Does Rejecting Her Make Her Want You Sexually? (Reverse Friend Zone)
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
Have you ever really liked a woman and she placed you in the friend zone?
How did that make you feel?
Additionally, do you think that she would have felt the way you did if you placed her in the friend zone?
That’s the basis of today’s question.
The question here is:
Can men do the opposite—put her in the friend zone?
“I’m sure it will work as soon as she knows that she’s being rejected sexually.”
Well, it sounds like a good idea on the surface.
But it only works with one important element in the equation—and that is attraction.
If you’ve ever been put in the friend zone by a woman that you really liked, then you felt attracted to her, but she didn’t feel enough attraction for you.
That’s why she placed you in the friend zone.
So imagine if you were interacting with a woman that you didn’t find attractive.
You didn’t have feelings of attraction for her.
And she was thinking that she’s going to place you in the friend zone now and just act like a friend.
Are you going to care?
For most guys, the answer is going to be no.
Because they don’t find her attractive.
So they don’t feel like they’re losing anything.
For most guys, as well, the reason why they don’t find her attractive is that they don’t find her physically attractive enough.
That’s why they’re just not interested.
Yet the way that it works with women is that they can look at a man and see his physical appearance and say no.
He’s not the sort of guy they would normally go for.
That’s not her type.
That guy’s a bit short.
That guy’s a bit overweight.
Or he’s a bit skinny.
Or he’s average looking and she wants a handsome man.
That’s what she thinks she’s only going to accept.
If she’s asked by someone, she may say that a guy has to be good-looking in order to get with her.
She may say that a guy has to be 6'6" or 6'3".
But then she’ll get with a guy who’s approximately the same height as her.
Or in some cases, a lot shorter than her.
She may be 5'7" and she gets with a guy who’s 5'8" or 5'9".
And a lot of guys don’t really understand why that happens.
So when they see it, they think, “Oh, the guy must be rich or something.”
What happens is that women place more importance on a man’s emotional attractiveness.
There have been so many studies that have proven this.
Essentially, when you have and display the sort of behavioral traits that make women feel attracted and turned on, they look at your physical appearance in a more positive light.
For example, according to a study published by the American Psychological Association, non-physical characteristics such as personality have a greater influence on attraction to a romantic partner for women.
So while men are usually attracted to physical appearance first, women place greater importance on non-physical traits like personality.
Meaning that a man’s character and behavior can significantly increase a woman’s attraction to him.
Another important quote from that study is:
“Initial judgments of physical attractiveness can be influenced by non-physical factors such as personality traits.”
So if a woman doesn’t initially find you that physically attractive, she can literally start to look at you as more attractive if you’re displaying the type of behavioral traits that women are attracted to.
Another quote:
“Personality information produced significant changes in ratings of physical attractiveness for attractive, neutral, and unattractive targets.”
That means even if the man was unattractive, average, or good-looking, personality traits significantly changed the ratings women gave his physical appearance.
They literally rated his face as more attractive.
Another study said:
“Behaviors of a target person increase attractiveness.”
And that study specifically noted that personality increased the rated facial attractiveness.
It replicated previous findings.
And another:
“Women’s preferences for male faces are associated with their preferences for personality traits.”
Such as confidence and assertiveness, both of which were highlighted in the study.
So, as a man, it’s very important for you to understand that a woman’s attraction to you works differently compared to your attraction toward a woman.
If you listen to the media, they’ll tell you that men and women are basically the same.
But they can’t actually show the traits that women are really attracted to in men and talk about it openly.
Because people will say that it’s sexist.
People will say that men are bad for focusing on a woman’s appearance.
They have to be careful about what they say.
Because if they were to say things like that, then what’s going to happen with all the women who aren’t happy with their appearance?
There would be a huge backlash.
So you’re not going to get the media telling you the truth.
Instead, you need to understand how the reality around you really works.
When a woman interacts with you, she can literally look at you and initially say no.
But then start feeling attracted to traits such as confidence, assertiveness, playfully challenging humor, masculine charm, and so on.
When you start displaying traits that trigger attraction inside of a woman, she literally starts to look at your face as more handsome.
And it’s so important that you understand that.
Most men aren’t looking for those sorts of traits in a woman.
Most men don’t care if a woman is insecure or confident.
They just don’t care.
But women do care.
So regarding this question here:
Can men do the opposite—put her in the friend zone?
“I’m sure it will work as soon as she knows that she’s being rejected sexually.”
It’s not going to work if the man doesn’t know how to make her feel attracted.
If he’s displaying traits that don’t make women feel attracted—such as self-doubt, insecurity, putting on a nice guy act, sucking up to her, being very nervous, and so on—then she’s not going to care if he puts her in the friend zone.
She’s not even really going to notice.
It’s just going to be a case of him not trying to pursue her anymore.
She’s not getting rejected sexually by a man that she wants to have sex with.
She sees that a guy who was showing her lots of interest, who she wasn’t attracted to, has possibly gotten the message now and is no longer showing that interest.
Or has possibly lost confidence.
In some cases, she may think that he doesn’t find her attractive anymore.
