Do Women Only Like Handsome Men?
The way that women react to handsome men is something that confuses men all over the world.
You may have been confused by this as well.
When a woman sees a handsome man, she might give him a look or even two or three looks.
If she is with her friend, she might give that friend a nudge and whisper for her to look at that guy.
They might be whispering things to each other.
This behavior confuses a lot of men who are not getting that type of reaction.
It often leads them to fall into what I call the show me first trap.
This means the man is essentially waiting for a woman to show him that she finds him attractive before he thinks he is worthy.
He waits for a sign before he believes he even has a chance with her.
The Psychology of Why Men Feel Nervous Around Attractive Women
In his mind, he goes through life thinking that attraction must be immediate and must happen on sight.
The woman must look at him and be giving him some sort of signs that she finds him attractive.
Otherwise, he assumes he is not her type or that he is not going to be attractive enough for her.
He thinks she is going to reject him.
As a result of this thinking, a man naturally feels nervous around women he finds attractive.
Because he is not getting an instant visual reaction, he doubts himself during the conversation.
She is not making it obvious that she wants to be with him sexually or romantically.
He thinks she just doesn't like him or see him in that way.
He assumes that because she is talking to him in a neutral or platonic way, he has no chance.
Why Good Looks Only Get Your Foot in the Door
I recently asked my subscribers what they rate themselves in terms of looks.
Many guys rate themselves as good looking and very good looking.
However, men who rate themselves as average often do not understand the truth about better looking men.
Good looks only help a man get his foot in the door.
It helps a man get looks from women, but it doesn't guarantee he will get the woman he actually wants.
This is due to something many men struggle to believe their entire lifetime.
Women actually place more importance on a man's non physical traits.
This includes his confidence and his level of emotional intelligence.
It involves his ability to make her feel feminine in comparison to his masculine approach.
His masculine behavior triggers attraction inside of women.
Scientific Evidence That Women Prioritize Personality Over Appearance
I often show evidence from studies proving that women place less importance on physical appearance than men do.
It is just the way that it works.
Studies have proven that when you display non physical traits that attract women, they actually look at your physical appearance in a more positive light.
They rate you as better looking.
Even so, some men still cannot believe it because they are stuck in the show me first trap.
They are not getting the type of reactions that they see handsome men get.
They hear a woman say that a guy has to be handsome or have six pack abs.
They hold onto that as evidence that they have already lost.
They decide to play it safe and just talk to her in a friendly way.
They do not try to flirt with her and create sexual tension.
They do not shoot their shot because they do not think they have a shot.
How to Create Attraction Instead of Waiting for It
A natural with women does not wait for attraction to be obvious.
He creates the attraction himself.
He interacts with a woman and displays traits that trigger her attraction instincts.
He is confident rather than insecure.
He flirts rather than being neutral.
He is assertive rather than passive and hoping she leads the way.
A natural displays what I call untamed energy.
He is willing to express his authentic personality without filtering himself.
Women feel attracted to this because it takes balls to do that.
It takes a lot of confidence and emotional strength.
It makes her feel feminine in comparison to his emotional strength.
He is being raw and right there in the moment.
The Role of Body Language and Micro Expressions
The guy stuck in the trap walks through a shopping mall wondering if those women are looking at him.
This way of thinking causes nervousness, anxiety, self doubt, and fear.
He is waiting for a reaction to make him feel like he is worthy.
He is essentially asking women to make him feel like he is good enough.
If he is not getting those types of reactions, he thinks he is not good looking enough.
What he does not realize is that what is really turning women off is not his face.
Instead, it is his body language and his behavior.
Women can sense the micro expressions of self doubt and neediness.
They sense that he needs a reaction from her just to feel good about himself.
Developing Emotional Independence as a Man
A man who has learned emotional independence feels good about himself regardless of how other people behave.
He feels good regardless of their reactions or what they are saying.
Because he does not need external validation, his body language looks more appealing.
Women sense that he believes in himself and that attracts them immediately.
It shows social intelligence, self awareness, and emotional strength.
He looks like a man who has grown into his masculinity and feels comfortable in his own skin.
A guy who is looking for reactions is not yet comfortable being a man.
He doesn't yet know that it's a good thing to be a man or that you're allowed to be strong.
Why Women Reject Emotionally Weak Handsome Men
A woman might look at a handsome man and initially think he is attractive.
However, if she senses he is emotionally weak within a few seconds, she loses interest.
She senses his weakness and simply thinks no.
Emotional strength and comfort in your own skin are what truly matter most.
If you have emotional independence, it shows in how you move, talk, and react.
Being attractive does not mean you have to micromanage your micro expressions.
It happens automatically when you have the right internal traits.
If a man is emotionally dependent on a woman's reaction, that dependency will leak out.
Stop Seeking Validation and Start Leading
Women pick up on the checking behavior when a man is constantly looking to see if she finds him attractive.
A guy who understands how to be confident is not checking.
He does not need her to give him a specific reaction.
He knows he can create attraction the moment he starts talking.
When you stop waiting for her to show you that you are worthy, you stop being a victim of your physical appearance.
You realize that you can enter an interaction and build the spark from scratch.
The transition from being dependent to independent is what separates the average guy from the natural.
The natural knows that his value is not determined by the first two seconds of an encounter.
By the time the conversation is over, she is not thinking about his height or his abs.
She is thinking about how he made her feel.
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