Dating Crisis For Men: You Were Never Told the Truth

^{By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction}

The current dating crisis for men has been built on lies and has been fueled by naive influencers who do not understand the harm that they are causing to men out there.

Men are committing suicide in higher numbers than ever before.

They are depressed, they are afraid to go up and talk to women and they feel like they are worthless in the current dating scene because of the lies that have been pushed out there in the media.

I will explain how they do that.

Then perpetuated, fueled by naive influencers who do not know what the heck is going on and do not understand the harm that they are causing to men.

So for example, to begin with, you will often hear things like:

"Oh women only want the top 10% or 20% of men and other men just really do not stand a chance."

And where did they get that information from?

Oh they got it from a dating app study.

Oh everyone is using dating apps these days, right?

That is how everyone meets each other these days, right?

That is what you hear in the media.

Who told you that?

Oh a dating app company.

Right and where did they get that information from?

Oh they surveyed their users and asked them where they meet their dates.

Oh they meet their dates on dating apps, right?

Okay, well, let's do a press release now that the media will not check, they will just publish and say that the main way that people meet each other these days is on dating apps.

Yet, then you look into the numbers and you realize that most people do not use dating apps.

When you look into the numbers further you realize that the majority of dating app users are men.

When you look into it further you find out that the small percentage of women who are actually using dating apps often set their height filter on the dating apps to 6ft and above when most men are not 6ft and above.

So all these men are swiping and swiping and trying to get matches on dating apps with women who will never even see them because their filters just block them out.

Then they hear on podcasts, right, with these people who seem like they have some authority because oh he was a professor at university or he worked at a big name company or oh he has 3 million followers on his YouTube channel and he is saying something so it must be true, right?

They are saying things like:

"Oh men are really struggling with dating these days because women only want the top 10 or 20% of men and everyone else can just go and get effed, right, they have no chance."

Guys hear that from someone who is getting millions of views and they think that it is the reality.

I watched a podcast the other day with a woman who worked for Hinge.

What does she say?

"Everyone is meeting on dating apps these days."

Isn’t that convenient seeing that she works for Hinge and wants to give people the impression that dating apps are now the number one way to meet people and everyone is doing it.

Then you see this sort of thing in the news and it is confusing, right?

It says here it is estimated that there are 44 million people using dating websites and nearly 27 million using smartphone dating apps in the United States in 2022.

They say it is estimated to increase to 53 million by 2024.

Oh and on match.com there are 39 million users.

Jeez what is happening there?

Could that be true?

That does not seem to match up with the numbers.

Hang on a second.

What does the FTC have to say about that?

Oh, there are loads of scammers on the Match.com dating app and site.

Okay that is starting to make a bit more sense.

But what about the rest of the numbers?

They said 39 million.

What is going on there?

Well what happens is that companies issue a press release or they hire a writer to write about them and they will often fudge numbers or they will take numbers out of context.

For example, when you look at the Pew Research, it says three in ten US adults say they have ever used a dating site or app.

Right so “ever” means that they have done it at some point in their life.

But only 9% report doing so in the last year.

But they will not talk about that.

They will say 30% of US adults are using dating apps and it is the number one way to meet women according to their sponsor hinge.com or match.com, whoever they are writing their article for.

They have a client who has issued a press release or has paid to get an article on their site and they are trying to make it sound as good as possible.

So everyone thinks that, oh, it is all about dating apps these days, you have to get on dating apps.

What you need to understand as a man is that what you often see in the media is not always true.

For example, when they say that everyone is meeting on dating apps these days, it is just not true when you look into the numbers.

But these naive influencers will get on those podcasts and destroy the confidence of men out there and cause so much depression, even to the point where men are committing suicide.

They are hearing that women do not want them anymore.

They are hearing that oh in some major cities around the world women are earning more than men and it works out to be about 10% more than men and as a result of that, women do not want any of the men who do not earn as much as them.

When that is not even true.

Yes, on dating apps that will play out.

But in the real world, when a guy has confidence and he walks over and makes a woman feel attracted and he is not put off by the fact that she is making more than him, and if it comes up he actually has the social and emotional intelligence to be able to handle it in a way that is attractive to her, then he will usually get a result.

For example, if you find out that a woman earns more than you, what are you going to say to her?

Are you going to say:

"Oh yeah, good for you, oh, congratulations."

Is that going to make her feel attracted?

No.

Or are you going to say:

"Oh yeah, I'm not uh insecure about that, oh that doesn't uh intimidate me."

