An Uncomfortable Secret That Makes Women Want You Sexually

If you met an attractive woman right now and you wanted to have sex with her or have her as your girlfriend, what do you think the best approach would be?

For most guys, they are going to be thinking that they should make her feel comfortable because that is how you get a woman to like you.

They believe that if she is uncomfortable, she is going to feel awkward around them and the interaction is not going to feel good.

But the reality is that not all uncomfortable emotions feel bad.

Sometimes you will be in an uncomfortable situation or feeling a bit uncomfortable and it will be exciting.

When you are doing something that is outside of your comfort zone, that can feel uncomfortable, but it can also feel exciting at the same time.

When it comes to attraction, something most men never realize their entire life is that attraction thrives on tension, not comfort.

Women automatically add in some tension into the dynamic between themselves and a man by being more selective about sex and not chasing it.

The Science of Why Attraction Needs Tension

It might feel a bit uncomfortable for the man that he does not know for sure if the woman wants to have sex with him, but that creates tension between him and her.

Most guys would prefer that women just say they want to have a relationship or have sex right away because they like it to be nice and easy.

But because women are typically much more selective, it creates that exciting tension, even if it feels a bit uncomfortable for some guys.

The area in a man's brain dedicated to sexual pursuit is 2.5 times larger compared to a woman's brain.

It is not a man's fault that he wants to get to sex more than a woman does, but because women are not chasing in the same way, it creates that necessary friction.

Attraction thrives on tension, and if everything is just too comfortable and easy, the amount of desire that a man and a woman feel for each other will decrease.

If there is no tension and it is just all comfortable and neutral, then attraction and sexual desire will eventually die out.

What happens for a lot of guys is that they will interact with women and want to do what is comfortable for them, which is just to get along and be nice.

But if he were to add in some tension, she would start to feel it and she would start to look at him in a different way.

Using Silence to Build Sexual Tension

A man creating tension between himself and a woman involves making her feel a bit uncomfortable in a good way rather than just trying to make her feel safe.

For example, when a man is talking to a woman he finds attractive, he will often make the mistake of filling every silence with small talk.

He rushes to say something because he does not want her to feel uneasy or feel that there is an awkward silence.

He worries that if he does not rush to speak, she is not going to like him because of how uncomfortable he is making her feel.

Whereas, a guy who understands that attraction thrives on tension will allow small silences to exist and maintain eye contact.

If they are at a cafe together on a first date and there is a silence, he might let it exist and just have a sip of his coffee while looking at her.

She is feeling that tension now, and she is feeling a bit uncomfortable, but it is not in a bad way because she is sensing his power.

She is sensing that he is not afraid of her and he is not intimidated by her presence.

He has secure masculinity and does not feel like he needs to suppress it or be really soft and reassuring just to make her feel comfortable.

She enjoys that attractive uncomfortable feeling where she senses he is comfortable with his masculinity, and therefore, she feels more feminine and attracted.

Moving From Neutral Friend to Sexual Interest

If a guy focuses on making a woman feel comfortable around him rather than feeling tension, he does not get it.

He will want to avoid showing any sexual interest because he worries that it will be too forward and make her feel uncomfortable.

But a guy who understands the uncomfortable secret will be able to show subtle signs of sexual interest based on how he is looking at her and his tone of voice.

It creates that discrete sexual tension between him and her where she realizes that it is on between them.

It is not just a neutral, friendly conversation or a professional interaction; instead, there is something else going on.

That sexual tension building between him and her is what is necessary in order to get to a kiss, sex, and into a relationship.

If a guy does not create sexual tension and tries to move in for a kiss, she may reluctantly kiss him, but she is not going to be feeling very turned on.

It is actually going to be uncomfortable for her in a bad way because they have just been talking in a friendly or neutral way.

But when a guy creates tension and she is feeling that desire, it is a discrete understanding between them that they find each other sexually attractive.

Then when he moves in for a kiss, she gets those butterflies in her stomach because the tension has been building.

The Results of Masculine Confidence

Some guys in my community have kissed women within a couple of minutes of meeting them because they use the mindset that I teach.

If you use it right, it creates tension between you and the woman because she senses that you are not afraid of her or intimidated by her.

She senses that you seem more confident than her, and as a result, she starts to feel uncomfortable in a good way.

Women want to be with a guy who is at least as confident as them, but ideally more confident than them.

One member used this mindset with a sexy Persian woman who was 20 years younger than him and now he has so many women in his life he has to be careful with their names.

When you are seeing a lot of women, you might forget something one said, and for most women, that actually creates some tension.

She realizes that she is not the only woman who has the opportunity to win your heart and win you over.

It may be a bit uncomfortable for her, but it can also be exciting for her to try to win over the guy that other girls are trying to lock down.

Not all uncomfortable feelings are bad uncomfortable feelings that a woman never wants to experience.

If a guy thinks the way to get a woman is to just make her feel comfortable, he may stand back and not get too close.

Breaking the Comfort Barrier

A guy who understands that attraction thrives on tension is not going to be afraid to get a bit closer to her at times.

If they sit on a sofa together, a guy who just wants her to feel comfortable may sit back and maintain a safe distance.

But a guy who understands tension will not be worried about sitting closer to her to the point where their hips are touching.

He may bump against her with his shoulder when she says something funny or when she seems a bit nervous around him.

Rather than thinking he needs to get back and make her feel comfortable, he understands that his presence is what is triggering her attraction.

If she senses that he is afraid of tension, she will usually end up just seeing him as a friend.

When he eventually attempts to move in for a kiss, she will pull back and say that she just sees him as a friend.

He will be confused because they were getting along, but he was just making her feel comfortable, which does not skyrocket attraction.

You can be making a woman feel comfortable as she interacts with you, but you must also add in that tension.

If it is just comfort, then it is a bit of a yawn fest and essentially a friend-zone situation.

But when you add in tension where she is feeling a bit uncomfortable in a good way, that is when she starts looking at you in a different way.

When you can add in the kind of tension that makes a woman feel a bit uncomfortable in a good way, you realize that you are in control now.

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