Cheerleaders Expose Secrets of Sexual Attraction (SHOCKING!)
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
Cheerleaders expose something about attraction that society and frankly, most people are not willing to admit.
So, have you ever noticed that in some male sports, there are female cheerleaders and everyone is totally cool with that?
Beautiful women full of energy are cheering for the male athletes on the field.
It feels natural.
Everyone loves to see it.
But have you ever noticed that with women's sports, no one is calling for men to come on and start cheering in skimpy outfits?
No one wants to see that.
Even just saying that makes most men cringe, where it's like, you know, men in skimpy outfits?
What the—?
No one wants to see it and women aren't calling for it.
Why?
Why aren't women saying, "Hey, we want men in skimpy outfits showing their butt, showing their chest, and we need that at our games because that gives us motivation to succeed, to play better because we see the physically attractive men"?
Why aren't women calling for that?
Well, it's because there's a big difference between male and female attraction and cheerleading is a great example of how that plays out.
The thing is, men are cherished and adored for different things compared to women.
Everyone is able to look at women who are feminine and beautiful and full of energy and warmth and find them attractive and appealing.
Both men and women can look at them and say, "Wow, that is great."
But if you get a bunch of men being all smiley and wearing skimpy outfits and jumping around everywhere, pretty much everyone's going to go, "Hang on, what's going on here? Are those guys a bunch of homosexuals or something? What's happening out there?"
No one is looking to see men in skimpy outfits because men are cherished, adored, and respected by women for being emotionally strong, not for being pretty.
An example of being emotionally strong is having unwavering confidence and maintaining composure when being challenged.
This is very attractive to women because women instinctively know that they need to be able to rely on a man to be strong, rather than him hiding behind her when challenges come their way in life.
So, as you go through life, there are a lot of challenges that you'll need to overcome and jumping around and being pretty isn't the thing that passes those challenges.
Instead, a man needs to have unwavering confidence in himself and be able to overcome challenges while being as emotionally strong and composed as possible.
That's what women respect, cherish, and adore men for.
A woman wants to be able to see that she can rely on him to be an emotionally strong, confident man, so she can be the feminine, girly woman she really is and wants to be deep down, rather than her having to quote-unquote be the man in the relationship or be a mother figure for him and essentially protect him from the big bad world out there.
The thing is, society really can't talk about these sorts of things for a number of reasons.
One of the reasons is that with mainstream media, which has been the main source of media prior to YouTube and social media becoming a thing, mainstream media have had to make sure that they don't upset their advertisers and their audience.
They can't get on TV, for example, and say, "Hey, women need to put more effort into their physical appearance and focus on looking pretty because men rate physical attractiveness as the most important thing, but us women rate a man's confidence and emotional strength as the most attractive thing. We aren't looking to men to put in as much effort into their appearance as we women do. We essentially just want emotionally strong men. That's what's most important to us women."
Even though that's the reality and women feel attracted to emotionally strong men, to confident men, to assertive men, to men who have what I call emotional independence, to men who have purpose and ambition and so forth—even though women really find that attractive and they're instinctively wired to find that attractive and it has not changed—even though that's the reality, they can't get on TV and say that because people are going to get very upset.
They're going to say things like, "Hang on, you're objectifying women. Women are not sex objects for men to look at. How about men putting some effort into their appearance? Are you saying that men can just be fat lobs or not do anything and women are supposed to find them attractive? That's not right."
Essentially, people are going to get on their high horse about it, take it out of context, and get emotional about it.
Another reason why society won't really admit what has been happening with female cheerleaders and why no one wants to see men in skimpy outfits and so forth, is that women can't really tell the truth about what they find attractive.
Because if they do, they'll often be ridiculed for it.
They'll be shamed.
If a woman says, "I actually prefer a man who is a bit of a challenge in that he makes me feel the need to impress him rather than sucking up to me to hopefully get a chance.
I also like if a man is brave enough to laugh at me and not take me seriously if I'm being a pain in the butt.
I respect that"—if she says something like that, then people around her are going to be saying, "Hey, you need to respect yourself more girl. Don't let men treat you like that. Men should be treating you like a princess" and all those sorts of things.
Which is why women have to say things like, "Oh, I just want a nice guy."
She'll say that but then she goes for a guy who doesn't treat her extra nicely.