No, that is not going to work either.

It is fine to congratulate a woman on that if you honestly do not feel intimidated by it.

But if you want to make her feel attracted in a moment like that and you find out that she is making more than you, you can playfully mess with her.

You can playfully challenge her.

You can use some humor to let her see that you are not intimidated, you are confident enough to say what I am about to say now.

She then feels attracted to the fact that you are confident, you can use humor, you are socially intelligent, you are emotionally intelligent and the fact that she is earning more than you does not have to be a problem.

For example, if you find out that she is making more than you, you can say something like:

"Awesome, you're earning more than me. So, that means I can stay home and play video games while you earn all the money. Fantastic."

Or:

"Oh cool, I've always wanted a sugar mommy. So, when are you taking me shopping?"

That is going to make her feel attracted.

She is going to see that you have the social and emotional intelligence to be able to handle a moment like that and not get intimidated, feel insecure or think that it is a big problem.

If you do not use humor in a moment like that, you can at least show the woman that you are not intimidated by it, if you are honestly not intimidated by it.

If it is honestly not a problem for you that she is earning more and you are not going to feel like you are inferior because you are not.

Yeah, she has got a job where she is earning more.

Congratulations.

That does not make you less of a man.

You are still the man.

She still wants you to feel like you are the man.

If you can still feel like the man, she will still look at you as the man.

But if you think that you are less of a man because she is making a bit more, then you are less of a man in her eyes.

It is up to you.

You get to decide that you are the man.

Yet these naive influencers on podcasts do not understand the damage that they are causing to so many men out there.

Not just young men, also men who are 30, 40, 50 who are not very financially successful.

When you look into the numbers of that, you realize that 1.1% of the adult population are actually millionaires.

The majority of millionaires are 57 years and older.

Not only that, but they are already settled down.

They usually have a family and sometimes they are a grandfather already.

That is not even taking into account female millionaires, which have been growing at a faster rate than men.

That is still a very small percentage of the population.

It does not mean that for the majority of the female population no guy has a chance.

The reality is, and this is something that these naive influencers do not talk about because they just look at a study and say:

"Oh women are earning more than men now and there are less eligible men so no men have a chance."

The reality is that guys get a girlfriend when they are working a casual job, a part-time job, a low-paying full-time job.

The majority of women are not wealthy.

Yes, in some major cities around the world, women are earning a bit more than men.

But still, the absolute majority of the population are not going to be wealthy.

It is not a case that all these women now are just so wealthy and successful and men are worthless.

You are nothing to women right now because hey, they said on a podcast that in some major cities around the world, women are earning more than men and women only want the top 20% of men.

Then what happens is that naive, upset young men get on social media and they post about the fact that women only want the Chads or they only want the rich guys or they only want guys who are very successful.

Any guy who is less than 6ft, is not wealthy, does not have six-pack abs, can go and get stuffed.

That is essentially what they are saying.

They are saying all modern women are delusional.

They all want this six-foot Chad who is rich.

What they do not understand is that women are not operating as one hive mind where they all think the same thing.

Every woman makes her own decisions.

They do not all think the same way.

This is why guys who are shorter than a woman can get with a woman who is attractive.

This is why you will see a guy who is overweight and he will have a pretty or a cute girlfriend.

This is why you will see guys who do not have six-pack abs, do not have big biceps with women who are attractive.

This is something that is happening all over the world in every country, in every major city around the world.

Despite the fact that a lot of men are unnecessarily suffering in this modern dating crisis for men.

A lot of men out there have been fed lies by the media telling them that everyone is meeting on dating apps these days.

So he gets on there and he tries and tries and tries and does not get results.

He does not understand the numbers, what is actually going on.

Then he thinks that women do not want him.

Or he watches TikTok and women get interviewed:

"How much does a man need to be making to date you?"

What is she going to say?

"Oh nothing, you know, whatever."

She is not going to say that.

She is going to make herself look respectable.

She is going to say:

"Oh six figures, you know, $300k...or a million."

He has got to be making that sort of money.

Even though those men are extremely rare.

Even though in almost all cases her ex-boyfriend will not have been making that type of money.

Maybe the guy she has a crush on is not making that type of money.

"How tall does a guy need to be to date you?"

What is she going to say?

"Shorter than me, yeah yeah yeah just give me a short guy."

It is going to be very rare that you will hear that.

Instead, what is she going to say?

"6 feet."

That is going to sound good, isn't it?

If you ask women those sorts of questions, they will give you those sorts of answers.