But because she doesn’t feel attracted to him, she’s not really going to care.
And so many guys these days think that if a woman doesn’t feel attracted to a guy, it’s because he’s not tall, handsome, and muscular.
They forget about the fact that all sorts of guys get themselves a girlfriend or a wife.
They don’t have to look perfect.
They don’t have to be way taller than the woman or have a perfect physique.
Even though women do feel attracted to tall men.
Even though women do feel attracted to men who have a muscular physique, who’ve put in the dedication to build their muscles and look strong.
Women do find that attractive.
But I’ve been helping men for so many years with this, and I know that the majority of men who are tall and handsome do not go around approaching women whom they find attractive.
Instead, women who are less attractive throw themselves at the handsome man, and he then decides to get with some of those women.
Because some of them are decent at times.
But in many cases, handsome men don’t get the kind of girls that they really want.
The sort of women that guys look at and think, “Wow, she’s hot. I bet she has a tall, handsome boyfriend who’s a model,” often have a boyfriend who doesn’t look as good as they do.
And in almost all cases, the reason why he got her—and why they’re still together—is that he could make her feel attracted and to shoot his shot.
She happily got into a relationship with him, and she’s still attracted to him.
Of course, sometimes a beautiful woman will have a tall, handsome man who is clearly a model or has model looks and a model physique.
But you will also see women with men who don’t look as good as they do.
So it’s important that you understand two things here.
One: if you place a woman in the friend zone when she doesn’t feel attracted to you, she is almost never going to care about it.
And two: you don’t have to be perfect-looking and be a tall, handsome model or a perfectly muscular man in order to attract women.
You can make women feel attracted to you by displaying the sort of emotionally attractive traits that literally cause the woman to look at your face and your appearance as being attractive.
Because she’s feeling attracted to you in the way that is most important to women.
As a result, she starts looking at your appearance in a more positive light.
That’s why you’ll often hear women say:
“I wasn’t initially attracted to him, but once we started talking, we clicked. There was a spark. We fell in love, and the rest is history.”
What she’s essentially saying is that she didn’t find him physically attractive initially, but he made her feel attracted by displaying traits that women actually place the most importance on.
The absolute majority of men out there don’t know about this.
They’re going through life feeling depressed, feeling insecure, because women aren’t reacting to them in the same way that they react to women, with that instant attraction.
The guy’s looking at her and so forth, and she looks at him as though he’s air, as though he doesn’t even exist.
And he’s thinking, “What’s going on here? It must mean that I’m not good-looking enough.”
But instead, he just needs to walk up and talk to her and make her feel attracted.
If he knows her and he’s been hanging around her and he’s in the friend zone with her, he needs to start displaying the traits that actually trigger sexual and romantic attraction inside of a woman.
Once he does that, she will literally start to look at his face as more handsome.
She will start to find him more physically attractive.
She’ll be sexually attracted to him and emotionally attracted to him.
She will want to be with him.
And he just then needs to shoot his shot, and he’s going to get the result—because she’s feeling attracted to him.
That’s what she’s looking for.
She wants a guy who can make her feel attracted based on him displaying traits that have nothing to do with his physical appearance.
Even though a man who is good-looking is attractive to women, and a man who has a great physical appearance is attractive to women.
As you now know, just because a man doesn’t initially look very good-looking to a woman, it doesn’t mean that her perception of him can’t change.
If he’s displaying the traits that most women place more importance on—which are non-physical traits—then she feels attracted to him and she wants to be with him.
So if a guy has been in the friend zone with a woman and suddenly starts displaying traits that make women feel attracted, then she will feel attracted.
And she will care if he places her in the friend zone, because now she has something to lose.
However, it doesn’t automatically mean that she’s going to chase him.
Because many women are afraid of rejection.
And some women will react by showing him that she’s still placing him in the friend zone, which then turns it into a whole bunch of mind games.
This is why I recommend that men keep things simple when it comes to women.
All you have to do is display attractive traits and shoot your shot.
That’s how guys all over the world get themselves a girlfriend or a wife—even when the guy is not successful in life or doesn’t have the perfect physique.
All you have to do is make a woman feel some attraction for you and shoot your shot.
The more attraction you make her feel, the more she looks at your face as being attractive.
For example, she may have had an initial judgment of your face as not being the sort of face she would typically find handsome.
But when you interact with her and you display the non-physical traits that most women place the most importance on, she literally starts to look at you as a handsome, sexy man.
You are attractive to her.
She likes the way that you make her feel.
And that’s why you’ll often see guys with women and wonder:
“How the heck did he get her? What is going on?”
In almost all cases, it’s simply because he displayed the sort of non-physical traits that cause a woman to feel attracted.
And then he just had the courage to shoot his shot.
As a result, he’s gotten himself a lover, girlfriend, or wife.
It’s not any more complicated than that.
You don’t have to play mind games or try to place a woman in the friend zone, ignore her, or never contact her.
Instead, you simply have to display attractive traits and she will feel attracted to you.
Then, when you shoot your shot, in almost all cases, you get the result because she wants you and you want her.
It’s all good.
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