6 Signs a Woman Likes You, But is Hiding it
By Dan Bacon, founder of Master Attraction
When a woman really likes you, she will often hide it and she will not make it really obvious and say, “Hey, I really like you. Do you want to start dating?”
She is worried you might reject her.
So if she puts herself out there and makes it really obvious that she likes you, she is worried that you might then say, “Hey, I've changed my mind. I'm not that interested.”
Even though that is highly unlikely, she is still worried that you might say it.
Alternatively, she worries that you may behave like another type of guy who, when a woman shows interest, does not pursue because he feels like he has conquered her.
“Yeah, this girl likes me. I'm the man. I don't really need to do anything. If I feel like dating her, I'll get around to it at some point. But I'm busy at the moment.”
A woman can worry about those sorts of things.
Number two, it can also be a test of your interest in her.
She wants to see if you're going to continue to pursue her even if she is not making it 100% obvious that she likes you.
Number three, it is a test of your confidence level.
She wants to see if you're confident enough to pursue her even if she is not making it obvious that she really likes you.
At this point, some guys may be thinking, “Damn, girls are so complicated. Why don't they just say, 'Hey, I like you. Let's start dating?'”
Something interesting to point out here is that men often do the same thing with women.
When a man really likes a woman, he does not always just go over to her and say, “Hey, I like you. Do you want to start dating?”
Instead, he will show some of the signs in this video that he likes her, but it will be subtle and he will be hiding it.
He will be worried that if he puts himself out there and says, “I like you,” she may reject him.
So there is often a kind of a standoff between the man and the woman.
Who is going to be the one who puts themselves forward and says, “Hey, I like you,” or says, “Hey, let's catch up sometime,” or says, “Hey, can I get your number,” or who is going to move in and initiate a kiss?
If you watch movies and TV shows, it is pretty much always the woman who does that.
They show a sweet moment or a built-up moment and then the woman moves in for the kiss.
She moves in and kisses him.
He's just so innocent and clueless, and you know what? She's just going to kiss him because of that.
She'll just grab him and kiss him. That's the way it works, right? She's going to take control.
If guys see this enough on TV shows and movies, they can end up thinking, “Well, that is the way modern women are. I mean, I've seen it a lot. I mean, women just are different these days.”
Yet that is how it works in TV and in movies because it is something that is dramatic.
It is a shocking moment. The woman kisses the man first.
Wow, there's so much passion. She just can't stop herself from doing it.
It is starting to look normal, isn't it?
This is the way it is, right? Women kiss men first, right?
Rarely.
In 99% of cases, it's still the man who will have to kiss the woman first.
However, you will notice the fantasy scenario in TV shows and movies from now on (where the woman can't help herself and just starts kissing the man first), if you haven't noticed it in the past.
But in the real world, women almost always wait for the man to make a move.
If he does not, then she does not jump all over him and start making a move.
The reason why she does not jump all over him and start making a move is, as I said, she is either afraid of rejection or she is testing your interest level or she is testing your confidence level.
She wants to see if you're man enough to be with her.
You do not need her to be “man enough” to be with you.
She can be a soft, delicate, innocent woman and it's no problem.
She wants to see that you're man enough to be with her.
That you have the confidence to make a move and, in many cases, that you actually have the interest level to make a move.
Okay, so now that that is out of the way and you understand the psychology of why a woman may hide her interest in you even though she really likes you, let's get into some signs that she likes you but is hiding it.
1. She finds excuses to keep the conversation going.
Even if she is trying to play it cool and not show too much interest, if you notice that she keeps finding ways to extend the conversation with you—whether it's asking more questions or commenting on random things—it’s a clear sign of interest.
If she didn’t like you, she would almost certainly not be trying to keep the conversation going.
2. Her eyes give her away.
When a woman really does like you, it will be difficult for her to control what her eyes are doing.
She may try to play it cool, but you’ll notice it in how she looks at you.
