7 Ways to Turn Her On Without Touching Her
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
There are 100s of ways to make a woman feel turned on by you without actually touching her.
In this video, I'm going to give you 7 of those.
If you want to learn 124 traits that attract women sexually and romantically, check out Attraction Mastery (it includes 100s of examples of what to say and do).
The following ways to turn a woman on without touch, are things that you can do when you're single or in a relationship.
They are also things that most guys are either afraid to do or they're simply unaware that they're allowed to do and that it causes attraction, so they don't do it.
Instead, they just stick to being nice or neutral when they're talking to a woman or just try to get along with her and they hope that something happens.
If those guys just made a simple shift and did one of these things—not even all of them, just one—they would notice that the woman reacts completely differently to them.
Her eyes start to light up.
She starts to become more interested.
She starts to feel turned on.
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Speak like you expect her attention
Many guys talk to a woman in a way where they're expecting that she's going to lose interest in talking to them, or that she's going to lose attention.
At the extreme end, the guy doesn't even feel worthy of her attention.
He's lucky that she's actually talking to him.
As a result, the woman picks up on emotional weakness.
Women aren't turned on by emotional weakness.
They're turned on by emotional strength.
So when you speak to a woman like you expect her attention, she senses that.
You may have experienced that before when talking to a very confident or masculine man where he just expects that you're going to listen to him.
It's not done in an overly aggressive way.
It's not done in a way where he's upset and sensitive like, "If you don't listen to me I'm going to get angry."
Instead, he just talks in a way where he expects that you're going to listen to him.
He expects that you're going to respect him.
So when you're talking to a woman and she gets a sense that you speak in a way where you expect her to listen, she feels turned on by that.
It takes a lot of emotional strength, a lot of confidence, a lot of belief in yourself, a lot of acceptance of your masculinity.
Rather than feeling shame about your masculinity, shame about being a man, thinking you're not allowed to be a man, you're not allowed to be strong, you got to be passive and soft, more like women.
Or you just got to be really nice and just hopefully if you're nice enough the woman's going to give you a chance.
Women aren't attracted to that.
They're not attracted to weakness.
They're also not attracted to that confusion in men—that sort of wide-eyed confusion, that deer-in-the-headlights sort of look.
They're not attracted to confusion.
They're attracted to a man who believes in himself.
So much so that when he talks to her, he expects her to listen.
He expects that she's going to pay attention to him, rather than hoping that she pays attention to him or worrying that she might lose interest or thinking, "Man I'm going to have to do a lot to hopefully keep this girl interested in me."
When you truly are confident in yourself, when you believe in yourself, when you accept your masculinity and embrace it, you're able to talk to a woman in a way where she's not the same as you.
You're a man, she's a woman.
She wants to feel like a woman in comparison to you.
She doesn't want to feel like you and her are the same.
If you make her feel like you and her are the same, you end up in the friend zone.
Unless she's going to like you for some other reason—for example, a guy is very good-looking and maybe she's not that attractive physically and she likes him anyway.
But if you're talking to a woman that is attractive and you want to be able to attract her, then she doesn't want just a friend zone type of feeling where you and her are just getting along.
She wants you to be able to make her feel turned on.
One of the ways that you can do that is to speak like you expect her attention.
That causes her to feel feminine and girly in comparison to your masculine strength.
It causes her to respect you because of how confident you are.
It causes her to look at you as a man—the man.
This guy is a man.
She feels that and that's a turn-on for her.
It's important to point out here that we don't look for that type of emotional strength and toughness from a woman.
We don't feel turned on if she expects us to listen and expects our attention.
"Oh she's so strong and emotionally tough, wow I'm turned on now."
It's not like that for most men.
They're going to be more attracted to a woman when she's delicate and soft and feminine.
Many men make the mistake of thinking that they have to be the same way when interacting with a woman because she's so soft and delicate.
"Oh I need to be soft and delicate too because she might get startled if I'm a bit confident or masculine. I better just be really nice and soft because she seems kind of delicate and innocent."
No.
She doesn't want to feel like you and her are the same.
She wants to feel your masculinity.
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Hold eye contact just a second longer than usual
When you make eye contact with a woman—and this applies when you're single or in a relationship—just remember to try and hold it one second longer than you normally would.
You'll notice that there is a completely different feeling happening between you and her.
You'll notice differences in her reactions.
She may smile more.
She may dip her head in a submissive type of way.
She may begin to flirt with you.
She may begin to look at you in a way that shows that she's interested.
Because you're able to hold that moment just a little bit longer.
When you hold that moment just a little bit longer and she then looks away, she realizes that you're not intimidated by her.
