident because she did the work first.
She will also end up with men who do not really like her and just want to have sex with her.
Women remain passive because they want to see that you are confident and masculine enough to go after what you want.
They want to see that you are not afraid and not waiting for things to happen for you.
You may be a yes or a maybe in her mind, but she wants to see if you are confident enough to talk to her even if she isn't giving obvious signs.
Take the risk to give yourself the chance to get the result.
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