Look, I do not want to say that what I provide men is the only solution.

I am not saying that you have to learn what I teach.

But I just want to point out the fact that there are guys in my community who are 5'3" or 5'8" in terms of height, are not only having sex with beautiful women, but are getting into relationships with beautiful women.

I will point out here that when you see these sorts of results that guys are getting as a result of using what I teach, which is about naturally attracting women, I am not sitting here saying that every guy who learns what I teach gets those results.

Because he does not.

Many guys learn what I teach and do not use it.

Additionally, some guys learn what I teach and they only do it a little bit.

But the guys who learn what I teach and then apply it get results like this.

This is what happens.

It is not rocket science.

It is not a trick to use on women.

It is not a complicated strategy.

Instead, it is something very simple and natural.

That being, women are attracted to certain non-physical traits in men.

When you display those sorts of traits, it literally causes a woman to look at your physical appearance in a positive light.

This is not me just saying this, right?

This is backed up by studies.

Studies have shown that when men display certain personality traits and behaviors, women literally look at their physical appearance in a more positive light.

Additionally, there are studies that have shown that prior to a speed dating event, women were asked what they were looking for in a guy.

They would talk about things such as physical appearance.

They would say physical appearance is important.

But then they actually looked at who the women chose.

What they said they wanted did not actually match up to what they eventually decided to do.

That is women for you.

Women will often say that a man needs to be this and that in order to get with her.

But then, when a guy interacts with her and makes her feel attracted, she will change her mind in the moment.

She will say:

"I really like this guy."

She will say yes to him.

She will give her phone number to him.

She will start kissing him.

She will have sex with him.

She will get into a relationship with him.

But that is not what you will hear on these podcasts.

They will just talk from a very macro perspective in terms of the data and say that:

"Oh you know women are earning more these days and you know women are hypergamous, right?"

Which is true.

Women want to be able to trade up when it comes to who they date and who they get into a relationship with.

But trading up can also be a feeling, rather than the guy having to already be successful.

It was proven by the largest ever study conducted on human mating preferences that most women choose men based on potential.

The guy gives her the feeling that he has some potential.

He has a plan.

He seems like he is going to be going somewhere.

He does not already need to be successful.

If that were not true, no guy who is working a casual job would ever be able to get a girlfriend.

No guy who is working a part-time job or a low-paying full-time job would ever be able to get a girlfriend.

But you have seen it in your life.

You may have even experienced it yourself when you had a casual job or a part-time job or a low-paying full-time job.

You were able to get a girlfriend.

It is still the same in today’s world, apart from on dating apps with a certain percentage of women.

It is a small percentage of women who use dating apps.

Within that small percentage of women who use dating apps is another percentage of women who have really high expectations when it comes to men.

What often happens is that because very handsome or successful men clean up on dating apps and they can essentially get a date any day of the week, a small percentage of women who are using dating apps—who actually go on dates, which is not the majority of women by the way, a lot of people who use dating apps do not actually go on any dates.

Instead, many women just use it as a confidence booster and they have no intention of meeting up with a guy, ever.

They just like to see that loads of guys like them, but they don't go on dates.

But women who end up going on a date with a really good-looking guy or a very successful guy will often become delusional.

Yes, it is true.

To the point where they think that those sorts of guys want them, when in fact the guy just wanted to have sex with her once and that was it.

He is not interested in having a relationship with her.

He is not going to tell her that in almost all cases.

He might love-bomb her, for example.

Pretend that he is falling for her.

Pretend that he is falling in love with her and really make her feel special, have sex with her, and then not want to see her anymore.

Or maybe see her a few times and that is it.

But in her mind, she can become delusional and think that she can get a guy like that.

When in reality, guys like that do not want to commit to her.

Yet the problem is that what happens with naive influencers out there is that they are saying that about all women.

They have heard by the media, which is false, it is a lie.

The myth, the lie, has been spread by dating app companies who have surveyed their freaking users and asked them where they are meeting their dates.

Where are they going to be meeting their dates?

Right, they are going to be meeting their dates on dating apps.

They put that out into the media.

They do what is called a press release.

Those who are familiar with how the media works will understand.

You put out a press release and the media just publish it if it is a good story.

They love stories that are going to get a lot of clicks where they say that women only go for the top 20% of men or the majority of people are meeting on dating apps these days.

It seems like it is going to be something that will get them clicks, that will get them read, that will get them shared.

So they post it.

They do not understand the damage that they are causing.