You're not insecure.
You're not afraid.
You're not a wimpy guy.
You're not a passive guy.
You're not a submissive guy.
All these unattractive traits—she starts to realize—are not coming from you.
Instead, attractive traits are coming from you, being displayed by you.
She senses your confidence.
She senses your presence.
She senses that you're not ashamed to be a man.
You're not ashamed to make a woman feel girly in comparison to your masculinity.
You don't think that it's wrong.
You don't think, "You can't make women feel girly, you've just got to make them feel the same as you."
Men and women are the same.
Wrong.
Men and women are not the same.
You most likely know that and accept that.
But do you honestly make women feel girly when you're interacting with them?
Or when you're interacting with women, do you make them feel like you and them are the same?
You're just equals.
She's no more masculine or feminine compared to you.
You and her are just basically the same.
We're getting along here.
Do you honestly make women feel like that?
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Make your attention more valuable
When a woman interacts with a guy who wants to have sex with her, it's usually very easy for her to maintain his attention.
He wants to show her that he's being attentive.
He's interested.
He's basically coming at her and she can sense that.
She can pick up on that.
She's been noticing it ever since she became a woman.
When a guy wants to have sex with her, wants to get with her or have a relationship with her, he's essentially coming at her with his energy and his attention is fixed on her.
He's hoping that something happens.
One of the reasons men do that is they don't really know what else to do.
They're attracted to the woman, they're interested in her.
What else should he be doing?
How is he going to make her feel turned on by making his attention more valuable?
He doesn't think of those sorts of things.
If he does, he may think that if he makes his attention more valuable to her, where he's not just giving it 100% of the time, then she may think that he's arrogant or rude and then he's not going to get a chance with her.
Yet what she's experiencing from her side—which he's probably never thought about before—is that he is just coming at her.
As a result, she's sort of having to back up energetically.
It's her who is in the position of, "Okay, am I going to give this guy a chance or not?"
She's backing away from that.
There's nothing to cause her to feel like she wants to be drawn to him.
She wants to get more of his attention.
She wants to hopefully win him over.
She wants to hopefully get intimate with him.
It's instead him just coming at her and her backing up.
It's not about playing mind games with a woman.
It's about giving her a chance to be coming at you.
Where she wants something to happen between you and her, rather than her backing up.
When you're interacting with a woman—whether you're single or in a relationship—just pull back occasionally when you're talking to her.
That's mostly about your energy and how you're talking to her.
But it can also be physical.
You just calm down a little bit and sit back in the chair.
Just rest back in the chair a little bit rather than being so keen and forward and trying to hopefully make something happen.
Understand that she wants to be able to feel like she needs to come at you.
She needs to present herself more.
She needs to show more interest.
She needs to come forward energetically in order to make something happen between you and her.
In the process of her doing that, she realizes that she likes you.
She's feeling drawn to you.
That starts to turn her on.
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When she's attracted to you, confidently look at her lips then back at her eyes
You may have heard this tip in another video somewhere else before, but there's a missing piece of information that other videos just don't provide you with.
If you look at a woman's eyes, then down to her lips and back up to her eyes again when she's not attracted to you, it doesn't work.
She's not feeling attracted to you.
When you're looking at her in the eyes and then looking at her lips, it's not something that she feels like she wants to welcome because she's not feeling attracted to you.
If the guy is insecure and nervous when he's doing it, it's going to really turn the woman off.
She may even feel creeped out by it.
It's not something that a guy should do if he hasn't made a woman feel attracted first or if he's not capable of doing it with a lot of confidence and unashamed masculinity.
That is what makes her feel attracted.
Making a woman feel attracted is as simple as displaying traits that women are naturally attracted to.
Confidence, emotional masculinity, presence, assertiveness, flirting, humor, social intelligence, emotional intelligence—the list goes on.
There are all sorts of non-physical traits that you can display that trigger attraction inside of a woman and she literally starts to feel sparks of attraction for you.
She's feeling those sparks of attraction.
She's feeling curious about you.
You then have the confidence to look at her in the eyes, down at her lips and then back up to her eyes again.
Because it takes a lot of confidence and balls to be able to look at a woman in that way—eyes to lips and back up—she also feels attracted to you because of that.
The fact that you have the confidence and balls to do that.
As a result, she realizes that you're not intimidated by her.
You're a masculine, confident man.
You're not ashamed of your masculinity or afraid of it.
You're not afraid to turn women on.
You're comfortable with turning women on in subtle, discreet ways.
It causes a private sexual connection between you and the woman.
