5 Instant Turn Offs For Women You Must Avoid

Throughout your life, you will have come across women who were looking at you in a sexual and romantic way.

But if you then displayed one of the following traits, it is something that will shut a woman's attraction down.

Although the following things really aren't important to men, they're critically important to women in terms of their attraction.

Here are the specific traits that kill attraction:

1. He Can't Handle Silence in Conversation

A man is interacting with a woman and he can't handle silence.

So, they're talking and the conversation dries up. He may see this as an awkward silence, but she's not seeing it that way.

When there is a silence between her and a man that she finds attractive, that can be something that builds sexual and emotional tension.

It can feel like an enjoyable tension for the woman depending on how the guy handles it.

However, if he starts to feel uncomfortable and tries to quickly fill the silence with nervous chatter, she gets a bad sense about him.

She realizes that he doesn't actually believe in himself and his value to her.

• He's worried about seeming boring.

• He's worried about her losing interest.

• He thinks he needs to put on a "song and a dance" to be impressive.

From a guy's perspective, if a woman fills the silence, he thinks it's great because it shows she is keen.

Yet, it doesn't work the other way around. Women do not want to open themselves up to a guy who doesn't feel like he's good enough.

The Concept of "Trading Down"

If he doesn't feel like he's good enough, it makes her feel like she would almost be doing him a favor by getting with him.

It implies he may not be able to attract other women and he's hoping that she's going to go easy on him and take pity on him.

That makes her feel like she's trading down.

Women don't want to feel like they are trading down socially.

Feeling like she is "trading up" doesn't mean the guy has to be rich or famous.

Instead, it's a feeling that this guy actually feels like he's good enough (or more than good enough), without being arrogant.

2. He Seems Nervous After A Compliment

In this scenario, she gives him a clear sign of interest, such as a compliment or a flirtatious look.

But from his perspective, he's not used to getting that type of attention from attractive women.

So he starts feeling unsure of himself:

• "Does she really like me?"

• "Is she tooling me?"

• "Is she just messing with me?"

As a result of these insecure thoughts, his body language becomes nervous.

She then starts to feel like maybe she's making a mistake.

If he doesn't seem like the sort of guy who gets this attention often, she starts to doubt her own attraction to him.

3. He Tries Too Hard To Prove Himself

Rather than just enjoying the interaction with her, he starts over-explaining his achievements or good qualities.

She picks up on the fact that he doesn't feel like he's good enough as he is, and that kills her attraction for him.

4. He Is Too Eager To Please

If she notices that you seem a bit too eager to please her, it raises red flags.

This includes:

• Being very agreeable and agreeing with everything she says.

• Not being willing to tease her or playfully mess with her.

• Softening your energy to seem innocent or harmless.

If she senses that you're desperate to please, she wonders why you don't have more belief in yourself.

She wonders if other women don't find you attractive or if she is missing something negative about you.

5. His Confidence Drops When She Tests Him

She playfully challenges him or teases him, and he seems defensive, nervous, or unsure of himself.

Most men don't test a woman's confidence because it's not important to them; men are mostly focused on visual attraction.

However, women place immense importance on non-physical traits, specifically confidence.

When she tests his confidence—perhaps by pretending to lose interest—and notices that his confidence drops, she realizes he doesn't believe in himself.

Ideally, women want a guy who is more confident than them.

If he isn't at least as confident as her, she naturally loses interest.

The Importance of Emotional Strength

It is important to her that she's able to look up to you and respect you because of your confidence.

She does not want to look down on a guy because he isn't as confident as her.

She doesn't want to feel like she needs to protect him because he's a bit soft or weak.

Even if the guy is physically strong or tall, if he lacks confidence, she feels he is emotionally weak.

She feels he doesn't have the emotional strength that comes with real confidence.

The Consequence of Insecurity

You may have been talking to a woman in a bar or on a date and everything seemed to be going well, but suddenly she lost interest.

It wasn't just a test; it was something you said or did that made her realize you are insecure.

If she gets into a relationship with an insecure guy, it causes problems:

• She may need to constantly reassure you.

• You may become jealous or overprotective.

• You may be insecure about your masculinity.

Insecurity About Masculinity

Sometimes a woman comes across a guy who is insecure about his masculinity.

He is embarrassed about being manly and tones it down to seem harmless.

She realizes that this would be an awkward relationship.

She thinks about introducing him to her family. If her father or brothers are quite masculine and start picking on him, and he can't handle it, she won't feel proud of him.

She wants a man she can respect, who can hold his own and isn't going to be picked on by others.

How To Fix This

It is not difficult to give a woman the right feeling.

You simply need to understand what attracts women and what turns them off. Don't display the behaviors that turn women off.

Once you are able to do this, it becomes automatic.

If you're interested in learning about this in detail, including examples of what to say and do, I recommend you watch my Attraction Mastery video lesson series.

The guys applying these techniques are getting results—kissing women right away and getting into relationships with women they choose.

All you have to do is have the confidence to shoot your shot.