Instead, he might actually be a bit of a bad boy, or he might be a good guy who challenges her and makes her feel like she needs to impress him.
She can't go around saying that, "Yeah, I like a guy who makes me feel like I need to impress him."
She can't say that.
Everyone's going to be at her for that.
"Hey, what are you saying? Like...he should be impressing you!"
So that's another reason why these sorts of things can't really be discussed by quote-unquote society.
Another reason is that most men don't actually understand how to make women feel attracted, and they just listen to what women say and think that that's the answer.
Because they don't understand that women can't tell the truth about what they really find attractive.
So a guy will hear women say, "Oh a guy has to be very good-looking to be with her," or "A guy's got to have a six-pack," or "A guy has to become her friend first, talk to her for a long time before he eventually then makes a move."
But then the woman gets with a guy who doesn't have a six-pack, who doesn't work out, and who had sex with her on the first date.
She's not going to go around saying that because people will ridicule her.
They'll look down on her for doing that.
But the reality is that most women are way easier to attract and pick up than they make themselves out to be.
They can't go around saying that they're easy.
But in reality, most women are very easy if a guy just has the confidence to shoot his shot after displaying emotionally attractive traits.
So, for example, interacting with her, being confident, using some flirting, or using what I call playfully challenging humor, or being authentic, being assertive, and so forth.
If he's able to display two or three traits that are emotionally attractive, five, six, or if he's able to display ten, then the woman is going to be feeling very attracted to him.
At that point, all he needs to do is shoot his shot by asking her out, or moving in for a kiss, or initiating a hug.
In almost all cases, the woman will happily go along with it because she's feeling attracted to him too.
Some guys will think, "Well hang on, what if he's not that good-looking? Then it's not going to work."
They're forgetting what I started out this video with.
It's always been female cheerleaders in skimpy outfits and men like to look at that.
Most women, apart from the crazy ones these days who say that it's sexually objectifying the woman and so forth, most women are cool with that.
They like it.
They appreciate it.
It's part of the game.
It's part of the atmosphere.
It's all part of the dynamic.
Fantastic.
Yet women don't need to see men doing that sort of thing.
Because generally speaking, women feel attracted to men in a completely different way and for completely different reasons.
A recent study proved this, by the way.
This is something that I've been saying for many years, but a recent study proved that when a woman looks at your face, she will find you more handsome if you seem to have the personality traits that she and other women find attractive in men.
Here are some quotes from the study:
"Consistent with the positive relationship between confidence judgment and attractiveness"—and they mean facial attractiveness—"several masculine traits were perceived as positive, including confidence and independence, whereas several feminine traits were perceived as negative, including vulnerability and submissiveness."
Another quote:
"While some stereotypically masculine traits, such as confidence and assertiveness, and facial appearances suggestive of such traits"—so faces that actually look confident and assertive—"are considered desirable, women view other masculine traits, for example aggressiveness in the face, as undesirable."
So it's not about being a macho, aggressive sort of man.
Instead, women want to be able to see that a man has some confidence and assertiveness about him, rather than him being a submissive, weak, vulnerable sort of man.
Finally:
"In particular, judgments of confidence were positively correlated with facial attractiveness."
Essentially, when a woman looks at your face, they actually finds you more or less attractive depending on the traits and behaviors you are displaying.
Women are literally looking to see whether or not you're an emotionally strong man, and that directly influences how handsome they think your face is—how physically attractive they find you.
What was I saying earlier in the video?
Men are cherished for traits that essentially show that the man is emotionally strong.
He has that resolve.
He has the capability and the competence.
He's someone that a woman can look up to and respect.
She can rely on him not to break and fall apart and be a sensitive, wimpy guy who can't handle anything in life.
He's a man she can rely on to be strong.
Because she doesn't want to be like a man.
She wants to be the feminine, girly one.
She wants to be able to be pretty, be feminine, be warm, be loving, and so forth.
But she can't do that continually around a man who isn't emotionally strong.
What happens is that if a woman who is feminine and girly is around a guy who is emotionally weak, she'll begin to lose touch with that side of herself around the guy and become cold rather than being warm.
Another example to help you understand the difference between male and female attraction is the Miss Universe contest.
There have always been female beauty pageants, and they have had some token male beauty pageants, but it hasn't really been something that people are interested in.