For example, if she holds eye contact longer than usual and you can feel that moment where normally a woman would look away, but she just keeps looking at you.
Or you look away, or you’re doing something, and she’s sneaking glances at you.
Or you're across the room and you notice that she's looking at you.
She’s doing that because she does feel attracted to you.
She does feel drawn to you.
She’s not looking at you because she just wants to randomly stare at you for no reason every day.
For example, if you see her every day, or if you’re in a bar or at a party, a woman is usually not just going to keep randomly staring at you and looking for no reason.
She is feeling drawn to you, so you can see that as a sign of interest.
If you turn her way and she looks away, then she’s trying to hide it.
But she can’t really control what is going on inside of her—and that is, she feels drawn to you.
She does like you.
3. She lingers after the interaction should be over.
You feel that moment where the interaction really should be over, but she’s lingering around and wants to interact with you more.
She doesn’t want the interaction to be over, but she also doesn’t want to say, “Hey, I want us to keep interacting so something can happen.”
It may even seem a little bit awkward that she’s just lingering around and not walking away.
If you notice that a woman is doing that, you have to look at it as a sign of her interest.
Do not wait for her to say to you, “Hey, by the way, the reason I’m standing here and I’m not walking away is that I really like you. Can you believe me on that? Can you be confident enough to keep the conversation going with me now? Can you make a move and get my phone number, or move in and kiss me, or arrange a date, or text me?”
She can’t go ahead and say those sorts of things for the reasons I talked about.
Another reason as well is that women know that most guys, if given the chance, would have sex with her once, twice, or maybe for a few months if she opens up to it.
Women know that it’s not a good move for them to be really obvious and tell a guy that they really like him and want something to happen.
They’ll often come across guys who don’t really like them, but the guy will go along with it because she seems keen.
He’s like, “Alright, I’ll have sex with her, why not,” and she then may start to fall for him and he has no plan, no intention of ever staying with her.
She’s going to be feeling a lot of emotional pain as a result of being rejected in a relationship and so on.
That doesn’t mean that every woman wants to make sure she gets a long-term, committed relationship if she’s going to get with a guy.
But women will usually try to avoid getting involved with guys who don’t really like them, because that’s just going to be a waste of her time and he’s most likely not going to treat her as well as he would a woman that he does really like.
She’s not really going to have the best experience.
It’s usually much better for most women to hope that the guy picks up on the subtle signals and he really does like her enough to continue moving it forward.
Then they get into a relationship, or if she doesn’t want a relationship, they get into a casual sex relationship—but they both really like each other.
It’s a much better feeling.
If it’s going to be a long-term relationship or a marriage, it’s going to be much better for the woman and the man if the man really does like her.
If he really does find her attractive, it’s going to be much better in the long run.
Another sign that she likes you but is hiding it.
4. She asks personal questions and seems genuinely curious.
The thing is, you can be talking to a woman who doesn’t like you in a sexual or romantic way and she can ask you personal questions.
But that doesn’t mean that, “Oh, she asked me a personal question, so therefore she wants to have sex or a relationship with me.”
Instead, if the woman is asking you personal questions and she seems genuinely curious about finding out the answer, then she has an interest in you.
A mistake that a lot of guys make when women start asking those sorts of questions and seem genuinely curious is they’ll suddenly come across in a way where they’re excited that a woman is actually asking them these sorts of things.
They’ll just start unloading, telling her everything and feeling like, “Okay, she’s asking me and she’s interested, so this girl really likes me. I don’t have to worry about trying to make her feel attracted. I’m just going to tell her everything and we’re going to get along. She’s going to see how interesting I am, we’re going to have lots of things in common potentially, and then we’re going to get together.”
What can happen at that point is the guy can end up getting into a friend zone type of conversation with her.
He forgets to create sexual tension between him and her by flirting with her or playfully challenging her.
Playfully challenging a woman as you’re talking to her at times—you don’t have to do it all the time—reminds her that she’s the girl in the interaction.