Hundreds of millions of guys all over the world are unknowingly swiping and spending so much time on dating apps trying to match up with women who will never even see them because they are being filtered out.

Trying to match up with women when they are competing with tens of thousands of other men in that particular area for the same woman.

In some cases, she is just using it as a confidence boost.

In some cases, she will only date the top 10% of guys that she comes across.

Yet what will happen then is that the guy has heard that everyone is meeting on dating apps these days.

He is not getting a result.

So what does that mean for him?

He is not good enough.

He is worthless.

Women do not want him.

Women these days are too difficult.

He has no chance.

He does not realize that other guys are just getting on with attracting women in person.

They are either having a lot of fun when they are single, just hooking up with women, or they are getting a girlfriend, or they are getting married.

Even though they are not a tall man or a traditionally handsome man, they are still able to get themselves a girlfriend or a wife.

This is a problem that has become a lot worse these days for men because they are watching so much social media.

There are so many random videos and channels that will give them information that will mess with their head, make them feel insecure, and not give them the confidence that they are looking for.

It will just make things worse.

This is something that has been going on for many decades.

When I was single and I had no idea how to make women feel attracted to me, what I was seeing in the media is that women wanted what?

A man who is tall, dark, and handsome.

They used to love to say that.

They would talk about six-pack abs.

Magazines were still popular at that point.

On the front of the magazine you would often see headlines like:

"Get the body, get the girl."

On TV, they would talk about how handsome a guy is and how his muscles look great and so on.

As a result, back then, being a guy who had no idea how to make women feel attracted to me, I believed that.

Because when I interacted with attractive women, pretty women, they did not want me.

The only women who seemed interested in me were unattractive women.

I was thinking, what is the problem?

I thought I am a good guy.

I feel like I am a pretty cool guy.

I am intelligent.

I am nice.

What is the problem?

Am I that ugly?

Am I that horrible-looking that attractive women look at me and it is just an instant no and that is it?

I can never get a pretty woman.

I can never get a beautiful woman.

They are never going to be interested in me.

Unless maybe I become really successful in life and then the woman uses me.

Is that what my life is going to be like?

Is that how it is going to play out?

Yet the thing is, at the same time I also noticed the reality around me.

I noticed that there were guys who were skinny who would have a pretty girlfriend.

Guys who were short.

Guys who were overweight.

When I looked at myself, I am an average-looking guy at best.

Some people may say below average-looking.

But I would look at a guy and see that he is not a good-looking guy, but he has a pretty girlfriend or a beautiful girlfriend.

What the heck is going on?

How is that happening?

There has to be something that I am missing.

Luckily for me, around that time I made a new friend.

Him and I decided to go out and start meeting women and try to figure it out.

Try to figure out how we could get women to want us and get a girlfriend.

We got rejected.

Because we had no idea how to make women feel attracted.

They were not interested.

I was making mistakes, such as seeming insecure and nervous, when I started talking to the woman.

They would instantly feel turned off by that.

But what I started to do is I started to pay attention to the guys who were naturally good with women.

I noticed that even when they were not good-looking, the girls really liked them.

It dawned on me that women can feel attracted to a man for reasons other than his physical appearance.

There are non-physical traits that women find attractive in men.

A very easy-to-understand example is confidence versus insecurity.

Insecurity is the opposite of confidence.

If you display insecurity when you are interacting with a woman, she does not feel attracted to you.

It is not a trait that attracts women.

But if you display the opposite of that trait—

It is a non-physical trait, and that is confidence—

She feels sparks of attraction for you because of it.

It is an automatic reaction.

Eventually, when I was able to put it into words and describe this, it was that attraction is a reaction to attractive traits.

When you display attractive traits, women literally feel attracted to you.

When I started to display attractive traits, that is when everything changed.

The sort of women who would never want anything to do with me in the past and would just look at me like I am nothing, suddenly lit up and smiled and felt attracted to me.

Started kissing me.

Having sex with me.

Getting into relationships with me.

I was having sex and getting into relationships with women who would NEVER select me on a dating app.

Not a million years.

Yet, they liked me right away because I'd figure out how to attract women during an interaction, by displaying non-physical traits that trigger sexual and romantic attraction inside of women (I now teach that in my Attraction Mastery video lesson series).

At times, because women understood that I was dating other women, (I had options now), they would compete to become my number one girlfriend.

So I literally went from having no attractive women interested in me to having options and having attractive women competing to be my number one girlfriend.