She realizes that she's feeling attracted to you.
Because women are so perceptive about these sorts of things, she notices that you're looking at her eyes, then down to her lips, then back up to her eyes again.
She notices it.
A lot of men miss those sorts of cues, but women are very perceptive about them when interacting with a man.
When she notices that you've done that and she's feeling attracted to you—you have to make her feel attracted first—she starts to imagine kissing you and having sex with you.
Because you're a man that she feels attracted to.
When she starts imagining kissing you and having sex with you, she starts to feel turned on.
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Give her a direct compliment in a manly way
Say for example you're talking to a woman and she's wearing a silk dress that is hugging her figure and she looks quite sexy in it.
You're looking at her and you're feeling very attracted to her.
What sort of compliment can you give her that is direct and manly that is going to make her feel turned on?
I'm not talking about a very sexual compliment.
You can do that if you have a lot more confidence and you're used to interacting with women and making them feel attracted.
You can say things about how sexy she looks and what you want to do to her and so forth.
How about a more normal type of compliment?
Just a direct compliment in a manly type of way.
Where most guys go wrong in a situation like this is that they stick to nice, sweet compliments.
Telling her that she looks nice in the dress.
Asking her where she got the dress from and telling her that she has a great sense of fashion.
A great sense of style.
Just being really nice and trying to get along with her.
A way to turn her on with a compliment is to give her a direct compliment in a manly way.
You're unashamed.
You're not trying to get anything from her by giving her the compliment.
You're not afraid to say it.
You're not acting macho.
You're just very matter-of-fact.
You also say it in a way that makes her want to get even more attention from you and make you feel more attracted to her.
It can be as simple as saying something like this:
"You look good in that."
What makes her feel turned on by that type of direct manly compliment is that she feels like she's under the spotlight of your masculine attention.
It's not the same as saying something like:
"Oh you look good in that?"
She's not under the spotlight of your attention.
She notices that you're afraid.
She notices that you're intimidated.
It's completely different than saying something like:
"You look good in that."
With the subtle differences there, she feels your confidence.
She feels your presence.
She feels and senses that you're unashamed of being a man.
As a result, she feels feminine and girly in comparison to your masculinity.
One of the easiest ways to turn women on is to stop trying to just be the same as them or treat them as though they're the same as you.
Because they're not.
A woman wants to feel like a woman in comparison to you.
She wants to feel feminine and girly in comparison to your masculine being.
You're not the same as her.
You don't have to behave in the same way that she does.
You don't have to be ashamed of your masculinity.
You don't have to be ashamed of your attraction for women.
Women don't want you to be ashamed of it.
It's often one of the reasons why a woman will get with a bad boy even though she knows that he's no good for her.
He seems like a bad guy or a guy who probably won't commit to her and she won't be able to make a relationship work with him.
But he's just not ashamed of his masculinity.
He's not behaving like other guys who are just neutral around her.
Trying to be friends.
Trying to be nice.
Or worse, looking up to her and being intimidated by her.
Hoping that if they just play their cards right and be as nice as possible, she'll look down at them and feel sorry for them and give them a chance.
She doesn't want to feel that.
She doesn't want to feel that type of dynamic.
She wants to be able to see that you're not afraid of her.
You don't need to be a bad boy or a bad person to do that.
When you're not afraid of women, they will see you as having some of that bad boy quality that attracts them so much.
They realize that you're not afraid.
You're not intimidated.
As a result, they feel more feminine, girly, delicate, soft, vulnerable in comparison to you.
That makes them feel turned on.
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Interrupt her playfully if she's being dramatic
If a woman is ranting on about something and being overly dramatic, which women will sometimes do, they'll get into a bit of a mood or get taken over by emotions and want to express how they feel.
They'll be going on and on about something that really isn't that big of a problem.
They're just being dramatic because women like to live in that emotional state at times.
They like to just get lost in the emotions, express their emotions, say what they're feeling and be a bit dramatic about it.
What's not going to turn her on is if a guy is always just listening and listening.
Or if he feels a bit awkward about the fact that she's being dramatic.
Or if he feels like he needs to be dramatic and be like her.
Start saying "Yeah I know." and "Oh my god." and start being more like a woman.
Just expressing emotions for 20 or 30 minutes about something trivial and getting lost in it.
Essentially feeling like one of her girlfriends to her.
She's not feeling that polarity.
She's not feeling the difference between his masculinity and her femininity.
They feel kind of like the same.
A man who's going to make her feel turned on in a moment like that is sometimes going to be able to say what I'm about to say now.
I say sometimes because you don't always have to say this sort of thing to a woman.