It's not something that people are really interested in to this day.
Then there was the Mr Universe contest, which gained a lot of popularity when the steroids came along and there were guys like Arnold Schwarzenegger really building great physiques.
They did a great job.
But as you may notice if you look at the photo, most of the people in the audience are men.
So women aren't flocking to those shows saying, "Wow, I want to be with a man like that."
Even though as a man you can look at that man and say, "Wow, that's impressive man. Well done. That's taken a lot of work and dedication from the man. Amazing job. Well done."
But women aren't saying, "Oh my God, I want to be with that man because he just has an amazing physique."
They're not doing it.
That doesn't mean that women don't feel attracted to muscles.
If a guy has a normal average sort of muscular physique, where he is in shape, then that is attractive to women.
However, it doesn't mean that a man has to have that in order to be attractive to women.
That sort of physique definitely does make women feel attracted.
But a man can attract women without that sort of physique.
He doesn't have to actually work out and have a muscular body in order to be attractive to women.
A man can work out and build a muscular body and that will be attractive to women.
But the reality is that women can feel attracted to men for reasons other than physical appearance, such as the man being confident or charming or assertive or funny, or he has what I call untamed energy—which most guys don't have these days.
Most guys are very tame around women.
Essentially, any attractive traits that don't have anything to do with your physical appearance literally make you look more physically attractive to women.
They literally look at you as being more handsome if you actually have the personality traits and behaviors that women are looking for.
It's important that you understand this as a man.
Otherwise, you might always lack confidence around women that you find attractive because you feel so attracted to them, but they don't seem to be responding to you in the same kind of way.
You may think to yourself, "She wouldn't be able to feel attracted to a guy like me."
Yet in so many cases, she can and will if you're able to trigger what is known in psychology as responsive desire.
So spontaneous desire—which decades of research has proven that approximately 75% of men experience and only 15% of women experience—is when you feel turned on for no particular reason.
For example, you suddenly feel the urge to masturbate or have sex.
Part of the reason for that, is that men have a higher level of testosterone than women.
Women have a low level of testosterone, but on and around when they're going to ovulate, where they're ready to be impregnated, they get a temporary boost in testosterone which makes them feel hornier.
Additionally, when women are on testosterone treatment, they suddenly start to masturbate more and feel more desire to have sex.
But in terms of responsive desire, which the absolute majority of women experience, that is when you really only start to feel turned on after something happens, such as kissing, sexual touching, or flirting.
So here's a quote from one of the studies:
"Women's sexual desire is commonly triggered rather than spontaneous. Data from women aged 20 to 70 years showed that women report triggers of sexual desire in the domains of emotional bonding, romance, and physical proximity."
So what that means is that the woman is interacting with the man and the man is doing something to make her feel turned on.
He's flirting with her.
Or in terms of romance, that can also include kissing and touching and so forth.
Physical proximity can be that they're just around each other and the man is flirting with her.
He's making her feel turned on.
For almost all women apart from those who experience spontaneous desire, they don't suddenly have the urge to have sex unless a guy actually does something to cause responsive desire inside of her.
Additionally, another angle to this from a female psychiatrist with three decades of experience on the topic is that women, at the outset of sexual activity, do not need to have sexual desire like a man does—as in, drive.
And many women do not distinguish their desire from arousal.
So what that means is that a woman doesn't actually have to have spontaneous desire and just want to have sex in the moment because she just decides it herself.
Instead, she can actually be turned on and then enjoy the sex, even though she had no sexual desire, no spontaneous desire, and no sexual drive.
The man essentially made her feel turned on and switched her from off mode to on mode.
What a lot of guys don't understand is that, essentially, most women go through life in off mode, where they are not actively trying to have sex.
However, most men are in on mode where they experience spontaneous desire.
They get erections and they feel the need to ejaculate multiple times per week.
That's not a man being a bad man.
Instead, there is physical pressure on a man's testicles if he doesn't actually ejaculate.
So men feel a need to have sex.
Whereas most women don't feel physical pressure and pain if they don't have sex, and they don't feel the same type of need as men, even though, if the man interacted with her and turned her on, she would happily have sex and really enjoy it.
So the thing is, there are women who have spontaneous desire and just want sex for the sake of it.