Something important that I realized as a result of going through that—

I have settled down now—

But what I realized back then, which the media was not telling me—

They were telling me the opposite of this, right?

They were saying that you had to be tall, dark, and handsome.

They would just glorify handsome men in the media.

They would always say "handsome, abs, muscles, rich, blah blah blah, oh look at him, movie star looks," and so on.

The media was saying all that sort of stuff.

But what I saw in real life, when I paid attention and saw that skinny guys, overweight guys, average, below-average looking guys were getting with pretty women (and then what I experienced), I realized that women make their own decisions.

Women are not only not all following along with what the media says, but there is a big difference between what women will say and what they will actually do.

If you ask a woman, "What does a guy need to be earning, what does he need to look like, what does he need to have?"

They will say all sorts of things.

But then someone like myself will walk over and make them feel attracted—and oh, now she is kissing me.

Now she is in a relationship with me.

It is not just me, of course, and it is not just back then.

I was talking to the members of my community the other day.

There is a member in my community who is 5’3” in terms of height, and he has been doing amazingly well with women.

Something he said was mastery level.

It is something that I have been experiencing for a long time, but he is already there because of what he has been learning.

He said at 5’3” in terms of height, women are not even putting up any resistance to him anymore.

They just open up.

It is true.

That is what happens when you are displaying multiple non-physical attractive traits that women are looking for and struggle to find.

They have what I call a "wow" reaction to you, where you start interacting with them and they literally have a look on their face like, "What the—who is this guy? Where did he come from? Where has he been all my life?" sort of thing.

They look at you and they sort of—they cannot believe what they are feeling when they are interacting with you.

They wake up.

Members have commented on this as well.

They are starting to see women that they interact with wake up, as I refer to it.

Women have a reaction like, "Oh wow."

The thing is, I am not just saying "Only watch Dan Bacon videos."

Yeah, just watch my channel.

I recommend that you watch channels from men who are successful with women and who are not hating on women.

Who are not looking for an excuse and getting on camera and whining and complaining about how dating is so screwed these days and women are this, women are that, and it is all too difficult.

Do not watch those channels.

If you do, the way the YouTube algorithm works is that if you click on a video and you watch it all or you like it, comment on it or share it—YouTube will show you more of those videos.

If you watch more of those videos, before you know it, your YouTube feed will be full of those sort of videos.

For many guys, they eventually end up believing that all men think like that now (i.e. that modern dating is screwed, women are crazy, only the top 5% of Chads get girls now, it's impossible to get a girlfriend in today's dating environment).

A guy will see an overweight woman on TikTok and say, "Look at this woman here. She is not even attractive and she is saying a guy needs to be 6ft and be a millionaire. Like, if she is saying that, how am I going to get a girl?"

"I mean, I have tried being on dating apps. I am not getting matches."

He does not realize the numbers.

He does not realize that he is being filtered out.

There are hardly any women on the apps compared to men.

He also does not realize that the absolute majority of women do not use apps.

If you think about it...

If women have so many choices on dating apps, why aren't the majority of users on dating apps women?

Hang on a second.

If men have to pay more on dating apps, men are lining up to be with them, why aren't women flocking to the dating apps and becoming the majority users?

What is going on?

This is something that I have not seen anyone else discuss.

It is linked to how a woman’s attraction actually works.

What a woman’s attraction instinct is telling her with dating apps.

Which is not always true.

There are a lot of cool, intelligent, good guys using dating apps.

But what a woman’s instinct is telling her is:

"Hang on. If a guy has to be on a dating app, what sort of guy is he? Why aren't the women in his life feeling attracted to him and getting with him?"

For some guys, they may say, "Well, look, I am busy. I do not meet women."

But he walks past a woman in a grocery store.

A woman knows that he walks past a woman in a shopping mall, or that he talks to a woman who is working as a cashier in a clothing store, and she is single and she is pretty.

Why is he not getting with her?

What is going on there?

A woman’s attraction instinct is essentially telling her that the guys on dating apps may be desperate.

They may not be liked or wanted by women in real life.

That is not always true.

As I said, there are a lot of cool guys who use dating apps.

But a woman’s instinct is telling her:

"Hang on, why is he on a dating app?"

That is one of the fundamental psychological reasons why women do not flock to dating apps even though they could have so much choice.

It is obvious.

There are more men than women.

She should get on there, right?

She's got all the choice in the world.

But who is she choosing from?

Her attraction instincts are telling her that the guy may not be the sort of guy that she is looking for.

Because if he has to get on a dating app to meet women, then he may not have the sort of qualities that women find attractive.