It ensures she doesn’t feel like she’s just talking to a friend or a coworker or a brother or a cousin or something like that.
She’s talking to a man that she is going to have a sexual or romantic relationship with, or just have sex with.
It’s a completely different dynamic.
So if a woman asks you a personal question such as, “So what do you like to do when you’re not working?” and seems genuinely curious about you, it’s fine to sometimes just answer that question in a normal way and tell her what you like to do when you’re not working.
But if she’s asking you a number of personal questions and you just keep answering them all as though you’re being asked questions by a woman that you find attractive who is finally showing a lot of interest in you, then she’s going to start to realize, “Oh, right. You don’t normally get that attention from women that you find attractive, and you’re actually quite excited now. It’s something unusual for you that a woman who is attractive is actually interested in you.”
Additionally, by just telling her everything and answering all of her questions, it takes the mystery out of getting to know you.
You’re basically just unloading everything and then it can come across to the woman as though, “Hey, I’m going to give you everything here and hopefully you approve of me now. Hopefully you like me because I’m telling you all these things about myself that you should like, so hopefully that results in you liking me and then we get to have sex and then we get to have a relationship.”
Women are very good at picking up on that.
That’s why guys need to be aware that when they’re talking to a woman, they shouldn’t be talking to her as though they’re talking to a friend or a coworker or a sister or a cousin or someone that they don’t have a sexual interest in.
Instead, they need to be talking to her as a woman that they have a sexual interest in.
They need to be able to remind her at times that she is the girl in the interaction.
It’s not a neutral 50/50 interaction.
For example, if she asks, “So what do you like to do when you’re not working?” you can say something like:
“Wouldn’t you love to know? What do I get if I tell you?”
Or:
“Depends—are you asking me out?”
Or:
“Why? You looking for ideas for our first date?”
Essentially, you're just challenging her a little bit in the moment in a playful way, and she then remembers, “Oh right—this is a male-female interaction here.”
It’s a man-woman interaction.
It’s not just a neutral interaction where there’s no sexual polarity.
There’s masculine and feminine energy involved.
When you're interacting with a woman, you do need to create that sexual polarity between you and her.
But you don't need to do it all the time.
Playfully challenging her is not the only way you can do it.
You can do it by being assertive in the moment, or by having what I call untamed energy, or by displaying what I call emotional masculinity, or by displaying what I call masculine charm.
There are so many different ways that you can do it.
Another one is what I call loving dominance.
That doesn’t mean being a very dominant man or anything like that.
Essentially, you're just taking on your traditional role as a man of being the more masculine one, being the more “dominant” one in the interaction.
It’s done from a place of love.
It’s not done from a place of, “Right, I need to dominate this woman to prove to her that I’m the man.”
Okay, so the next sign that she likes you but is hiding it is:
5. Her tone of voice changes when she talks to you.
You may have heard that if a woman likes you and she’s feeling attracted to you, her voice pitch will change to a higher pitch to be more feminine.
She gets rid of the deeper, bassier tones.
She’ll talk in a higher-pitched voice to really accentuate her femininity and help create that sexual polarity between you and her.
But it’s not just about her voice going higher-pitched.
It’s also her softening her tone around you.
She becomes warmer, softer and more loving when she's talking to you.
That can be a sign that she likes you but is hiding it.
The reality is that women often speak more softly or warmly to men they’re interested in—even if they don’t realize it.
It just happens automatically.
It’s an involuntary sign of attraction.
And in terms of the higher-pitched voice, if she becomes more girly in how she’s saying things and seems a little bit more playful in her tonality, that’s a sign of attraction.
It just happens automatically.
Whereas in most cases, when a woman isn’t feeling attracted to a guy, she’s not going to be doing that.
She’s going to talk to him in a kind of flat way.
She’s not going to be trying to accentuate her femininity.
Some women may do that at times if they’re just messing with a guy—they aren’t interested in him, but they’re being more attractive in the moment.