They just feel the desire and they want to have sex and the man doesn't even need to turn her on.
She just feels the desire, she wants it, and she will initiate.
But the majority of women don't go around chasing sex.
Instead, those women will feel attracted and aroused and they will enjoy kissing and having sex with a man, but in almost all cases the man needs to know how to turn that switch on inside of her.
Otherwise, she will rarely, if ever, have pontaneous desire and want to kiss and have sex just based on a man being a male and looking good.
Instead, a woman can be turned on and want to kiss, have sex, get into and stay in a committed relationship with a man who knows how to make her feel desire.
He causes that responsive desire inside of her.
That doesn't mean a man has to put in lots of effort or always be putting on a show for a woman and always trying to make her feel desire.
Instead, a man needs to understand that there are certain traits and behaviors that he will display that make a woman feel sexually attracted and turned on, and others that will make her feel turned off and not want sex.
For example, if a guy is confident, then a woman is going to feel attracted.
But if a guy is insecure, then she's not going to feel attracted.
Likewise, if a guy is assertive, a woman is going to feel attracted.
If a guy is passive, she's not going to feel attracted.
So, for example, rather than being passive about what you want from life or from her, you go after it.
You assert yourself in the moment and you make things happen, rather than just hoping that they happen.
Or in the case of your success with women, if you're single, for example, waiting for women to approach you, lead you, or make moves on you.
The same applies in a relationship.
A man will often wait for a woman to be more assertive when she actually gets turned on by assertiveness.
She's waiting for him to be assertive.
That doesn't mean she'll never initiate any sex.
But he needs to get the ball rolling.
He needs to create that desire and that arousal in their relationship because she's not the same as a man.
She's not feeling the spontaneous desire that he feels or the pressure that he feels to ejaculate and clear out the built-up semen.
Another trait that is going to make a woman feel responsive desire and therefore want a man sexually is if he flirts with her.
This works for women who have spontaneous desire or responsive desire, but particularly if a woman has responsive desire and a man shows no sexual interest and is just talking to her in a neutral way or nice way, then she's not going to feel sexually turned on and want to have sex with him because he's a man.
She's not going to feel that.
The man actually needs to know how to flirt with her.
And the thing is, flirting is something that some men know how to do, and those men enjoy easy success with women because they literally turn women on based on how they're interacting with the woman.
It's not a hard thing to do.
It's not hard work.
It's not difficult.
Instead, rather than being neutral, you actually flirt with the woman.
Or rather than creating a neutral vibe, you create a sexual vibe between you and the woman.
It doesn't need to be obvious.
It's not lewd or anything like that.
In almost all cases, flirting and creating a sexual vibe is very discreet.
It's very subtle.
It's important to understand that most women will hardly ever feel like having sex out of the blue, and that's a good thing in terms of keeping relationships together.
Because if women were a lot more like men, then people would be getting it on so much easier and relationships wouldn't be able to stay together.
So it's sort of like nature's safeguard there to ensure that the couple stays together.
Yet when a man meets a woman for the first time, he needs to know how to make her feel attracted.
How to turn that switch on inside of her.
How to cause that responsive desire.
Otherwise, she just won't feel it.
She'll just interact with him and it will feel like a friendly, neutral interaction.
And she won't want to have sex with him.
Yet when he's able to display traits and behaviors that make her feel sexually aroused and want him sexually, then she switches on.
And she's excited.
Because the absolute majority of men that she has met in her life do not know how to do that.
When you're a man who knows how to make women feel attracted, to feel that responsive desire, the floodgates open.
The world's your oyster in terms of women when you're single.
And when in a relationship, your woman always feels attracted to you.
She always wants you.
Bringing it back to cheerleaders now, which is what we started out with; it's no accident that women have been cheering men on all this time.
Women are naturally inclined to cheer on a man who is emotionally strong and isn't afraid to go after what he wants.
This is one of the many reasons why women are attracted to men who have emotional strength, who aren't afraid to be assertive, who aren't afraid to go after what they want.
That applies when you're single and in a relationship.
There are literally traits that women are looking for in you that, when they see them, they naturally feel attracted to you.
And if you have the type of confidence and emotional masculinity that women look for in men, they naturally feel like they want to cheer you on and be your cheerleader in life.
They want to be your woman.
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