That does not mean that women do not use dating apps.

They definitely do.

But when you look into the numbers, the majority of users are men.

The fundamental psychological reason is what I was talking about there.

It is not going to change.

A woman’s attraction works differently from a man’s attraction.

A man can get on a dating app and just be like, "Yep, yep, yep, yep, no, yep, yep."

He can just be swiping on most women and thinking to himself, "Yeah, I would have sex with her, why not?"

Yet a woman’s attraction is less visual.

It does not mean that women cannot feel attracted to handsome men.

It does not mean that handsome men do not do well on dating apps, because they do.

But women are less visual to the point where they would rather interact with a guy in person and get a sense of who he is.

Check to see if he has the sort of non-physical traits that are important to women.

For example, for most men—

If they interact with a woman who is pretty or she looks attractive and she is shy or insecure or if she is not assertive and instead she is passive—

The guy is not going to lose attraction for her.

In most cases, if a woman is insecure or shy, the guy will feel like more of a man around her.

But a woman’s attraction does not work like that.

She is looking for non-physical traits in you that make her feel respect and attraction for you.

If you can display enough non-physical traits that make a woman feel very attracted to you, then in almost all cases, not in all cases, but in almost all cases, her list of requirements go out the window.

She falls in love with you.

She likes who you are and how she feels when she is interacting with you.

As a result of that, she wants to be with you.

Yet you are not going to hear that sort of thing on those podcasts with those random guests who just say things.

Not realizing how much harm they are causing to men out there who do not understand what is going on.

There is a woman on a podcast talking to a man.

He gets millions of views on his podcast.

They have professional lighting.

They have great cameras.

They are sitting there having a serious conversation.

The woman says that, "Yeah, all women just go for the top 20% of men these days, and most people meet on dating apps these days. It is just the way that it works. Guys really need to try harder to become more successful."

Or they will say things like, "Oh, guys need to learn how to become more emotionally supportive."

They will say random things like that—

When all of that is based on studies from dating apps with dating app users.

So it is very biased.

It is not the majority of the population.

The whole thing about a guy learning to be more emotionally supportive and be more emotional around a woman—

It is the same sort of nonsense that I was exposed to when I was growing up that I saw in the media.

They were saying that guys needed to become Sensitive New Age Guys.

Right, SNAGs, right?

When guys became SNAGs, they got rejected, dumped, and divorced.

After that, another trend came along—Metrosexuals.

The TV said, "Guys, pluck your eyebrows, get a tan, use moisturizer, get ten pairs of shoes, wear all these different fashions."

Essentially, look like a guy who is not even into women to get women.

When guys followed that, women largely rejected them.

If the guy is very good-looking, great, he can get a pass.

But when guys paid too much attention to their appearance, women sensed that the guy was a little bit too feminine.

"Right, what is going on here? Why is he spending more time in the mirror compared to her? Why is he fussing over his appearance so much?"

She then loses respect and attraction for him and dumps him.

He thinks that maybe he is still not putting enough effort into his physical appearance.

Because the media is saying that men need to moisturize now.

You need to pluck your eyebrows.

You need to wax.

You need to do all these sorts of things that came from TV shows from men who are not even into women.

You remember those TV shows if you ever saw them.

There was a TV show called Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.

They had homosexual men telling straight men to get ten pairs of shoes and wear all these different types of clothes and moisturize and so on.

Feminizing men and making men feel insecure and not good enough.

When women got that sense about them, they did not find them attractive.

They rejected them.

Because the man was being too feminine.

He was being too insecure.

But all along, the guys who have gotten results are guys who just do not fall for the crap that is in the media.

They continue to be a man.

One of the traits that I teach, for example, in my Attraction Mastery video lesson series is untamed energy.

Most guys do not have that these days.

They have a very tamed energy around women and around people in general because of what they have heard in the media.

What they have heard on a TikTok.

A woman said this, or "It is bad to be a man these days."

Or they have been watching TV shows with all these boss babes and all these women who are the main character and they are so strong and they are so independent.

The men are following along with them.

It is getting into their psyche.

It gets to the point where if a woman looks at them, they feel unsure of themselves.

They feel like she is a more powerful force than them.

They feel like, "Oh, well she is looking at me now and maybe it is wrong if I look back at her. Maybe that is creepy if I look at a woman."

Yet the guys who have untamed energy have not changed.

They are not falling for that crap that they hear random people say on TikTok or in some TV show or on the news or whatever.

They are not falling for that.