But it's an example of you having the courage and awareness that women do want to feel girly around you.
They do want to feel your unashamed masculinity.
They want to feel like you're not intimidated by them.
They also know that they are often being a little bit silly and being overly dramatic about things that don't really matter.
A woman will often be dramatic and emotional about something that 5 minutes later she won't care about.
If you want to talk to her about it, she won't even really be focused on it or remember it.
She'll say, "I don't care, I don't know, I was just saying something, I can't remember."
She was just being emotional in the moment.
Sometimes a woman is being emotional and it's serious, and you can tell when someone is seriously emotional and troubled.
In cases like that it's good to be supportive and listen.
Rather than saying what I'm about to say now, which is something you can say if she's being dramatic and you can see she's just being silly.
She's ranting on and on about something, getting very emotional, and just going on and on about it.
You can sense that.
Then you say something like:
"All right relax girl, you'll be fine, you'll live."
She then sees that you have the confidence to playfully interrupt her in a moment like that.
You also have the social intelligence to understand that women aren't always being serious when they're being dramatic like that.
It's not something that a man needs to sit there and listen to and just be like, "Oh okay, oh okay, and what else, and what happened next, oh wow."
Just always following along with what she's talking about in moments where she doesn't even really care.
If she notices that a guy just follows along with her random rants and dramatic behavior, then she realizes that he's following her.
He has no idea that women aren't always serious about everything they talk about.
Instead he's thinking, "Well I just need to be on my best behavior here. I need to listen to everything she's talking about. I need to show that I'm interested otherwise she's not going to be interested in me."
He's basically under the woman's control and she doesn't like that.
When you can playfully interrupt a woman in the moment, that's masculine control.
That turns her on.
You're not under her control all of the time thinking that you just have to follow along with what she's saying.
There's nothing wrong with listening to what a woman is saying and even following along with what she wants to talk about if you want to do that.
The problem is when a guy is following along because he doesn't know what else to do.
He thinks he needs to keep following along with a woman otherwise she's going to think that he's not interested or she's not going to be interested in him.
What turns a woman on is when you're in control of yourself.
As a result, you can then say something like:
"All right girl, relax, you'll be fine, you'll live."
She then realizes that you're not under her control.
That turns her on.
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Smile like you've seen it before
When you're interacting with a woman, she will often test to see how confident you really are.
She may playfully tease you, try to throw you off, make you feel like you're losing her interest, or play hard to get.
She might even seem a little bratty or difficult just to see how you're going to react.
For most guys, they are thrown off by that.
They will either feel insecure and feel like they're losing their chance, or they'll get frustrated and get annoyed that she's doing that.
Some guys will try even harder to hopefully impress her and get her to be interested in them.
What turns her on is when you can smile like you've seen it before.
You've seen all that behavior from women before and it doesn't throw you off.
That makes her feel feminine and girly in comparison to your masculine presence and masculine strength.
She realizes that she can't just throw you off and topple you over with a tease or by playing hard to get.
A man who has experience with attractive feminine women knows that they're not all just nice and soft and delicate all the time.
Many times a guy will want to get with a woman who's really shy and innocent and delicate because he thinks that she's always going to be like that.
But then he gets into a relationship with her and she runs rings around him.
She walks all over him.
She ends up being quite difficult and bratty and makes him feel insecure.
He ends up chasing her attention and attraction and interest.
She doesn't end up being that soft delicate innocent girl that he first met.
If that same shy delicate woman was with a man who wasn't intimidated by her and understood how to handle women, she would remain being soft and delicate and feminine, loving and giving in the relationship.
To make any woman respect you, feel attracted to you, feel turned on by you, love you, want to be with you and want to stay with you, you really do need to understand how to attract women and how to handle their behavior.
They're not always going to be the same in terms of their behavior and you need to have genuine confidence and a true understanding of what really attracts women and why they behave in the ways that they behave.
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You don't have to leave it to chance and hope that a beautiful feminine woman will go easy on you when you meet her and then go easy on you in a relationship.
That's usually not going to happen.
Sometimes a guy will get a chance with a woman who's pretty and feminine, but she will then walk all over him in the relationship or she'll lose attraction for him and he'll end up getting dumped.
He's back at square one.
When you understand how to attract women properly and understand how to handle their behavior in a way that works out to be a win-win for you and her, then the woman respects you.
She feels attracted to you, she loves you, she wants to be with you, she wants to stay with you, and you get this area of your life handled.
You're no longer living in fear, hoping that a woman is not going to reject you or leave you.
You're the sort of man that instantly makes women feel attracted.
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