So what you need to look out for are clusters of signals, rather than just looking at a specific signal and saying, “Oh, her voice went higher-pitched, so therefore she likes me.”
No—look at multiple signals at once.
If you’re seeing multiple signals at once, then it’s a sure sign that, okay, this woman is feeling attracted to you.
She does like you.
Before I give you the final sign on the list, I’ll point out that if you do struggle to make women feel attracted and you don’t really know what to say or do to make women want you when you're interacting with them, I recommend that you head over to MasterAttraction.com.
At Master Attraction, I teach you all of the traits that make women want you sexually and romantically.
You will learn hundreds of examples of what to say in different situations—displaying the different traits—so you will always have something to say or do to make a woman feel attracted to you.
You won’t lose your opportunities with women who like you.
You won’t just end up having a boring, neutral type of interaction where the woman isn’t feeling attracted and nothing happens.
You will easily make her feel so attracted to you that she wants something to happen.
So when you actually shoot your shot, she happily goes along with it.
She wants you.
You want her.
It’s all good.
Okay, so the final sign that a woman likes you but she’s hiding it is that...
6. She playfully challenges you or teases you.
So even if she’s trying to play it cool and act like she’s not that interested, light teasing or challenging you is often a subtle way that women flirt and test how you respond.
So if she playfully teases you in the moment and you are able to laugh along with that rather than taking it personally and getting all sensitive and awkward about it, if you’re able to just playfully tease her back or laugh along with it and have a good time with her, then she sees that—alright—we can actually get along in that boyfriend-girlfriend type of way.
And it’s not just a dynamic between you and her where you feel more like friends.
There is that spark there.
Additionally, when a woman goes to the effort of playfully challenging you or playfully teasing you in the moment, she is often trying to create more sparks, more excitement, or more sexual polarity between you and her.
She’s giving you the opportunity to playfully tease her back and make her feel like a girl in comparison to your masculine energy.
So she’s putting that out there and she’s hoping that when she does it, it creates more sparks between you and her.
So the chances of you and her getting together sexually and romantically increase.
They go through the roof because both you and her are feeling sparks.
There’s an exciting, fun dynamic between you and her.
It’s not just flat and boring and neutral where you’re talking about, “Oh, what do you do for a living?” or “Where did you grow up?” and “Do you have brothers and sisters?” and “What are your future dreams?” and so forth.
She can have that conversation with anyone.
But what she wants to be able to experience is a dynamic where the guy is able to make her go into her feminine and feel a bit girly around him.
Rather than her just having to be in a neutral energy all the time or get into her masculine, where she has to be serious and logical all the time.
But the thing is, a woman can be serious and logical.
You can have a serious conversation with a woman, a logical conversation, a philosophical conversation, an intellectual conversation.
But she also wants to be able to feel girly around you at times.
So there is that sexual polarity between you and her.
There’s that masculine and feminine.
And finally, a tip to help you make sure that you get results when you’re in a situation like that with a girl who does like you, but she may be hiding it a bit, is to always remember that at the end of the day, it’s very simple.
All you have to do is display attractive traits and shoot your shot.
That’s what guys who are naturally good with women do all over the world.
All they do is display traits that are actually attractive to women and therefore the woman feels attracted.
She is feeling it.
She’s feeling the attraction.
She’s interested.
And all he then has to do is shoot his shot.
And that may be asking for her phone number or suggesting that they catch up and hang out or go for a drink, get a coffee, get a bite to eat or something like that.
Or it may be him initiating a kiss or suggesting that they go hang out at his place and then they start kissing on the sofa, they hook up, they get into a relationship.
Essentially, all you have to do is display some traits that make her feel attracted.
And if you do that, she will feel attracted and therefore she will be interested.
She wants something to happen.
And if you then shoot your shot, in almost all cases, you’re going to get the result.
She wants you.
You want her.
It’s all good.
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