They maintain their untamed energy.

Some women refer to untamed energy as bad boy energy, real man energy, or "He is a man’s man."

They get that sense from the guy.

They can look at a guy and tell within a couple of seconds whether he has tamed energy or untamed energy.

Whether he has been brainwashed by what he has seen in the media or if he has just grown up and he has never really gotten to the point where he is unashamed of his masculinity.

Unashamed to be a male.

Unashamed to be a man.

He has never gotten to that point where he can just live it, breathe it, and it just emanates from him.

I am not talking about acting.

I am not talking about walking around acting like you are the man, because that is an act.

Instead, men who have untamed energy do not even have to try.

Women can just sense it.

That okay, that guy is authentically masculine.

He is real.

He is unashamed of being a male.

It is just written all over his body language.

How he reacts to things.

How he looks at her when she looks at him.

How he talks to her.

How he behaves, and so on.

Women can sense it.

It is so magnetically attractive to women because it takes so much confidence and so much of a lack of shame of your masculinity to have that untamed energy.

When you have what I call untamed energy, you are magnetically attractive to women.

You just stand out so much that women do literally look at you again and again.

They will often stare.

For some guys, it might be difficult for them to understand how something like that could happen.

But the next time you are in a shopping mall, pay attention to the guys who seem tamed by the reality around them.

What they have been exposed to.

Versus the guys who are not tamed.

You will notice that they seem much more ballsy.

Even though they are not doing anything wrong.

They are not hurting anyone.

They just have that masculine presence about them.

They have that manliness about them.

Guys can have that when they are in their teens, in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond.

It is not something that only a 40-year-old man can have and so on.

For someone like myself, I do have that.

It causes women to check me out.

For some guys, that might seem difficult to understand.

How could women be checking out someone like me?

Ginger beard.

I do not have the sort of looks that women find very attractive.

I am 5’9” in terms of height.

Why would young, attractive women—say 21 to 25—be looking at me?

Not only looking at me, but at times smiling with their mouth or smiling with their eyes in terms of a flirtatious look.

This is something that my woman notices all the time.

It is something that happens all the time because it is magnetically attractive.

It is very difficult for women to come across a man who has untamed energy and is not ashamed of his masculinity.

When you interact with a woman who is earning more than you—If you then become tamed by that and you feel like, "Well, I am not much of a man then because she is earning more than me"—Then you have already lost.

She will see that written all over your body language.

She will sense it in your energy.

She will pick it up based on what you are saying.

She will not feel respect and attraction for you as a result.

She will realize that you are intimidated by it.

But if you can just understand, for example, with the example of a woman making more than you—

If you come across a woman like that, if she is earning extra numbers—That has nothing to do with her being a man.

She is a woman.

You are the man.

When a woman comes across a man who is the man no matter what—She respects him.

She feels attracted to him.

So do yourself a favor.

If you have been clicking on those negative, toxic videos from young, naive people—Or even older men who are naive and still have not figured it out—They may have gone through a divorce and be quite bitter about it.

They get online and they just say negative things about women.

They end up influencing younger men into thinking that all women are bad.

That every woman is out to get them.

That women are going to destroy their life and it is just all bad, all negative.

If you have been watching those sorts of videos, do yourself a favor and stop clicking on them.

Start clicking on videos from channels with men who are successful with women and are actually making you more confident.

Helping you get to the result that you want to get to.

Even some channels from women who are making you feel more confident.

You have to be careful with some of the channels from women, though.

I won't name any names.

There are some channels where a woman will be making videos with dating advice for men.

Then she will start talking about how men need to wear cologne to attract women.

Because that is her sponsor or something.

Or they need to invest a lot of money into fashion and then they will be attractive to women.

Because that is her sponsor.

She has not really thought about the consequences of how that is then going to affect a man’s confidence.

If he starts interacting with a woman that he finds attractive and he is not wearing the best clothes or he is not wearing cologne, he may then think, "Well, that woman on YouTube or TikTok told me that I need to be wearing great fashion and I need to be wearing cologne in order to be attractive to women."

"But I am wearing a t-shirt and track pants or sweatpants and I got my kicks on and they are not really the best, so yeah, I really should not try to shoot my shot here."

Meanwhile, guys who just focus on making the woman feel attracted to their non-physical traits, just get on with shooting their shot and they get a result.

The reason why they get a result is that most women are way easier to attract and get with than they make themselves out to be.

If you ask women what they want, they will usually say all these things.

But then if a guy walks over and talks to her and makes her feel attracted and he is confident enough to shoot his shot—

He will usually get a result.

The way that it works is that if a woman is interacting with a guy who is confident and maybe he is using some humor or flirting, then she notices that his shoes are not that good—In pretty much every case, she is not going to not get with him because of his shoes.

If she is interacting with a guy who is making her feel attracted and she really likes him and she does not like his shoes, the way that a woman thinks is that, "When I start dating him, I am going to get him to get better shoes."

Great, let's go shopping.

"Give me some recommendations on shoes. Oh yeah, these are pretty cool. Alright, I like these."

The guy then wears them.

No big deal.

He is in a relationship.

He is having sex with her.

Rather than a guy interacting with a woman that he finds attractive and thinking, "Well, I do not have my best shoes on today."

"Oh, these pants, this shirt, my hair, I haven't been going to the gym lately. I have lost a lot of muscle."

"Alright, I have seen those videos on TikTok and YouTube. You have got to be ripped. I mean, women want Chad. Women only want the top 10% of men."

"So I shouldn't even shoot my shot."

Meanwhile, in another location, a guy who does not pay attention to that sort of stuff—

Just has confidence, untamed energy, and is able to flirt with women or use some humor to make them feel attracted—

You name it.

All these non-physical traits that you can display—

He has that and he just shoots his shot.

The woman goes along with it.

She happily goes along with it because she is attracted to him.

She wants to be with him.

While having a great sense of fashion can be attractive on a confident man, it does not look the same on an insecure man.

An insecure man can have 500 shirts and 500 different pairs of pants.

But if he is insecure when interacting with a woman that he finds attractive, then she is going to struggle to feel a spark with him.

She is not going to get into a relationship with a pair of pants or a shirt.

Instead, it is about how he makes her feel.

If she notices that he is insecure, doubting himself, and does not feel like he is worthy of a woman like her—

Then she is going to feel turned off by that, even if he is wearing a nice cologne.

She may think, "Oh, his cologne smells good," but she is just not feeling that spark.

As the interaction or date ends with yet another rejection for him or being placed in the friend zone or then ghosted, it can lead some guys to think that maybe it is true about women only wanting the top 20% of men.

Yet, the misconstrued myth about women only wanting the top 20% of men is based on dating app data, where the majority of the users are men.

In other words, the small percentage of women who are using dating apps have a huge supply and have so many options to the point where they become very picky.

But the reality is, when you actually look into the numbers, the majority of people are not using dating apps.

As I said, the majority of the small percentage of people who are using dating apps are actually men, not women.

So I hope this video has helped you understand that the dating crisis they talk about out there is mostly built on lies.

It gets perpetuated and fueled by these naive influencers who do not really know what they are talking about.

They are just quoting random statistics and saying, "Well, that means, you know, top 20% of men, they are the only ones who are really eligible. So all the other guys, they do not really have a chance, man. Just give up, man."

"Top 20%—are you in the top? Are you in the top 5%? You are not worthy, man."

Meanwhile, other guys just get on with it.

They talk to a woman that they find attractive.

They shoot their shot.

Next thing you know, he is kissing her.

He is in a relationship with her.

No problem.

If you are a confident guy watching this and you are able to make women feel attracted, then get on with it.

Just start talking to women that you find attractive and move things forward.

But if you are a guy who lacks confidence around women that you find attractive and you want to have the confidence to talk to women that you find attractive, then the confidence to shoot your shot, check out my Attraction Mastery video lesson series.

The guys who are watching the lessons and using the techniques are getting results like this.

If you watch the video, for example the first one, and you start to use the confidence mindset—

Well, you do not even have to talk to women to get a result.

Simply by using this mindset, you will feel so much better about yourself.

You will feel so much more confident.

You will realize that women are actually feeling more attracted to you.

You will see it.

This is what guys see all the time.

I also give them the techniques to make women feel attracted to them when they are interacting with them.

So they can build on the woman’s attraction and then shoot their shot and get these sorts of results.

If you are interested in ending your era of being overlooked by women or being rejected by women.

If you you want to enter a new era of your life right now, where women start feeling sexually and romantically attracted to you, then check out my Attraction Mastery video lesson series.

That way, you're not wasting your time, energy and money on dating apps, where women usually won't even see you (because you're being filtered out) and they have so many options that they are way too picky.

The way to get a woman is to talk to her in person and if you need a friend to go out meeting women with, then plenty of guys from my Master Attraction Community (MAC) are ready to meet up with you and get results.

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